How do I have a normal relationship now?

Question

I never really had any serious relationships in my teen years. Then when I was 18 I (regrettably) had an affair with a much older, married man. It lasted 3 tiring years and its done now. And I'm wondering (although I'm not wanting one right now) if I will be able to have a 'normal' relationship with a guy now? At the moment I'm completely put off by guys because of him, but in the future I would like to be in long term relationship. Is this possible for me anymore? and if my future man asks me about my past lovers/boyfriends..how would I go about answering that, because the affair isn't something I want to brag about?

Answer 1

you will or wont depending on you.how quickly you want to heal and move on.i think even talking about it will help you move on faster.you will have to tell the guy you want to commit to but first make sure you can trust him with that.

Answer 2

If you're uncomforatable, don't talk about it. Just tell your future guy that you had a bad relationship in the past and that's where you want to keep it. I think once you find the right guy, you won't have any problems stemming from your past. Every relationship is different, every guy is different. Most guys would be okay if you tell them that its a long story, but it's over and you really don't want to re-hash it and think about it again. At least if they respect you they will!

Answer 3

It is possible to have a "normal relationship"at any time.
The past is the past,you can tell your future man that you had lovers/boyfriends in the past if you choose to do so,but you don't have to give all the details.

Answer 4

yes its possible for you to have normal relationships. just tell him you had a long relationship for 3 years that didn't work out because of some issues or you could be honest. your call.

Answer 5

Be yourself and it will happen