i dont know if ive posted about this yet...but my ex and i dated for almost two years...about 5 months ago, he decided he didnt want to be with me any more...we had broken up for two weeks previous to this time, i think it was like a month and a half that went by and he left me again...i know i shouldnt care, and that i should move on, but its like, hes sticking in my life for some reason. he wont talk to me for three weeks at a time, then bam, he unblocks me on msn and asks how im doing, or texts me randomly. when we first broke up, he talked to me alot more. i dont understand why he keeps me in his life, its been months, and he says he wont take me back. why the hell is he still keeping contact with me? he says we will never be able to hang out. so like, why? why keep doing this to me?
2007-06-05 02:31:40 · 16 answers · asked by creepout 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I've been through this exact thing... But, I only dated the guy for three months and my heart was broken for three YEARS because he'd keep coming back like that.
I finally realized that while he didn't want to be with me, he didn't want anybody else to be with me. He'd come around whenever he was lonely but, as soon as a girl paid some attention to him, it was like I was dead to him.
He'd say that he loved me and that dumping me was the biggest mistake of his life and he missed me SO much but, nothing ever came from it. I finally said, "If you love me so much, come find me & then I'll believe it." I really hoped he would but, of course he didn't and it's for the best.
Don't let somebody do that to you... Do yourself a favor and block HIM. Forget about him because he doesn't deserve you and you don't deserve what he's doing to you. Once he's forever out of your life, you'll find that it's so much easier to move on. He doesn't love you enough to be with you... You're either his backup or like I said before, he just doesn't want you to be with anybody else.
2007-06-05 02:38:40 · answer #1 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just ignore him and dont pick up his phone calls, dont respond to his txt or msn. He dosent care about your feelings and he keeps interrupting your life by popping in when he feels like. But it sounds like this is affecting you.
And if there was at least some reason as if he wanted you back or just wanted to hangout as friends if you were both in the same page, but you mentioned that's not the case.
Do whats best for you!
2007-06-05 03:29:07 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry this is going to be raw. This is a guys perspective. Your doing it to you self hun. He couldn't speak to you if you didn't let him. MSN? block him. Phone? don't answer it. etc.
He calls when he's bored, when he's lonly, when he's horny. Stop being a punching bag and realize that he's a putz and doesn't deserve you. Why would you even give a jack *** like tat another chance? You do it to yourself, and when you come to tat realization you can then move on. Time heals all wounds babe, no matter how deep. Go get another man, you can do better and you know it. Gluck
2007-06-05 02:38:55 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-26 00:33:26 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey sweetie,
sorry to hear bout your problim let me tell you iv been there almiost the exact same way!! breaking up is hard enough without all de confusion i was with my fiance 4 years and he just ended it out of the blue but kept ringing me up and textin me al;most evert day even though he didnt wanna be with me this carried on for a year he d somtimes even knock in to chat or take me out (getting my hopes up) then wouldnt call for weeks then de cycle would start again it was then one of his friends told me he didnt want to be with me but didnt want any one else to be wiyh me either :( sounds like your bf is playin games with your feelings which isnt fair my advise is free your self from this trap i know its hard as you probably still love him but its best in de long run delete his number delete him from msn dont answer his calls or texts and just keep yourself busy for a while it feels so empowering when its you saying no to his games and not him calling de shots :) you ll soon get over him and find someone way better i promise i did so you can too stay strong hunni XXXXXXXX
2007-06-05 02:46:59 · answer #5 · answered by liddy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well its called the traits of an ex...My ex did dat to me 2.My advice.Ignore him.If it doesnt kill u,it makes u stronger,rite?Listen to Linger.U cn pretty much fl connectd to it.He knows u'll always be around for him no matter hw bad he treatd u.So 4 once.Stop hanging around for him.Move on.U hv ur own lyf 2,right?Or if ure nt convince by our answers.Then just ask him up4rnt.See if he gt da guts 2 reason out
2007-06-05 02:46:02 · answer #6 · answered by ilani_huntress9 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is struggling with wanting to be single and yet still have you on the side, just in case. If you continue to allow him to have it both ways he will have no incentive to change. Don't let him have access to you. Make it difficult for him to feel he can just have you whenever he feels like it. Make him respect you more by not being available to him. He needs to know, he cannot have it both ways.
2007-06-05 02:53:08 · answer #7 · answered by pictureshygirl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He does it to keep you dangling in front of him for when he wants you. Dont allow him to leave you constantly hanging. This time block him on your messenger and leave him blocked. As long as you allow him to treat you this way he will and it makes you feel bad so stop letting him do this to you. Get over him and move on with your life and you will feel much better about yourself. Good luck and God bless
2007-06-05 02:35:43 · answer #8 · answered by sapphireblaze 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may be confused about his feelings for you,but since he says you can't hang out together and won't take you back,you need to break off all communication with him and tell him not to contact you again.
As long as you try to contact him or allow him to come back whenever he wants,it will continue.
2007-06-05 02:40:07 · answer #9 · answered by Ralph T 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is keeping you on ice. When there is no one else around or nothing better to do, you come in quite handy until he finds someone else to be with or hang with. It is time for YOU to block him COMPLETELY and FOREVER! You don't need or deserve this kind of drama that is for sure! Find yourself someone who wants to be with you all the time, not just when he feels bored or lonely!
2007-06-05 02:37:14 · answer #10 · answered by mrsmommaid 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋