I have a 12 year old son and about a year and a half ago I was letting him and his 7 year old brother visit with there father who lived with his girlfriend and his 15 year old son, His 15 year old son has major major problems and I told my kids father I will let you visit with the kids when your son has visitation with his mother because I dont trust the kid, Well apparently he lied and his 15 year old was around my kids and he didnt supervise, I just find out a year later from my 12 year old that his 15 year old half brother was doing some sexualy oral things to my son and making my son do the same. I am libid over this and my boys havent been around their father in over a year and he is threating visitation on me, The thing is I already have couseling set up for my son but what I want to know:
2007-06-05 02:22:45 · 14 answers · asked by shorty 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Can I press charges on my kids fathers 15 year old son for "molestation" or is it too late since it happened over a year ago, Im ready to hurt this kid for what he has done to my son and I dont want my children anywhere around their dad or his looser kid? What are me and my sons rights and what can I do about this legally? Like I said it happened a while back and my son just now brought this up to me. Thank you for your time
2007-06-05 02:24:47 · update #1
Thank you for the wondeful answers this is a very hard situation for me and my son, I honestly dont want their dad anywhere around my two boys, He should have been supervising these kids while they were in his care.
2007-06-05 02:38:14 · update #2
I'm sorry this happened to your son. First, that boy it's not just a looser, he is a molester, growing into a predator. He did a lot of damage to your sons.
I'll take both of your boys to a psychologist, have them tested and they can see who did what. And after that, with proof in my hand that they have been sexually abused (because you don't know what the 7 year old must have "seen", and that's abuse, not just when they "do"). With that, I'll go to a lawyer and he/she'll explain how to proceed so their father will have visitations with restrictions, not whenever and however he pleases, let alone when that young molester is around.
2007-06-05 02:31:57 · answer #1 · answered by familymoments 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
REPORT IT NOW!!!
I Am A Victim Of Family Sexual Abuse And My Mother Did NOTHING!!! Still To This Day (15 Years Later) She Denies That Anything Every Happened...
You Son Deserves Better Than That... He Deserves Someone To Stand Up For Him Since He Is Too Young To Do So... Protect Those Little Guys With All You've Got... Even If That Means Them Not Seeing Their Father... It's Partially His Fault It Happened In The First Place!!!
Good Luck :)
2007-06-05 09:53:25 · answer #2 · answered by Tink's Mommy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First I would like to say, I am deeply sorry for what you and your son are going thru. I would get a lawyer and see what the law says u can do. Just because he is a minor and that it was a year ago doesn't mean he should get away with it. I would also find out if you can get sole custody until this boy is removed from the household or your childrens father can see the kids at your house only. Find out if you can do that. I cannot believe that has happened to your family. I would be so upset. Hopefully your son will be able to move on from such a disgusting act from his half brother. I guess u had a gut instinct that this kid was a bad seed:) Good Luck.
2007-06-05 09:33:23 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this is in fact true you have to report this. I am not sure about the law(s) in your state & the time frame about sexual abuse.
There father as well as the mother & 15 year old boy should be held accountable. If no charges can be pressed you still need to tlet the authorities know about this situation before it happens to another child or if this 15 year old boys decide to take his actions further.
I would contact the local police & explain the situation to them. You should let them know how did you find out about this? Did you son say something? Let them know.
Also let your son know that it is not his fault & that he did not do anything wrong. I usually see 10 - 13 years old kids & they seem so grown up & talk alot.
It looks like you r son may be one of the good kids who is still a "kid" and not into the wordly things. I hope he is okay & stays strong & doesn't feel like hes to blame.
Hopefully things work out for you.
2007-06-05 09:32:46 · answer #4 · answered by pittpenguins71 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you can report it. It is not unusual for children to wait a long time before telling a parent about something like this, especially since most of the time they feel at fault. Yes, you can and SHOULD report it as soon as possible. First of all, it will show your son that he has done nothing wrong and that you will protect him at any cost. Secondly, the sooner you do it, the better it will look for you when an investigation is done. If you wait, it will look odd in the investigation. Thirdly, if you wait until your ex files for visitation, then it will look as if you are only doing it to keep him away from his kids. But, the most important is the first thing I said. You first priority is to protect your children at any cost. So, I would just call your local police station and find out what your first step should be. They will be able to walk you through the process. It will be a difficult one, so be prepared. But in the long run, it's the best thing to do. Plus, you will be essentially protecting other children from this boy. He is in dire need of help and you may be the only one to give it to him, especially since his own parents seem to be ignoring it.
2007-06-05 09:36:38 · answer #5 · answered by Rene 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can still report it. Do so immediately. Your son will be embarassed, he may recant what he said because of it, you need to be reassuring that nobody else will know about this, especially the kids at school. Do everything in your power to protect your children, that is your right. Hire a lawyer NOW and find out what type of immediate block on his visitation can be set and how soon. I would strangle that lil SOB in a heartbeat. I'm so so sorry for your son. Good on you for setting up counseling sessions. His counselor will also be a good person to have in court for the proceedings.
2007-06-05 10:25:35 · answer #6 · answered by Harley 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is NOT too late. Call the police and file a report. The 15 year old will get help, your son will know that you're their for him and their father's eye's will be opened. I think hiding it will do more harm than good for your son and whoever else this person attacks.
My brother was molested as a child and it was handled poorly. The boy that did it was sent away, but my brother was made to feel guilty by my grandmother (she found them). He is still dealing with issues related to this because of my grandmother's reaction.
Good Luck, I can't imagine how you're feeling right now.
2007-06-05 09:29:03 · answer #7 · answered by Em 2 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Courts will deny visitation rights if there is moral, physical or other danger to a minor.
It is better to talk this sort of thing over. Denying your children access to their father could generate problems in itself. If there is way that visitation could be supervised or done as a day visitation away from home, then it might ok.
On the other hand you have the responsibility to protect your children and reporting the matter to the police or taking court action to deny him visitation rights might be the only choice.
2007-06-05 09:34:27 · answer #8 · answered by flingebunt 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You know what is sickest about this, is that the "father" is doing NOTHING to ensure that this doesn't happen again. Why isn't he seeking help for the 15 year old???
Well, I don't know about pressing cahrges-you'd have to contact the local police in the father's area. What i do know is that you need to take steps to ensure that you are under no obligation to let your kids visit their dad until that 15 year old is removed from the home. You were unable to protect them once, do NOT let this happen again. It's you job.
Good luck- I hope this worls out for you and your family.
DN
2007-06-05 09:30:22 · answer #9 · answered by Dalice Nelson 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You should definitely check with your local authorities as states set their own statute of limitations on sexual abuse cases. From what I found, "There is a trend toward extending the statute of limitations in such cases because research has shown that victims typically develop psychological coping, or blocking, mechanisms which may cause them to suppress the abuse or prevent their understanding of the cause of their trauma." That may explain why it took your son so long to tell you what happened. Good luck.
2007-06-05 09:33:21 · answer #10 · answered by patty0317 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋