What is the Age of Responsibilty?

Question

Those who have watched my posts. See how I have questioned the anger, hatred, and vile temper. That has become so much a part of these sites. Those that answer my questions. Blame it on "Lack of Parenting".
There seems to be a great many children, on these sites. With the wrong image of what being an Adult is all about. There also seems to be (so-called) Adults. That show their insecurities. By feeling the need to put others down. In order to make themselves superior.

QUESTION:
Do you feel these forms of insults. Are the direct cause of lack of Parenting? And would you correct your child (no matter the age) If you found that they were stooping to this level?

Personal note: I was raised, respecting others. I have a great deal of trouble understanding how someone would feel it acceptable to act like this. And it's not doing anyone any good.
Looking the other way. Doesn't seem to cure the problem.

What's your opinion on what should be done?

EDIT-* I've noticed how, those that are most guilty of doing this? Hasn't once came on my questions. And defended their reasons for doing it. (?)
Is that another question, to be named later?

Answer 1

I commend you in your question, it is a hard one to answer and each has their own opinion. I will give mine, who knows it may help answer your question, it may not. What makes this question hard for me is that its not just one culpurate and you cant just blame one thing. Yes it all starts at home, parents should take the lead in what their kids are doing. You also have problems with how adults are portrayed in television. There is also the scope learned in schools and the lack of punishment. I mean a week suspension to a kid means a week of not doing anything. Depending on the parents this could be a very relaxed week or a very bad week. To also note, parents can also control what their kids watch on tv, although this becomes harder to do the older they get. But there is a saying that sais spank them today save their lives tommorow. Now to answer the direct question, being an adult and at the age of responsability is different for each person. Some people never grow up, as such they never become adults in a sense. Others it hits them at different times. Like for example a 13 year old parent may become an adult at 13, after getting hit with the responsability of having a child if they step up to the plate then thats being an adult. For those that dont have kids that may be after they get married. That may also be never at all. As to what should be done, just take an active role. Take care of your responsabilities as a parent for future generations. From my experience spanking works really well. My experience being on the spanked end of the deal. No trauma's here, there were 5 of us total, two of them are brokers making over 200k a year, another one is an editor and news reporter in the dominican republic, the youngest one is going to college studying english and should graduate soon, and I am a physicist. We all have our problems but we are human and compared to most at least we have a good footing in our lives with satisfying careers, loving and close family that gets in contact with each other at least once a week. Mainly its about learning respect and not putting the blame on everyone else, we are the masters of our own destiny.

Answer 2

I agree with you that there are far too many children on this site posing as adults. I am shocked and amazed at the amount of venom that has been directed to people that are simply looking for answers. I never answer a question unless I think my answer will be helpful and informative.
But is it lack of parenting or do the parents not know what their kids are doing online? Honestly I don't know. I can only say that my own child is not allowed on the computer unless I am in the room with her. She's only 5 but I still will not let her online by herself even when she gets older. I'm very concerned about parents who don't monitor their children's online activities because it violates their privacy! Heck, when I was a kid I didn't have ANY privacy, and I had to respect my parents and elders. Nowadays such notions are "quaint" but I am still going with the old-fashioned notions and will instill them in my own daughter.
I don't know how to fix the problem with other people's children unless you report each incident to Yahoo! Answers. The problem lies with the parents ultimately. In my opinion respect has to be taught from very early on in a child's life or they will never fully learn it. And I don't mean being abusive or punitive for every little offense. Even a young toddler can tell the difference between facial expressions and tone of voice.
It's sad, but I think the best option is just to ignore the disrespectful people and not stoop to their level.

Answer 3

The age of responsibility is whenever the child is mentally capable of understanding the difference between right and wrong . Unless there's a serious and documented learning problem due to solid medical reasons , then no child past the age of 6 or 7 should be excused from proper behavior . And personally , I think the age is even lower , but I gave room for possibilities that I do not understand . And it IS the parents fault , at least until the kids move out on their own . After that , they could change from well-adjusted to experimental in drug-use or other things and that could result in a complete change of behavior . And then it would be their fault and not the parents .
When I was a kid , all the parents on the block had all the other parents permission and gratitude to smack their kid if they saw them do something wrong . And then when our parents found out , we were smacked again . And then our parents would call the neighbor and apologize to them for us putting them in the position where they had to smack us !!
Nowadays , that parent is gonna come to your door with a gun , a cop , or a lawyer !!

Answer 4

The "age of responsibility" is at any age when the individual becomes aware of right, and wrong, and has the capacity to choose right, or wrong. At that point they become responsible for their actions, and decisions before God.

I do not think the behavior which you describe is from a lack of good parenting. Children love to shock people, especially Adults. And, yes I would "correct" any child of mine that I caught posting something inappropriate.

Abusive posters should be banned, and children shouldn't be allowed on Y/A !
Be Blessed in Christ Jesus !
Minister

Answer 5

The age of responsibility for children begins when YOU decide to have a child. You MUST raise that child with structure and boundaries...

I grew up in a VERY military household...my father was a Marine (god help me)...but as a result...I had to learn responsibility at a VERY YOUNG age.

Starting at about the age of 5....I was, as were my brothers and sister, given a list of chores which HAD to be done EVERY WEEK.

Even to this day....at almost 40 years old and living with my husband and son...if I do something stupid and my Mother finds out...I still get a clout to the head and her telling me I should know better.

Two days ago...Earnest against a question about a child becoming a terrorist...go check out my answer...it will explain EVERYTHING!

Answer 6

As to your original question, 18 by US law, 13 by Jewish law. In practice, for some people it is never. The abuse on this site is due in part to anonymity. People can bash without fear of consequences here. Most would not have the guts to do so face to face or even if their identities were known. Parents abdicating their responsibility is certainly a major factor. Mass media is another.

Answer 7

I agree that there is a lack of respect now. It apparently starts with the adults and trickles down through the children. It doesn't seem like anyone has respect for anyone else anymore. I think it's because the adults don't respect others and therefore they don't teach their children to respect others. I don't think there's a whole lot we can do about it except to teach our own children to treat people with respect. The golden rule: Do unto others as you would have others do unto you.

Answer 8

buzz you invite my over to your place to talk about this??? haha. buzz i got ppl at my job that are in there forty's and i still think they do stupid things. its not the kids fault buzz its the parents fault.. the parents nowadays baby their kids and treat them like their the most delicate thing in the world.. their not. kids are alot tougher than you think, they need to be seen and not heard, i hate it when i go to a resturant and the kids are making alot of noise, bothering the other diners.. its the parents fault.. these kids need a slap on their behinds and if they get worst a belt. my son when he was six told me that if i hit him he would call the cops and i told him that if he did something bad i was going to give him the phone to call the cops because i was going to beat his butt anyway and if the cops came for me i was going to give him to them because he woulded be my son anymore if i can't raise him .. he would be theres... so that put a stop to that. but most of this ppl worry about little johnny this and little johnny that..screw that parents have to be parents and not p*ssys.. thats why we have so many problems with the kids today because of the way they were raised. don't slap the kid.. slap the parents.

p.s this is a post that i put in a little while ago ..somewere along the same lines

Answer 9

I agree with you. I think we all have some idea of how adults are SUPPOSED to act, but the fact of the matter is that they are often really worse than children!

Answer 10

Do we ever become responsible? Isn't responsibility a relative term?

I find it irresponsible of many s to or ually assault young children.

I find it irresponsible of s who call American soldiers "terrorists".

I find it irresponsible of many grown women who walk into an abortion clinic to murder the precious life within her.

I find it irresponsible of many married men who walk into a strip bar to watch a woman dance in front of him.

I find it irresponsible to see two men engage in homosexual activity with each other.

Jesus once asked, "What is truth?" I ask, "What is responsibility?"