does sacrifice really exist in love or it's just a saying?

Question

my girlfriend loves me a lot but she doesn't wanna marry me till i walk without crutches cos iam handicap.she always says my family won't accept u till u'll be able to walk without 'em.the problem is when i try to walk without crutches i spend more time to get to work and move from a place to another:it takes me half an hour for 7 meters.inaddition to thati work almost of my time i can't find a free time to workout.i got one day off that's sunday but it's not sufficient to hit the bull's eyes and fulfil her dream.plz what's that? if i can't make it then she refuses.can we call it love? thanks my friends

Answer 1

its true

Answer 2

Wow, part of me says to leave her she doesn't love you enough and part of me says that maybe she just wants to try and inspire you to get better if you can.

What to do I am not sure but I will tell you my experience. I was in an accident 10 yrs ago which makes my life a little difficult and when I was pregnant it made the pregnancy a lot difficult. We didn't know that would happen until I was about 5 months along, would I do it again, yes....

My husband has a birth defect in his back and other than very limiting spine fusing surgery there isn't much that can be done. So we live with him in sever pain a few months out of every year and now that our son is older he can potentially cause Dad a lot of pain. Would he do it again, yes. Before we bacame pregnant (surprise) neither of us wanted anyone to have to deal with our problems but our little guy meant that we had to. We are better for it and real love means respect in yourself and others, pride in who your partner is and sacrifice. I can't wait wait line and have severe migraines when my injury isn't acting up so Dad has to take on extra child care. We sacrifice for each other and our son and thank God every day for our little miracle.

Show her the answers that you get and let her know that if she can't love all of you like you love all of her that you would both be better off finding a whole person. For her someone without physical limitations and for you someone who has grown up enough to know what is really important. Respect, love and loyalty.

Answer 3

If you need those crutches then you need them. That's the way it is. It is unfair for her to expect you to try to give up the crutches when she knows you need them. It doesn't sound like love to me. It sounds like she is just using you. If she loved you she would not expect you to walk without the crutches when she knows you r unable to. And if she claims her family won't accept you that's pretty bad. Leave her happy little you know what and find someone who will except you for you and the way you are. I would tell her she needs to go find some other sucker because she does not deserve you.

Answer 4

Trying to change your partner in a relationship is the BIGGEST no no their is as far as I am concerned. It always ends up a failure. I have a simply saying "If you cannot accept me for who and what I am right at this very moment in time then a relationship will never work". If she cannot do that then I am afraid to say that you are wasting your time. There are other women out there that will accept you as you are and expect you to change one bit... just so "her family can accept you". YOU as a person and human being are better than that.

Answer 5

If she can't accept you with your handicap and needing the crutches you really don't need her what will she do to you when you get older and can do less because of damage caused by her pushing you too far to do too much ? then she'll dump you for some guy at the gas station.

Answer 6

She should love you for you now, not who you might be with a little work. It's rediculous for her to think her family won't accept you. Who cares? All that matters is that she accept you. Not demand that you overcome your handicap. If she was encouraging you to workout and become stronger just for you, that would be one thing. It sounds like she's more embarassed than anything.

Don't let her give you altimatums like that.

Answer 7

Your girlfriend obviously loves you a lot. It sounds like she loves you so much she is prepared to put her own happiness aside for now in order to help you walk. Tough love it's called.

Sacrifice is a part of love, it's also about respecting them and having empathy.

Answer 8

she sounds pretty insensitive. would sound harsh but i dont think she really loves u. if she did she wouldnt care what her family or anyone else would say. she seems to be too uncomfortable with ur handicap and perhaps a bit ashamed?
ive learned one thing from my relationships; u cannot change a person. if u wanna be with them, u should accept them as they are, and if they decide to change themselves, its a bonus, not a necessesity

Answer 9

if your handicap was caused by a fatal accident and she knows about it, she should let her parent know that it could happen to anyone.if she truly love u she 'll make her parent accept u. pray to God for help so as to be able to walk at your own time not forcing yourself in other to please her.if she sticks to what her parent says then she dosen't love u.

Answer 10

she sounds mean. i wouldnt even stay with her if she says that her family wont accept u if u dont walk with crutches. she should love you even if u were on ur death bed if she really loved u. well hope i helped.

Answer 11

Now i don't know all your situation but that sounds a bit out of order, you love someone regardless of what anyone elce thinks.