my Fience has these friends who are getting married today. thye're complete jerks. they talk shite about me behind my back, AND to my Fience.
they are constantly putting me down, and acting like they are so much better than me.
they are spending money they don't have on their wedding, and than making fun of me when I get inexpensive stuff.
they make fun of me cuz my engagemtn ring is an alexandrite, and not a diamond (which, I specifically told my fience, I dont want a diamond)
so why do I have to go to this wedding?? I hate these people, they're jerks, but if I dont go they'll give me all this crap.....
how can I tell them, that Im not obligated to go to their wedding when they treat me like this??
and sorry if things are spelled badly, Answers won't let me spell check.
2007-06-02 07:38:29 · 18 answers · asked by Lizzie_bee 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
he does stick up for me, he tells them all the time to shut the **** up.
and, hes not so much friends with them anymore, he wasn't even going to go until they invited him to be in the line. than he felt obligated... he's just such a good person, he can't stand to hurt their feelings.
and, I know that if I don't go he'll be getting the brunt of the "what, you guys think your better than us??" crap.
which, is kind of ironic, cuz they're always making fun of me and how my stuff isn't good enough, but when we don't talk to them, or we don't visit them, they start going off on how we think we're better than them.
and, another little tidbit about why I don't want ot go.... its a complete redneck wedding. they're making all the groomsmen (they all have long hair) wear they're hair down so it looks all grundgy and dirty. and they're making them wear lime green tuxes. the groom and his brother aren't going to shave...
its all so gross
2007-06-02 07:52:18 · update #1
he's told me that it's ok that I don't go. he isn't making me. and he even said that if he didn't have to go, he wouldn't.
Im just afraid that they'll give him a bunch of crap for me not being there.
2007-06-02 08:00:21 · update #2
k, I did end up going, and I thought Id let you guys know just how bad it was.
When we walked into the reception hall, they had a Johnny Cash CD playing.... (that was their only entertainment)
They hadn't found someone to play the wedding march, so the bride's Grandma decided to do it last minute. let's just say it was painful.
The preacher they had gave a really weird service.... it was just too over the top. and than after it was done, we walked around with a list of all the celebraties he'd married... as if we care!!!
THAN
They had the bride take off to who knows where, and the groom's brother walked around with a little hand-made ransom note asking for money. so first, they won't even offer any entertainment for the money, you know, they wouldn't do a money dance or anything like that.
and, they jsut had the bride take off, so people couldn't spend time with her, which is the whole reason they came in the first place.
And, I won't even start on all the skanky girls.
2007-06-05 01:10:28 · update #3
it was pretty bad. all the bridesmaid's were wearing wierd little dresses, that came down to about mid-thigh, and the neckline went down as far as it could go. and they were really flowey, so all theless skanky girls were worried about exposing themselves.
and some of the guests there were wearing skanky prom dresses. the type you'd see at Deb. they rest of the guests were wearing jeans and t-shirts.
they forgot to move the tables that were in the way of the isle, so when they all walked down the isle, they had to weave their way through.
oh, and I forgot to mention... the bride is pregnant, so the dress looked a little weird...
2007-06-05 01:13:52 · update #4
Oh, man, I would TOTALLY go. This sounds like one of those things that you will retell for the REST of your life in the "Oh, I've got one to top that..." capacity!
Honestly, go, the lime green tuxes would be enough for me.
2007-06-02 08:34:31 · answer #1 · answered by kateqd30 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
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2016-09-05 19:54:33 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go. Offer to video the wedding. Then make a copy and send it to me. That white trash nonsense sounds hysterical. Honestly though, if you don't feel comfortable going, don't go. They're going to talk either way. I'd just tell them to get stuffed.
2007-06-02 14:23:06 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, this situation really sucks...but sometimes you have to weigh the long term results...is it better to suck it up for one day and deal to get them to shut up, or is it better to not go and cause your fiance to have to deal with their comments for years? I'd guess that going will save you a lot of trouble in the future. And after the wedding, cut them off.
2007-06-02 13:36:21 · answer #4 · answered by its about time 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, the problem is that this is your Fiance's fault. He should demand that his friends treat you with respect when they are around you. It sounds as if they dont like you at all. Well, this is what I would do. I'm 30, I've lived and seen alot of things and I try my best to treat everyone with respect, But I'm to the point in my life where if people dont respect me, they can literally get the hell out of my life. If you know you've done nothing wrong to anyone, then get rid of people who are emotionally abusive--dont go to functions with them, dont allow them in your home--period. If you fiances friends have been openly disrespectful to you to your face--then I would NOT go to their wedding-period.
You teach people how to treat you, and this will set the tone of your marriage. If you go there, and smile in their face--they will think you are WEAK and that they can continue to disrespect you forever. No: Let them know that since they dont respect you, they can get OUT of Your Life. Stand up for yourself, and respect yourself. Respecting yourself means you wont allow others be abuse you--verbally, emotionally, or physically. If they get mad, then too bad! If your fiance will not defend at least defend you for not going to their wedding and defend you for making it clear that you will have no interactions with them anymore--then he's emotionally abusive and you need to Dump Him. Good Luck.
2007-06-02 07:56:02 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well to start off why does your BF allow them to talk crap about you to him. If you really loved you then he would stand up for u. He'd tell them to stop talking **** about you to him. Secondly if you really don't want to go to the wedding then don't go. It seems like it doesn't matter if you go or not this couple will still talk about you. If you go they'll probably talk about what you wore etc. and if you don't go they'll talk crap about you also. It seems like it's a lose lose situation for you. I don't think your BF's friends are real friends because if they were they would respect his decision of who he chose to be with .
2007-06-02 07:46:34 · answer #6 · answered by Local girl 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Why the hell are you connected with these people anyways? I wouldn't marry any man that had *ssholes as friends. He shouldn't let them treat you that way and if he defends you and they still do it then he needs to stop being friends with them to. Sounds like your soon to be husband has some losers as friends.
2007-06-02 10:17:57 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell them up front you don't like them and you aren't going to their wedding. You aren't obligated to hang out with people who treat you like crap. Your fiance should stick up for you. If he lets his friends treat you badly you might need to start looking for someone new.
2007-06-02 07:44:09 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You could just go and not give them enough of a gift to cover your plate so it is costing them money for the pleasure of your company.
2007-06-02 10:20:11 · answer #9 · answered by bountifiles 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The only reason to go is to be there for your boyfriends sake and to keep them from setting him up with one of their hot friends. Go and just smile and say things like "Really" and "How nice". And buy them something cheap, something that you know they will hate.
Peace
Tom
2007-06-02 07:43:47 · answer #10 · answered by tom_newportbeach 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋