How to deal with Herpes?

Question

I can't stop crying and thinking of suicide. I feel like my life is over. I am 19 without kids and I no longer have a boyfriend (he gave me this). Please share your experiences!! How do you get over this? Will I ever be able to live a normal life? Can I ever have oral/vaginal sex again? Share your experiences please. How many outbreaks do you have a year on average. Were you able to have children without your partner contracting the disease from you? What is the best medicince to use?

We stopped talking because we had an argument about him taking the condom off during sex without me knowing. He gave me 3 different sexually transmitted diseases: Genital warts (HPV), chlamydia, and herpes simplex virus (type 2). Once I found out I had genital warts, I stopped answering his phone calls.

Answer 1

I know how you feel, believe me. I contracted both genital herpes and HPV also, but at the age of 17. I have had them for over 6 years now.

You'll probably think I'm crazy for saying this, but it gets better! Now that I have had both viruses for so long it's not even a big deal anymore. Time heals everything!

Genital herpes affects 1 out of 4 women and about 1 in 5 men. So, you are certainly not alone; it's VERY common! MILLIONS of people have this virus!

As for a normal life and sex life it's totally possible. I have been with my current fiance for 2 years and we have a great relationship and a great sex life (including oral sex). I was with my ex for almost 4 years and we had a great relationship too, and he never contracted the virus from me. You shouldn't limit yourself or be unhappy because of this. There are a lot of great guys out there who don't care if you have these viruses. They'll love you for you and look past what you have!

I've personally had about 5 outbreaks the whole 6+ years I have had genital herpes. I had about 4 within the first two years. Right now I've been outbreak free for 2+ years. I take acyclovir when I get outbreaks. I've also tried Famvir which worked really well too.

If you ever want to talk about it you can always email me! I know what you are going through. Don't worry, you might feel really bad now, but it is nothing to commit suicide over, trust me!

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Am sorry to hear about that it's awful, I am 16 and contracted herpes the first time I had sex, very unfortunate, I also thought the same as u that my life was over I didn't know what to do and spent 2 weeks crying thinking I'd never get married have kids but I shortly learned it's ok, obviously having herpes isn't the best situation but actually it's not as bad as u may think the disease may only come active when you are feeling ill as it comes back when your immune system is low also it's important to remember that 80 percent of the population have it so your not alone it's common it's doesn't make u dirty and you can still live a completely normal life

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You are a great example of the worst part of having Herpes. The psychological effects are the most difficult thing about having it. The disease, in and of itself, may be a nuisance to some but not really that big of a deal. Oral herpes is a bigger health concern and far more have that yet millions arent contemplating suicide over having a facial outbreak. Can you have a normal life? Well more people have HSV than do not so technically speaking, you are abnormal if you do not have it. Can you have sex again? Of course! There is no reason for ostracization with having genital herpes. Certainly no greater concern over kissing someone with oral HSV. Infact, the majority aquire HSV from close family contact before adulthood.

Now as for the physical symptoms, most people do not experience any after the initial outbreak (if even then). I do not suggest you to ask what others experience as will only serve to reinforce fears in your mind of the worst to expect. You will likely experience 1-2 outbreaks per year if any at all. The subsequent outbreaks will usually be milder in severity. The frequency of recurrence (if any) will lessen over time. If you find that managing the physical symptoms of herpes difficult, a doctor will give you a nucleoside analog.

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I got clinically diagnosed with genital herpes (type 2) about five yrs ago, when I was still in college and had a silly one-night stand. I realize lots of girls say this, but I swear I had never done that sort of thing before. I just made a massive mistake that one time and all of a sudden it seemed like I was going to have to live with the implications for my entire life. The worst part was feeling I could never date guys again. After all, who wants to go out with someone who has sores round her private parts? But since a friend shared this video https://tr.im/R5Ttm everything got better.

Not only was I able to eliminate all traces of the herpes simplex virus from my system in less than 3 weeks, but I was also able to start dating again. I even met the guy of my dreams and I'm so lucky to write that just last week, in front of everyone in a busy restaurant, he got down on one knee and proposed to me! This program provided the opportunity to be happy and experience true love again. Now I hope that I can help others by sharing this story.

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I am absolutely terrified and I feel so alone. I just found out last week that I tested positive for hsv1 and 2. I have been with the same man for the past 10 years and within the last year found out that he has cheated on me with numerous women. I am so scared that I can give it to my children by kissing them and them eating with me...I feel like my whole life has changed. And even though the nurses, my doctor, and websites say that a lot of people have it I still feel like I am by myself. My self esteem has dropped and I feel like I have been used up. But now, My life is very happy.

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Answer 8

I'm sorry that this happened to you. When I was in college one of my close friends went through this. She found a nice husband and has children. When she first found out she was very upset, like you. 20% of adults in the US know they have this and many more have it but don't know. Talk to your doctor to get medicine to prevent outbreaks. You can have sex. If your doctor is not helpful or sympathetic then find one who is. This is not something to kill yourself over. Call a suicide hot line. Maybe they can refer you to a support group. Do a web search for groups on the net. Is it possible that your boyfriend didn't know? Did you break up over this? If so, maybe you can talk to him.

Answer 9

He should have told you he had the decease and he should have used condoms. Doctors say that the decease is most contagious when sores are present, but that doesn't mean that it is not contagious when there are no sores. Therefore you should always ask your partners to use condoms. If they really love you, they will appreciate the fact that you tell them of the risk of not using condoms.
When you are ready to have children, you will be able to have them. If you have sores at the time of birth, your doctor will recommend a c-section to avoid contact of the baby with the virus.

Answer 10

Hello! I just recently found I have it too. I went to planned parenthood. They gave me the right medicines. They will educate you. You will still be able to have children, don;t worry.I have only had one breakout. I have it for about 9 months. But just recently got tested. I wasn't sure what it was. It is scary and I hate it. But I did it to myself. I think about it every time I go to the bathroom, go to bed at night, it never goes away. I cant stop thinking about it. I am going to join a support group in June. You should come too!!