My parents are way too strict, i spose im better off than some people in ways. but i just cant take it anymore. Im 16 and finished school, and want to start takign control of my life. I planning on moving out as soon as i can but this weekend i want to stay out... not that much of a big deal usually. its just i want to stay at my boyfriends... i asked my mum this and instantly she started screaming at me. I try to talk to her, but it just seems she doesnt trust me at all. Now it juts seems that everytime i ever try to talk to her, she screams and shouts and threatens me that she'll tell my dad... i dont live with him but i am geniunily scared of him when hes angry.. he can get slightly violent sometimes... have they got any right to stop me now im 16 and how can i get them to just talk abotu stuff.. and trust me.
2007-05-29 23:53:22 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
parents are way too strict, i spose im better off than some people in ways. but i just cant take it anymore. Im 16 and finished school, and want to start takign control of my life. I planning on moving out as soon as i can but this weekend i want to stay out... not that much of a big deal usually. its just i want to stay at my boyfriends, which all my friends will be there anyways, cos its his bday so its kindof a part thing... i asked my mum this and instantly she started screaming at me. I try to talk to her, but it just seems she doesnt trust me at all. Now it juts seems that everytime i ever try to talk to her, she screams and shouts and threatens me that she'll tell my dad... i dont live with him but i am geniunily scared of him when hes angry.. he can get slightly violent sometimes... have they got any right to stop me now im 16 and how can i get them to just talk abotu stuff.. and trust me.
2007-05-30 00:13:39 · update #1
I agree with your mom on this one. 16 is young. You have no idea how tough life is out there. I'm afaid while you are under her roof, you have to follow her rules, and you say you want to move out, but you are 16. You have no idea how tough it is to live on your own. Please listen to your mom on this one. She's right.
2007-05-29 23:58:37 · answer #1 · answered by bostonchick 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your parents probably don't trust your judgment based on your age and your past history. If you want them to trust you. Begin to work at showing them your trustworthy. Take care of all of your responsibilities in life (home, school, work) with care and timeliness. If you don't have a job maybe find one. Beginning to earn a wage and become experienced in the work force is great way to show your parents that your acting responsibly as an adult would. They just want to trust that you can make it in this world w/o them and not get horribly hurt (physically/emotionally) along the way. I'd wouldn't move so quickly, take your time and leave when it's financially good for you, your still young and won't be making much for a few years (no trade school/university ???? : ( Negotiate w/ your mom about having times to come and go as you please w/ conditions (u won't miss time, she can always contact u, u won't drink, drugs, sex, etc) and maybe in return for agreeing to it you can pick up some extra chores around the house.
2007-05-30 07:20:08 · answer #2 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is afraid that you will make a mistake and possibly get pregnant. It is probably not that she does not trust you, but that she doesn't trust the temptations of the world. She figures that you are still not experienced enough yet to realize how serious the consequences of adult decisions can be.
Why don't you concentrate on going to college now? In a couple of years you will be 18, and will have 2 years of college behind you.
2007-05-30 07:04:53 · answer #3 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, better to listen to mum...you can't do much on your own until you're 18. It isn't that she dosen't trust you....she just dosen't want you to put yourself in a difficult situation. This is one of the times it's better to listen and follow her advice. You are very fortunate to have a mom who cares so much.
2007-05-30 07:15:53 · answer #4 · answered by putzer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
until you turn 18 mom is in control.She now knows for a fact that you are having sex and she gets mad thinking about it.If you are thru with school go to college.
2007-05-30 07:15:58 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't see how you can win this one. Just stick it out until you become an adult.
2007-05-30 06:57:11 · answer #6 · answered by R e a v e r 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋