they get bored
2007-05-29 23:37:08
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answered by mimi 5
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I believe that there are a variety of reasons why people drift away from each other. But the most common mistakes that many couples make in the relationship is changing the priority. During the dating process, people will do many things in order to make a relationship work, but once they reach a point in that relationship whereby they know that the other person loves them and will be by their side, they change their priorities in their life. They make the mistake of underestimating love. Some will replace love as the top priority with work, friends, hobbies, etc.
I feel that a relationship between a couple is like a fire. If you do not continuously provide fuel and oxygen, the fire will eventually burn out. Love is like that. After some time, people stop giving each other the time they deserve, they occupy their life with other priorities and somehow love just moves second place or third place. People forget that they still need to provide the necessary elements to a relationship to make it works. Just like the time of dating. If we look at a car for example, we have to get fuel to make it works and take it to the garage for maintenance. Love is the same. It needs fuel to keep it going. So people need to understand that a loving relationship needs to be fed to keep going. Priorities must be straight, love is more important that work. Love will last even after retirement.
2007-05-30 00:08:19
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answered by Anonymous
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Having looked at the main reasons why people fall in love, let’s now consider some of the courses that this love may then take. The ideal, of course, is the situation where two people fall in love and pursue a life together. It is common knowledge, however, that their early love cannot possibly remain at its initial intensity for very long. In fact, it often disappears altogether in an extremely short period of time. Why does this happen?
One of the main reasons why people fall out of love is because they start to see qualities in their partner which they don’t like, shattering the false image on which their love was originally based. During courtship, for example, both parties usually make a great effort to present themselves in the best possible light, only bringing those qualities to the relationship which are the most likely to impress the other person. They see each other at their most considerate, most responsive, most interesting and most entertaining. Qualities that may have the reverse effect are generally not disclosed, fearing that they may drive the other person away. The goal, after all, is to demonstrate your worthiness, to do everything in your power to make the other person fall for you.
2007-05-29 23:39:12
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answered by toonking 3
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Too often in today's society, people don't take the time to really get to know the other person. They are in lust so they run down the aisle to get married, not taking many other factors into consideration.
And each person doesn't give 100% of themselves to make it work. They get selfish and don't try to think of ways to enjoy time together and then when the kids come along, the kids are involved in too many activities causing the family to split even more as they all run different directions.
People say their vows on their wedding day but they don't remember them or practice them and after a while, they say they've fallen out of love. Marriage is for a lifetime, not until you get bored with each other.
Marriage takes alot of work sometimes but most people would rather get a divorce than try to work things out and stay together. There is no committment anymore.
2007-05-29 23:44:43
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answered by KittyKat 6
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Because sometimes its too hard to stay in love. People (friends) constantly talk about each other and they point out flaws in everything, and everyone. At first its fine but when it keeps happening, everyday you just want all the stress to go away. Some people just don't want to fight for it, so they give up.
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because of everything going on today, with internet chatlines and the joys of MySpace that people just find other people that fit them better, or so they think. People just don't want to be alone so they force themselves to be in a relationship with someone that maybe isn't the "right" person, then they lead that person on and when it gets too serious, it all falls apart.
2007-05-29 23:54:23
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answered by shayne w 2
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People fall out of love for many reasons, but the most common are: it was never really love for one of the people and people change throughout life and sometimes they grow apart. Most of the time there is nothing that can be done
2007-05-29 23:44:47
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answered by cutie322434 3
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theres a biological reason behind it, read it in national geographic once...
the initial feeling of being in love, butterflies in the stomach, feeling a constant high etc, is caused by some chemicals in the brain. and the body can only sustain this type of chemical production for a limited amount of time... so after a while these feelings pass.. generally this happens after max 4 years or so of the relationship.
so then whether or not u stay together and still love eachother depends on if u share interests, and a good friendship. if all u do is disagree on stuff or if ur just bored, u will find that in ur relationship u shared nothing except the "in love" feeling. so it will break up.
2007-05-29 23:41:04
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answered by evil_grrrl666 3
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That's a very insteresting question. I've had the repercussions of my girlfriend falling out of love with me, and it was very heartbreaking. What some of the others said are very vaild. It could be because of the loss of interest or findings of unwanted qualities, or perhaps because one or the other doesn't want to work out the problems of the relationship anymore. It's ashame if both parties keep on trying it could work though. It's too bad one person usually moves on though and calls it quits.
2007-05-29 23:56:19
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answered by fuzzyhamster 2
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Because they fall in love. Falling out of love is the natural order of things. You Live you Die You fall in love you fall out.
A lot of people disagree with me but falling out of love can actually be a form of evolving. Thank goodness we can fall out, just think how horrible it would be if you were in love with someone that didn't love you back. Would you want this love to continue forever?
2007-05-29 23:43:55
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answered by babycattos 4
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Falling in love is a magical experience that happens between two people.
2007-05-29 23:39:56
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answered by Dreamer 3
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Usually people fall out of love when they one of the lovers cheat, lie or say something stupid to the partner. It is hard to keep loving each other forever.
2007-05-29 23:49:16
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answered by Anonymous
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