My 95 year old father's twelve year old, blind pug Lucky passed away last night and now the household is in mourning !
She was his closest friend since my mom passed away several years ago. Looking for some words to strengthen MY support for HIM in this.....seeing that I am devestated as well --and for once --- totally out of input !!
2007-05-29 22:51:27 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pets ➔ Dogs
God gave us a most wonderful gift - the ability to have special relationships with our pets. Unlike human relationships, our love from and for our pets is unconditional. They love and care for us, and we love and care for them. I do not for one minute think that God would give us this kind of a special love, that would just end. You know, if you read your Bible, you will see that there are animals in heaven. After all, Jesus will be back riding a white horse! So then, l fully believe there are animals in heaven, including our precious precious pets that have gone on before us - and I truly think that Lucky will be there to run joyfully to your father one day - and to all your family who loved him. Some people say that animals don't have souls, therefore can't be in heaven - but I think that maybe that's the reason they don't have "souls" - because God wanted to make sure every single one of them did go to heaven - with no ability to make wrong choices. I think Lucky is fine, in a different place, with your Mom, and you will all see him again. I am so sorry for your loss here - I know it hurts beyond what most people can imagine. May God bless you and heal your hearts. Just remember - there is a Rainbow Bridge.
2007-05-30 03:04:53 · answer #1 · answered by talkinbabygirl 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you could help him if he wants to have a burial for Lucky . I think just be there for him and get the other family members if there are some to do the same. You both loved Lucky and can be there for each other. Maybe you can talk about the good memories you have of Lucky and the funny things she did. Words are not going to take away his pain or yours in the short term, but you probably did a good job when you lost your mother, so would say whatever you did or said would help. You sound like a good son and hopefully just being there for your dad and him knowing you understand pretty well about Lucky will help. Maybe you can go on a bit of a holiday with him, and other family too maybe, for a few days to have a break from the house. If in doubt, just ask him what you can do to help, and maybe try to talk about the good times with Lucky. It is a hard thing to lose a pet, even when you know they are not suffering any more. Take care and good luck.
2007-05-29 23:14:14 · answer #2 · answered by Max 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your elderly father knows (after living for 95 years) that all living things must eventually pass away. But still, the mourning process is very important. Do not do anything to take this away from him or you. He will go thru all five stages of grief, Denial, Anger, Bargaining, Depression, and Acceptance. Not neccessarily in that order, but he needs to go thru all five in order to heal properly.
He has lost his very best friend. He needs to talk about it. He needs to have you listen to him. Hug him. Cry with him. Look at photographs of Lucky. Save his things in a pretty box with Luckys' name on it.
If Lucky was a lap dog, I would suggest having something to replace the empty feelings in his arms. A pillow or a "stuffed animal". Give him something to smell that belonged to Lucky and still has Luckys' scent on it.
Have a funeral. Bury Lucky and put a marker over his grave.
I lost my little poodle last Novemeber. I let my Albert outside to tinkle and a coyote ran up to the deck and snatched him and took him off. I still sob when I think of him. It takes a long time to heal and he may never stop missing him.
2007-05-29 23:13:26 · answer #3 · answered by Jeanine G 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My condolences to your Dad. You never quite get over the loss of a dog. Believe Lucky lives on in your family & is watching over you all. Get a frame & a photo of Lucky & make sure your Dad has a nice picture of her. Take Care Everybody My heart goes out to you.
2007-05-29 23:04:35 · answer #4 · answered by hobo 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry for your loss.
We had to put our beloved Lhasa Apso, Freeway, to sleep in the beginning of 2004. I still think about him every single day.
I thought I was all out of tears, but I read this, and I just cried and cried. Get some tissues ready.
I've always seen it credited as "author unknown"--I didn't write it, and I have no idea who did. But it helped me and my family, and I hope it helps you and yours.
Just this side of heaven is a place called Rainbow Bridge.
When an animal dies that has been especially close to someone here, that pet goes to Rainbow Bridge.
There are meadows and hills for all of our special friends so they can run and play together.
There is plenty of food, water and sunshine, and our friends are warm and comfortable.
All the animals who had been ill and old are restored to health and vigor; those who were hurt or maimed are made whole and strong again, just as we remember them in our dreams of days and times gone by.
The animals are happy and content, except for one small thing; they each miss someone very special to them, who had to be left behind.
They all run and play together, but the day comes when one suddenly stops and looks into the distance. His bright eyes are intent; His eager body quivers. Suddenly he begins to run from the group, flying over the green grass, his legs carrying him faster and faster.
You have been spotted, and when you and your special friend finally meet, you cling together in joyous reunion, never to be parted again. The happy kisses rain upon your face; your hands again caress the beloved head, and you look once more into the trusting eyes of your pet, so long gone from your life but never absent from your heart.
Then you cross Rainbow Bridge together....
2007-05-29 23:19:49 · answer #5 · answered by xnikki118x 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Wow, that's harsh, and at your dad's age, it's a big problem. He was lucky enough to have had him this long, and I bet you he and you have many memories of him.
Let the grieving process run it's course through all five stages, it needs to happen, don't do the "I have to be strong for them" thing, this process may pull you even closer together. Your family was blessed by having this dog for so long. Take all those good memories, and remind him of one every day. Good luck!
2007-05-29 23:02:36 · answer #6 · answered by Unicornrider 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
oohh, im so sorry to hear of your loss. I just lost or dog jeta, she was a miniture greyhound. whippit. she was15 years old. Tell him the dog is in heaven with his wife know,Dont try to avoid talking about the dog. Talk about the fun things,the dog used to do. like remember when, Well hope that helps, tell your dad , mailbox_5 said sorry for his loss of LUCKY.
2007-05-29 23:02:41 · answer #7 · answered by mailbox_5 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I, am so very sorry for your loss. my heart goes out to you all as i have loss wonderful friends, too, try a web site called .
petloss,com it is a pet loss grief support website, there is a beauitful poem , called Rainbow Bridge, it is too long to put here, it is about your friend who is fit and well again &is waiting for his /her owner, on the other side of Rainbow Bridge,
2007-05-29 23:22:28 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
what about you go and get a new dog the same thing happend to my cat and we all started crying so we went out and got a new one and named it like the first cat
2007-05-29 22:59:04 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
I am very sorry for you
2007-05-30 00:46:13 · answer #10 · answered by witch 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋