i have my mother around the corner for support and hubby says good
2007-05-29 22:46:39 · 8 answers · asked by Nat 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
It's great to get the opinions of others isn't it? Everyone has an opinion, should mom stay home with the kids or go back to work and help support the family?
In the end, its YOUR decision. What is right for your family and YOU? Your children are old enough now to be self sufficiant after school hours, and should be able to keep themselves entertained at home while you and your other are at work.
This is a call many mothers have to make when their children start school or get older. My age being 25, all my friends are now starting to have children when my son started school a year ago. I always hear "how do I know when it's right for me to go back to work?" And i always say "its your call....follow your instincts with each child. Some mothers can't wait to get back to work, while others dread it. There is no rule about having to go back, and don't think that you have to so everyone doesn't get angry."
And vice versa. You shouldn't have to stay home to keep others happy. Going back to work when you have children takes you to sit down and open yourself up. Think of everything, and i mean EVERYTHING. Only YOU know if your kids are ready to be left home alone. Or if mom is needed for a few more years. Don't pressure you or anyone else, just relax, and think about it in your own time, in your own way. Then, don't stress over your decision. If someone makes a comment that seems a little on the snide side, simply say "i'm really sorry you feel that way, but i am the mother in my family, and I feel I know whats best for them, and we could use the extra income, for a vacation, (or whatever) and I really don't think it's any of your business"
and it's not. In the end this is your final decision. Don't walk around feeling like no one needs you, get back in there and dig in with work. Or stick around at home and be a mom for the next few years. Either way, your decision, will ultimately be the right one for your family :)
2007-05-29 23:36:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course you should. It is hard to find work after you have been unemployed for a long time. Your kids are quite old enough to not be at home during the day times (for example going to school etc) and during the holidays, they'll probably be fine going out with friends etc.
As for household chores, unless you have a mansion, you and your hubby will be able to share the chores between you as your kids wont be making a mess like younger kids would like finger paint spills or even meal time messes. Even get the kids to help out as that will teach them life skills, and make sure that they maintain respect and value for living in your home.
With a second income (assuming your husband is already working) just think of the luxuries you will be able to afford, or the debts you will be able to afford.
And if you ever do have problems, like help looking after the kids or someone even to pick up some shopping if you're too busy, its great that your mother is happy to help.
So there you go. I think that you should take the job 100%. And sure, if after like 6 months or so and it isnt working out, you could always apply for a job with fewer hours, but as I said, if you have been unemployed for a while, this job will be a stepping stone to get you back into work if nothing else.
Best of luck x
2007-05-30 06:06:00 · answer #2 · answered by Rachel H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hubby says good but is he going to pick up the slack when you're not around to do all the work you've been doing as a stay-at-home wife and mom? The house won't be as clean, no hot meals waiting when he walks through the door, laundry stacking up...If you want to work, go for it. Just make sure you're going to get the support you'll need.
2007-05-30 05:52:18 · answer #3 · answered by Alice K 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What would you need prefect strangers to answer this one
it seems logical that your children are old enought not to need you at home all day that you hsould look to do something that will help your family fanancially
look for a job that will able you to be home after school
that is my only advise
Good luck
2007-05-30 05:55:40 · answer #4 · answered by waiting for baby 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
go ahead and try. it if it dosent work out quit! your kids are old enough. a little extra money never hurt, college is comming soon plus it gives you something to do out side the home
2007-05-30 05:52:15 · answer #5 · answered by mml 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sure,go back to work. It will help you and the family.
2007-05-30 06:22:29 · answer #6 · answered by TAMPABAYLADY 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes why not, working is great it boosts your selfesteem and confidence the world is your oyster go for it girl.
2007-05-30 05:54:35 · answer #7 · answered by Kelly P 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It wont hurt to try it out and if you don't like it you can always quit.
2007-05-30 05:57:24 · answer #8 · answered by Proud Mommy of 2! 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋