Ok, I'm not married, so if I have a lust for someone and they have a lust for me and we have passionate safe sex with each other, whats God's problem?
I am happy, my sexual partner is happy.
It doesn't involve any 'impure thoughts' because our only thoughts are of (yes lust, but my point is that lust isnt bad) happiness and enjoyment.
Does God not want me to be happy? Or does he want me to have HIS version of happiness, like a parent forcing a kid to do sports so they can live their own dreams through their child?
2007-05-29 22:02:36 · 25 answers · asked by zeppelin_roses 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Will - So God's version of happiness is more important to God than my own happiness?
2007-05-29 22:12:13 · update #1
Blind_Chameleon - If you read the question again you will see that I dont think lust is sinful, that is my point. Religion thinks that lust is sinful
2007-05-29 22:13:04 · update #2
Steven - I dont feel bad for my lust at all. I love it. It makes me really happy and (i hope!) it makes my sexual partner happy. My question is why do some religious people turn their noses up at it and say it is sinful?
2007-05-29 22:29:43 · update #3
Add the condition that you will never get married to the list, and you have an even more convincing question.
Sometimes they'll say you are cheating on your FUTURE spouse. ;P
2007-05-29 22:05:39 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Ok, for one, lust is only considered sinful in Abrahamic religions. Most other contemporary and modern religions condone such sexual feelings and expression. For example, in a Hindu temple in India, there are murals showing priests giving fallatio. Other religions had ritual prostitution and rituals such as a woman sleeping with the first man that enters a city on the day before her wedding.
However, in Abrahamic religions, lust is considered sinful because it is seen as a corruption of the pure sexual feelings that should revolve around love for the other partner. Lust treats the other human being as an object for gratification, and therefore demotes them. We also are all aware of the negative consequences that unfettered lust can have. This is why the Bible gives the framework of marriage for sexual relationships, since marriages are supposed to be places of security and love (however, this isn't always true). Christianity also believes in monogamy, which is promoted by marriage, and is opposed to the current ideas of serial monogamy, of having several sexual partners in rapid succession. I personally don't believe that God created sex just for reproduction.
2007-05-30 06:37:54 · answer #2 · answered by sashmead2001 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The issue isn't pre-marital sex (in Judaism it is only forbidden by the rabbis due to the damage it can do to a persons reputation and certain legal ramifications relating to the ketuvah(pre-marital contract required in Judaism). It is a minor matter- not a big issue at all, if the woman involves observes the laws of niddah.
that said, lust is beyond a mere sexual desire. Lust is a willingness to pursue that desire regardless of the consequences- it is the putting of physical pleasure beyond all else. In this way, lust is akin to idolotary as it is putting the worship of physical pleasure before God.
So noral desires and wants are fine- overwhelming lusts that lead to negative and destructive behaviours are problematic.
2007-05-30 05:10:22 · answer #3 · answered by allonyoav 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is simply really. Sexual desire and lust is the most basic and important part to human survival and daily life. Everyone has it and everyone enjoys it. What religion teaches is that this is bad because this is how you control people. If you teach that your most basic and enjoyable desires are evil, then you are always asking for "forgiveness" from god and you feel like you can never do anything by yourself, and makes you depends on god even more. It is simply a way to control the masses from religious people. It is sad really, your life is short, it shouldn't be wasted kissing a false god's ***.
2007-05-30 05:21:24 · answer #4 · answered by Coma White 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Some would say if you're lusting, you are having impure thoughts. You're thinking about hitting it. That would be impure.
(Why, who knows. You'd think the Christian God would rather have people just thinking about it rather than actually doing it, but whatever.)
And you're not supposed to hit it outside of marriage either, for whatever reason. So you're not only guilty of impure thoughts, but fornication as well. Although why it's called that before marriage I never understood - it's the same thing after as it is before.
Don't sweat it. God isn't real anyway.
2007-05-30 05:12:53 · answer #5 · answered by ReeRee 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Why do you assume that lust is sinful? There is every reason to lust. But nothing to beat sex with a partner you love.
2007-05-30 05:07:42 · answer #6 · answered by blind_chameleon 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
lust is one of the deadly sins i believe it comes into effect if you are married and you start lusting over another person then this could lead to adultery and cause many problems for you your husband and the other person involved as you are single lust isnt really a problem provided the other person isnt married as this is just as bad and god does want us all to be happy thats why he made the rules
2007-05-30 07:57:26 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
you have a good point, is it only sinful if your not married cos i'd hope if you married you would have lustful thoughts towards your married partner?! so either its sinful universally or only sinful if your single?! nah, it makes no sense does it. when you meet your future marriage partner do you not lust for them in the first place?! religion is full of contridictions. big crock!
2007-05-30 06:22:53 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Who said lust was sinful? Even lust for my own wife? If it is a sin than I hope I'm always a sinner.
2007-05-30 05:06:20 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Lust is simply God's gift of love between 2 committed people gone wrong. Lust causes untold hurt and pain, giving free rein to your lust contributes to the spreading of diseases (generally, not you!) contributes to the breaking up of families, creates soul ties to people that will be a part of you forever. God wants you to have sex and to enjoy it, it was after all his idea, and he allows you to choose who and when, it's not like he will strike you dead if you have sex out of marriage. Some christians will preach at you out of a holier than thou attitude, sorry about them, but God is merely waiting for you to learn for yourself, the way a loving parent allows his child to make mistakes for himself. Some lessons we never learn but there you go.
2007-05-30 10:16:24 · answer #10 · answered by good tree 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I've no complaint ... seems the seven deadly sins have there good side and there bad side .... I wouldn't waste to much of my precious time on an act of futility though you might think of consumating the act it's a bit more meaningful ....and life is shorter than you think sometimes.
2007-05-30 05:08:47 · answer #11 · answered by dogpatch USA 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋