It's not in my nature to force things...so I always thought that the "right" girl will come along, but I am 22 years old, never been in a relationship, and honestly speaking, it's getting kind of lonely..lol..It's really hard for me to approach women because I either get nervous or shy (Please don't make fun of me). All of my friends and close cousins have had a relationship at least once, and I really don't know why I can't approach a girl that I like...hmm...these thoughts never crossed my mind when i was in high school, but as I get older, it's making me feel like some kind of handicap or something...I would appreciate a sincere advice...thanX
2007-05-29 19:40:46 · 10 answers · asked by djnam22 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i don't think you are handicap but when we put our hearts on the line and tell someone we like them we know that there is the chance they may not like you back so this is why alot of people have trouble talking to people they like... I would suggest just go for it if anything just go and say hello and introduce yourself, you will win some and you will lose lots... but hey we have alot of fun doing it..
Maybe go and do a public speaking course, or join a performing arts group these two things are great to build your confidence... once you have confidence it still will be hard but at least you will have to confidence to do it and the condifence to say 'well its her bad luck, didn't know unles i tried' or as trace atkins says 'striked out who's next'....lol
good luck and i hope you find your confidence!
2007-05-29 19:48:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was 23 when I had my first relationship, it's not the quantity that counts, and you are definitely not handicapped for a relationship.
If you are waiting for the right one, then wait for her, but you need to get over your shyness, try going out with your group of friends with girls, and talk to them, even few simple converstaion will do, get yourself comfortable in conversing. So that when the right one comes along, you'll have courage to ask her out.
Good luck.
2007-05-30 02:59:58 · answer #2 · answered by De_TouR 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't be overly worried.. my current partner is 20 and Im his first gf... he tends to be like you in your thoughts, if you choose to wait thats fine... you dont need to have a relationship.. and its hard to find decent partners anyway but i suggest looking within social groups if you do want someone.. your friends may know someone that you may like and you could arrange to be at the same barbeque or something so that you can meet and go from there...
Or otherwise you can take a course or go out more or something....
2007-05-30 02:50:03 · answer #3 · answered by sammy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had to wait till I was 28 for one! Women go after the older guys so you probably wont have a chance till you hit 27!
To Nata it is too late for you, women have to be 22 or younger to get a man!
2007-05-30 03:45:46 · answer #4 · answered by Matthew E 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be yourself and go out and do things and meet people. Dont try to approach a girl with the thought of dating her in your mind, instead try to think to yourself that your trying to get her to be friends. Then go from there. If that makes sense.
2007-05-30 02:48:12 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am 24 and i have never been in a relationship either (my pic is real). i have had many men in my life but nobody serious. i know what you mean - i feel like i dont even know how to act or what you do when you are in relationship.
i am not trying to rush anything nore i think im missing out on something - i just want not to wake up one day and realize i have missed my stop on the train.
2007-05-30 03:13:03 · answer #6 · answered by Natalie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well don't worry about it, your 22 long way to go, not like your 31 like me without one. But I am sure you find the right girl, you will just trust in yourself and be confident ladies love that.
2007-05-30 02:46:26 · answer #7 · answered by godblesswithhugs 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe there is a girl that feel the same way and she wants to approach you. see the think is not only,
to think about asking some one out
but to keep your eyes open
do not rush just quit thinking
about it
it will happen
good luck
2007-05-30 02:52:32 · answer #8 · answered by paco2164 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't worry about it. Just have fun, talk to women. Ask a few of 'em out. No big deal.
2007-05-30 02:59:47 · answer #9 · answered by Ben-E-Hana 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have to start somewhere - start asking girls out and you will get better as you go – it is the experience that counts
2007-05-30 02:44:51 · answer #10 · answered by Gert 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋