I'm curious. How many people out there see them selves as the nice guys that finish last? Did that bother you? Did you do something to change for the better or not? Mainly I've noticed myself becomming more and more cynical and pessimistic to the point I sometimes believe women are pure evil, and just throw in the towel. When I hear some chick talk about her unhappy relationship now I just want to tell them, "Hey who's fault is it really?" as oppose to compassion. Am I the only person who thinks like this? Nice guys speak out!
2007-05-29 19:35:09 · 13 answers · asked by phantom_mav10 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Seems like you just haven't met Nice Girl yet.
A lot of women think all men are pigs. I'm sure some men ARE pigs, but not every man a woman will meet is one.
From what you've written, it appears you know what you want. Just be the Nice Guy that you are and the Nice Girls will come a-knockin'.
Good luck!
2007-05-29 19:43:39 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Chicks aren't in to the overly compassionate friend type...they like the boyfriend type.
Hmm, let me elaborate.. there becomes a point where being too compassionate and nice is going to put you into the "friend" category which you never want to enter w/ a girl you are pursuing. Guys should always be nice but there is some extent to which you show your compassion towards those types of things. Be friendly and respectful to others but hold out on the "tell me about your unhappy relationship" nonsense.
2007-05-30 02:39:40 · answer #2 · answered by Me 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am not a guy, but I can tell you that just like nice guys, Nice girls are out there. It may take time but she is out there. May be you have been looking to hard. In relationships people get hurt both men and women. yes it takes two but sometimes one person is to blame whether it is the guy or the girl. it sounds as if you have not met miss right yet. It took me sometime to find the right person but I have learned when it is time the right person will come along. I do not know if you are the only guy who thinks like that but you never know.
Virgo
2007-05-30 02:47:03 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a girl and even i consider women to be evil. For some reason women just don't seem to appreciate nice guys. Every girl wants a bad boy who will treat them badly (every woman is guilty of this no matter who they are). Just try not to give up on being nice if all else fails then feel free to be a jerk it's not your fault.
2007-05-30 02:49:49 · answer #4 · answered by nobody 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel the same way, I mean being good doesn't seem to cut it, I feel that way so much a lot of times makes me look super negative. I mean I seen 2000's of ladies on line call me good and good looking only to not want me but of those ladies 100's or more get hurt and hurt really bad by jerk guys. Lol OK so my life is on line but I mean it almost makes me just stop being honest and stop being good. I think lady wants more than just the good guy, I mean wants the good guy inside but shows maybe the bad boy image, say a motorcycle rider I mean those are some bad boys but you talk to some sometimes some of the nicest guys you want to meet. Its not ladies are evil or men or evil of course there is bad in both groups.
We all just have to find that right person for the each of us that accepts all of us. Just don't worry about it, I mean it drive you insane if you really think to much about it, if one woman doesn't like you , whats the old saying more fish in the sea.I really wish you a lot of luck and happiness.
2007-05-30 02:43:09 · answer #5 · answered by godblesswithhugs 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is one of those sucky two faced facets of women. You see they say one thing but do the other. Women say they want the nice guy but go out with the jerk. Read the ladder theory (www.laddertheory.com). It will explain this better than I can. The thing is you have to decide if changing who you are just to get laid is acceptable or if your want to be true to yourself and not worry about everyone else. Tough spot to be in.
2007-05-30 02:49:36 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, I'm not a nice guy...but I am a nice girl who likes nice guys. What is so objectionable about being nice? Is it your feeling that just because you're nice, girls would take advantage of your goodness and would step down on you? You'd been hanging out with the wrong crowd, my dear fellow. Not all girls are like that. Nice guys are not in abundance and most of us ladies really appreciate one when we see one. So don't join the bandwagon; instead, stand proud of what you really are...a super nice guy! CHEERS!
2007-05-30 02:45:58 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It probably is her fault. Nice doesn't mean agreeing with everything a girl says or letting them have there way. Your a guy. Your supposed to be strong, confident, aggressive. Those qualities are not synonymous with jerk.
2007-05-30 02:44:12 · answer #8 · answered by Lobster 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i really know what you mean i felt like that for so long...but i think nice guys are also lacking confidence...i know i was...until i decided to do something bout it...i have a friend who gets a lot of girls but primarily cuz he's cocky...girls like a confident guy...i didnt become cocky, i would never want to be, you shouldn't either, but become more confident, like say cocky stuff but as a joke and make sure the girls know its a joke lol...it worked for me..hopefully it'll work for you
2007-05-30 02:55:00 · answer #9 · answered by shenderson2006 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yep, sounds like my life experience. On the other hand, it means you may have to settle for a "nice" girl/guy (not sure of your gender, mate) instead of the "love of your life", but that may not be a bad compromise!
2007-05-30 02:46:06 · answer #10 · answered by Eddie Sea 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋