i am not bad looking 6' man. i had this problem since i was a child kids at school were picking on me becouse they saw me as a weakest. but it turn out ok after i made most of them my friends. my father left my mom when i was 1. when i came to america to live with him. i can not find a peace with till today. he is an alcoholic. all throught my child live he was my hero in my heart and then he dissapointed me by selfishnes. i was 15 then and i went to high school. it was not bad, people liked me, but i never had a girlfriend then becouse of my lock of english(iamEU). when i moved to new york city after hs. i have been dateing some girls(not2long), one found another after first date, now nobody want to hang out looking at me as i am a freak. i become anti social, what's the point of going out? i can not sleep at nights, i become nervous for no reason, i wanna quit my job, i can't think straight, i never had sex, i have no good friends. you think there is a chance for me to find love?pic
2007-05-29 19:27:19 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think counselling might help you work through these issues. Please don't become anti-social... You just need to work through the things that have been gnawing away at you. You'll find someone once you've resolved these feelings of inadequacy.
Best of luck!
2007-05-29 19:34:39 · answer #1 · answered by 1M9 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you still have a chance to find that special someone. You'll find and make great friends that won't care about you not being able to speak a language that well. Those are true friends that you should keep for eternity. Become more social in finding your goal to find those friends and find that someone that would still love you no matter what. You can never give up and I hope that you find that someone. With all that you went through, your spirit is strong and has endured probably many things that I haven't but whats the point in giving up now? Be positive and I don't think that you need a psychiatrist. Count your blessings and good luck. I hope my advice helps you.
2007-05-30 02:36:43 · answer #2 · answered by Hiya 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you'd like to talk to a psychiatrist, it couldn't hurt. In the mean time, learn to have fun doing things you enjoy. Go to a museum, hang out at a coffee shop, or whatever you enjoy. When you're comfortable with yourself, other people will be more likely to gravitate toward you.
Also, don't judge yourself based on one or two 'less-than-perfect' social encounters. Beckham has off games now and then (the only futball reference I know), but that doesn't make him a bad player. You're human. Let yourself make mistakes.
Many women find an accent and 'non-standard' English to be charming. Good luck.
2007-05-30 02:44:38 · answer #3 · answered by Nels N 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hon, you can't find someone to love until you learn to love yourself. I would say that you need counseling.
Family and friends will let us down, that is life. Please be strong for you and move past your past. Find an Alanon meeting....which is like AA,. but for family members of alchohalics. It saved my life.
It is time for you to take care of you. Success and happiness isn't handed to us.....we all work hard for it.
Stop calling yourself a freak. People often become what they think they are.
As we age, we tend to have less friend. Sometimes no friends. But it is important to get your life in order and be able to earn a living and get some hobbies and meet other people.
You are not going to find love this way. You are way too down on yourself.
Change your self talk. Instead of telling yourself that you lack the ability to speak english....think of it as you having a sexy accent. Many people take their short comings and make them work for the positive.
Please get some help. You are a valued person.
2007-05-30 02:37:49 · answer #4 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is a chance for everyone to find love and when the time is right it will come your way. And seeing a consouler to talk to may be a good thing for you it will give you someone to talk with about your problems since you dont have anyone elese right now. Good luck and keep your head things always get better.
2007-05-30 02:31:09 · answer #5 · answered by Amy D 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You don't need a shrink, why pay someone to listen to your drama right? You just lost your edge. You know you need confidence. Most not all but most women want someone who is confident about themselves, but not so much that it becomes arrogance. DOn't let pople push you around also, and just be yourself. You can attend group therapy. Try to look up the word counseling instead of psych because you may find free counseling, but the best would be group counseling its fun.
2007-05-30 02:34:34 · answer #6 · answered by Anne 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you need some therapy. You need some pep talks from someone. There is someone for everyone. It takes time.
2007-05-30 02:31:20 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are depressed. When you are depressed your mind makes you think that everything is worse than it is. Get some help and keep you chin up.
2007-05-30 02:31:59 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
it otay
you be good
don not worry
take pills youll find friends
2007-05-30 02:49:48 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋