I am really depressed?

Question

Im 14 years old and I have been very depressed lately.I've been tired,i would cry for no reason and not care about school at all.I want to become an actress but I feel it'll NEVER happen.I want it SO badly!I read scripts from shows and act it out but my parents aren't very supportive so that adds to it.I feel like Im ugly and fat and worthless.I feel my sister is my parents favorite,I feel i will never get a boyfriend or get married.I feel when i go out people are staring at me and making fun of me.Im too tall,Im fat,and ugly but people tell me im not.What can I do to feel better about myself?

Answer 1

You are a person, just like everyone else on the planet. Fame and money won't fill the emotional voids people experience, and in fact can make people more miserable, as they have the means to act out on destructive behavior, like drugs, for instance.

If you want to be an actress, it should be for love of the craft, rather than some need to be accepted. If you don't feel supported in that pursuit by your parents, tell them how you feel. Let your parents know you are going through tough times, and need more help and attention, and if they won't give it to you, reach out to a counselour at school or church, if you belong to one.

The best single piece of advice I can give you about dealing with depression is to learn to appreciate the amazing and complex world around you, and realize that you are as much a part of it as anyone else.

Answer 2

I am a 42 year old female who went through exactly what you described and am still dealing with some of it. Please, please get yourself into counseling. A therapist can evaluate you, let you know if regular counseling will help and as a last resort if medication would be something to consider. And tell your parents how you are feeling, maybe they care but don't see it. Between 18 and 35 years old I was hospitalized twice. No one, not even my family noticed my symptoms or seemed to care they just thought I had an attitude. The problem was I was so down on my self and thought my future was bleak. I started feeling very angry, then I'd cry, then be angry then be sad. It was a vicious cycle. You have a chance to stop it now since you are so young. Don't let it get out of hand like I did. I have continued with treatment for several years and am now happily married and have a beautiful daughter. I truly believe I wouldn't have gotten to this point without talking to someone. I accept email if you every need anything. Good luck :) :) :) :)

Answer 3

Here is the deal you are going through so many changes in brain chemistry and hormones that it is taking a toll on you. To start combating this state you should eat all 3 meals a day with an emphasis on nutrition IE proteins for muscle, caborhydrates for energy and fiber to keep the system clean. Then start exercising each day. A good start is to start walking or riding your bike.

I am not going to judge your weight but and so many people do not have a healthy weight today. Some are too heavy and some are too thin, but you should talk to the school nurse to get a guideline about where you should be for your height. If you are in the guidelines then quit worrying about it. Being tall will work in your favor in the future. Trust me taller people tend to make more than short ones.

Parents usually mean well but they are often not as passionate as teenagers. They view your passion as a fad or phase. Stick with it. Sign up for drama at your school.

And get out of the house and get a little sunshine each day it will help you with your depression as will the exercise.

good luck and take care.

Answer 4

Hi While I was at school I was bullied and when I got home it didn't get much better. But things get better. Being only 14 your body and looks are going to change alot and by the time your 21 you'll look totally different. I haven't seen you personally but there is no fat or ugly people anywhere. Beauty is a thing made up to sell things by making people feel ugly. I am sure you are beautiful inside and out. If you are feeling overweight try changing some things like start exersizing more or eat more fruit and veges, you will start feeling better about yourself and you will be healthier, but don't go on radical diet because at 14 they only do damage to your body.
About your sister, I know at 14 I didn't ever want to talk to my parents about things but I did a couple of times and it actually works sometimes, just talk to them about how you feel and you can also try to talk to your sister. Never I mean never consider horrible thoughts (suicide etc) as you will never find out how great your life will be, once you are older you can change things that you don't like, your lifestyle, your life,. I have battled weight and have recently lost some weight and still am, I have battled being the odd one out and being laughed at, I have battled depression for a long time but things do get better. But I do suggest that you speak to a counceller. Schools have them or there are free helplines, it helps to just have someone to say everything to, If you aren't sure who to call look in the phonebook normally the front has help listings.
When things are bottled up they tend to build up and after a while can make you pop so find someone to confide in and just let it out. You are not alone there are alot of people older and younger then you going though the same. I went through the same as you, now I have two great kids and a great boyfriend, so hang in there and just ignore those people who look at you, they are just jealous that your better then they are. All the best and remember there is always someone to talk to out there, you are never alone. All the best.

Answer 5

Being 14 sucks. Tell your parents you need to go see a doctor and get a physical. You may have a medical problem like low thyroid that is causing this and you need to be checked out. Then counseling will help a lot. Right now, you see things as "global and pervasive" which means you think it will always be like this and it will last forever. It won't but it feels that way. People are not staring at you, they're worried about their own problems. You can join a teen theatre program this summer to learn how to act, and being around other kids like you will help, and it's useful to know how to memorize stuff for school whether you go into acting or not. There's two books that will help you too: "7 Habits for Highly Effective Teens" and "Learned Optimism." Hope that helps: good luck!

Answer 6

hey! i'm here for u! at 14 y.o. it's ok if u feel like everything sucks. i felt that way too at times at that age. it's an awkward age...not too many things go right and u have very little control over anything. the important thing is to never let those feelings get in the way and keep moving towards making urself more beautiful, stronger,...just become the best version of urself! don't expect to see that much improvement for another 10 years...it'll take about another 10 years to see major differences...so just keep plugging away. don't turn to drugs or stupid, abusive boyfriends...but hopeful, upbeat music is definitely a plus.
keep in mind that things are always changing...nothing is really that solid...just relax...stop struggling and screaming against the fact that things are slipping through ur fingers. everything changes in this world...which means that one day u will get ur day. they say everyone gets at least one minute of fame in their life.
so keep at ur studies...and u can send me messages if u like.
by the way, if there's something u feel weak in...like ur appearance, check out books & magazines on fashion tips and hair tips. if u can't dance, check out hip hop dvd's from the library. ur young, so there's a lot to learn. i'm still learning and i'm much older than u. i think the important thing is to just relax...don't think that problems r given as punishment or as a curse...they give u an opportunity to grow and be a better and stronger you! take a deep breath & relax. :)

Answer 7

hey. im 19 and sometimes i feel that way too. but you have to have confidence..dont care what they think about you. Put your mind on somethin and go for it. Dont EVER let anyone tell you that you cant do somethin or that your not good enough. Because you are. And dont ever give up on your dreams, it might take a while...but keep at it sweetie...it'll happen. I Wish you luck and i hope you find that your great the way you are

Answer 8

look honestly i don't know exactly how to answer the question,but i can say this.when i was 14 just like you i went through depression,i cut my arms,my legs,sleep all time,stopped going to school,cried all the time,hated everyone,eventually i did try to overdose on pills.i hated myself me and my dad used to fight a lot so i just knew they hated me.i didn't get on medication or see a therapist or anything like that.it took me years to get over.when i was 15 i started doing drugs to get rid of the pain.i would get so messed up i would pass out,black out.and now I'm 19don't do any drugs don't drink and I'm not depressed.honestly i became my own best friend.i told myself if nobody else in this world was going to love me and appreciate me then i would do it for myself.i knew i was a good person,smart,kind,caring,and beautiful.if no-one else knew it then forget b/c i did.i knew it and god knew it.i just worked really hard on liking myself and then loving myself.i worked so hard to just stop caring what everybody else thought about me.i actually isolated myself from people for months to do it.but th point is i got over it by learning to accept and love myself.i know that sounds hard and it took me years of trail and error.and maybe you should see a therapist or talk to someone,but sometimes you may not want to and if anybody else understands that i do.and you are not worthless,don't ever lie to yourself like that.

Answer 9

is ok tat u cant act.u have other talents..like singing,drawing,etc?? regarding abt the boyfriend thing,u r only 14 yrs old.u r too young to have bf..who knows if u have bf in this young age,u will get cheated by him???dun nd to worried whether u have bf or nt..what make u think tat ur parents love ur sister more than u??moreover u dun have to care abt wad others think abt u...just believe urself..u r imprefect in human eyes..but u r prefect in God eyes...

Answer 10

first of all stop thinking. u wanna be an actress, then study. stop thinking urself to be worthless. and about a bf, i say u r better off without one. these r just fruitless crushes. still depressed? go 2 hell