im pregnant and i do have a bf and eventually we are gonna get married. but right now hes about to get a really good paying job if he gets this job he will be probably like 100 miles away from where we live and theres a posibility that he might move around. so whats it like to be a single mom im scared that when he is gone working ill be all alone and wont be able to handle it. normally family helps but i dont have any family.
2007-05-29 18:58:58 · 8 answers · asked by carrieffms 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
Well im married but right now im rasing our daughter alone and soon our son in sept.
HE is deployed to iraq and wont be back till may 08. So i will be raising 2 alone pretty much
Its tough, but you get by. Just have to take it day by day and there are days you wan to break down and cry from being so tired or just fed up.
You will be able to handle it, just make a routin and stick to it. Before i moved to texas i would wake up take a shower, feed my daughter, give her a bath, wash bottles, watch tv or mess with the computer. Just keeping a schedual wil help you and your baby adjust and be able to get through the day alot faster.
Roght now im waiting to get my apt. and i can start my routin over again.
2007-05-29 19:07:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not a single mom or a mom at all but tons of my really close friends are single moms. I have my friend Judy who has 3 kids ages 4,6,and 9 she lives alone and works and takes care of them alone. Then I have Kristine who was married but he just left her a few months ago along with the 3 kids ages 2,4,and 6 she works full time and has her own house. And Mandy who has one son who is 2 months old she does it alone too. I know they have a hard time and not much free time at all but they all tell me they would not have it any other way and they do the best they can for their kids. Don't worry you will be fine so many people are single parents these days and they are ok and so will you just keep your head up and be strong. When things get tuff just think of your baby and it will be alright. Maybe look online on pen pal sites and find single mothers near you that you can chat with online go hang out with or just talk to on the phone it would proly help you a lot right now. good luck and congrats on the baby.
2007-05-29 19:08:04 · answer #2 · answered by Amy D 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Surround yourself with friends. Most hospitals offer a new mom support group and if you go, you will end up with a great set of friends for life. Sure, it'd be hunky-dory if your boyfriend had a job that offered stability, but he's made the choice to go for something that he wants. I'm a single mom of two. It's hard work, you will be tired, you will be frustrated, and yelling at the boyfriend over the phone never helps. You will be fine. I suggest you get some hobbies, search your soul for your own dreams. Just because you're going to be a mom doesn't mean your life is over and your dreams have to be tossed to the wayside. You just get to be more creative when attaining them because you're going to be a mom. Kids are an awesome blessing, but they don't go away, and they have to be the top priority no matter what. (I'm a full-time college student, part-time bus driver, full-time mom. My kids are turning out just fine. Thank God for friends.) Don't you ever let your boyfriend take away your life, or your dreams.
BTW: Your mothering instincts will automatically kick in, its not always immediate but we're built with them deep inside. You may think the nurses are insane to let you leave the hospital with your baby but just ask a million questions and you will be just fine. Also ask the hospital social worker if there are any good programs for new single mothers that are free of charge. Those social workers are great! (We have Healthy Families in my neck of the woods, a social worker actually shows up at my house once a week or so and checks to see if I'm okay, how the kids are doing, if we need anything, etc. Ask for that type of community program.)
2007-05-29 19:33:04 · answer #3 · answered by blue25tulip 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't wait around for your boyfriend to marry you. I'm not saying he won't, I'm just saying keep living your life. If your boyfriend dumped you what would you do? Get your education, get a job, take parenting classes, find some really good friends to have fun with, network with other single moms. If you and your man do get married you will be a confident woman, if he leaves you you will already be taking care of yourself and your baby. Don't depend on your man for anything but love (love and happiness are not the same thing).
2007-05-30 13:15:37 · answer #4 · answered by Lil' Miss Knowitall 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am a single mom and I have limited help. It is a little difficult, but it is so rewarding. Children bring so much joy that you wont dwell on the struggles. Everything you go through is so worth it when you see your baby happy. Good Luck!
2007-05-29 19:11:40 · answer #5 · answered by Chrys 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u can do. it is hard and i am 42 yrs old with an 11 yr old. just set your priorities and remember that your kid is depending on u and u are all they have. i have no family and a crappy job but u have to just step up and do it. remember to pray alot
2007-05-29 19:35:13 · answer #6 · answered by lady dee 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is going to be tough. I suggest that you move with him, or you are going to be miserable, since you have no family to help! It was tough for me, and I had family! Let's put it this way, I cried at least once a week or more for the first 2 years!!
2007-05-29 19:05:50 · answer #7 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
my mum passed through this same problem...she was living with 4 kids in nigeria and my dad was in italy.....she survived.....we used to see my dad once in a year..like only december.....but she survived alone for 16 years....but we are now riunited in italy for 2 years now..so if you can act like my mum..best..if you can't...i think you have to go with him...
2007-05-29 19:13:37 · answer #8 · answered by judy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋