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My daughter is 12.5 years old and started getting her periods last year. When that time of the month roles around, she is incredible difficult to control with temper tantrums, crying, screaming, fighting with her younger brother and step-father etc. She still doesn't have a regular cycle so we can't really prepare for these outbursts until we're in the middle of one. My question is should I try putting her on birth control to try and even out her cycle and have time to prepare and maybe curb the PMS symptoms, or is there something else I could try? Each month I feel like I'm in the middle of war zone. Any experience or advice would be greatly appreciated.

2007-05-29 17:37:59 · 10 answers · asked by Lostlove 5 in Pregnancy & Parenting Parenting

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When I was approaching my teenage years I was a %*@$% regardless of my cycle. I'm not necessarily saying the same thing about your daughter but I think you need to take into consideration that hormones can do that to someone. Unless she is having other issues with her period, I would look to birth control as a last resort honestly, but ultimately you know what is best for your daughter. I'm 23 years old and I just stopped taking the pill because I do not like how lethargic it makes me feel (and i'm on low dose). Most doctors will tell you the side effects of birth control are minimal but if you can work with your daughter on a period calendar to track her periods and pointing out her attitude changes as they occur it might help you both become more aware of what is going on with her body and thus her attitude.

I hope it gets better for you!!

2007-05-29 17:53:29 · answer #1 · answered by uolytram 2 · 0 0

This is an interesting question, because I went through the same exact thing as a teenager...my periods were filled with emotional turmoil on my part. Also, I had tremendous abdominal pain. My family doctor finally prescribed a pain killer I took every month, but it didn't help the temper tantrums, crying, etc... I was 16 when i was prescribed birth control pills because the doctor found a cyst that was causing the pain and it helped tremendously. However, I'm not sure how i feel about birth control pills and a 12 year old. After all I went through as a teen with the pain and mood swings, the pill simply helped the pain. I'm now in my 30's and still go through the mood swings...it's just something I've learned to deal with. I don't recommend the pill for a girl that age. I wouldn't give it to my daughter. If she's in pain, I would try ibuprofin, but recognize that pms is a fact of life and there's no getting around it...it affects some of us more than others. I would limit her caffeine and chocolate intake..i noticed I craved these things more around my pms time even as a teenager. I wouldn't go the drug route...she's so young...she's at a tough age, too, so don't rule that out with regard to the temper tantrums and outbursts....I have a 9 year old son with all those symptoms and I know he's not going through pms....it's a difficult age!!! Trust me, I've been there.

2007-05-30 03:51:42 · answer #2 · answered by itsuptome92171 2 · 0 0

Talk to a doctor.

I would think that would help but then again I don't know if it has adverse effects on a twelve year old. You never know they might also have a new pill that helps with PMS--I actually think they do. It's not birth control but something else. I'll look into it. I know it's prescription. I would talk to a doctor though.

I would also talk to your daughter. Ask her how she feels about taking the pill, getting a PAP, and her PMS issues. Does she know her behavior is directly related with her period? If she doesn't then I'd let her know. Whenever she has outbursts just tell her to go to her room to cool down. Try to stay mellow about it!

I'm going to try to find that PMS medicine online. I'll let you know if I do or not. Until then best of luck!

2007-05-30 00:44:00 · answer #3 · answered by .vato. 6 · 0 0

I'm 27 and still my periods are irregular. Some of us are just "blessed/cursed" that way. It sounds like more is going on than just PMS. Have you talked to her about having a "melt-down" calm down activity that she knows to go do when she gets the urge to go berzerk? Like put on headphones and go rock out in her room? If it's this bad, she should see a pychologist as well as a physician. Also, talk to your family about steering clear of her when it happens and not to provoke her...as little brothers can do. I don't know. It sounds like more than a simple PMS case...my periods have always felt more like appendix attacks and I didn't like to be bothered when I was in pain. I just curled up with a good book in my room and tried to take my mind off it...and I can't swallow pills, so I had to endure up to 4 hrs of excruciating pain every "Day 2"...and my periods always lasted 8-10 days.
Just try giving her space. If that doesn't work (as I'm guessing you probably already tried that...), have her talk to physician and/or psychologist. Perhaps some hormonal meds could help. Good luck!

2007-05-30 01:40:26 · answer #4 · answered by nancydeanna 6 · 0 0

Your poor 12 year old is acting out confusion. At 12 all she wants is to feel pretty and think about boyfriends. She probably feels isolated, ugly, like a freak of nature, and misunderstood every time she has her period. sit her down and have a girl to girl LIFE SUCKS talk with her. Tell her that you understand how awful periods are. Openly yell out your hatred for periods. Hug her and let her know that she is not alone. Then teach her how to handle all of these feelings. Help her see that women become stronger when they learn to handle the difficulties of periods with dignity. Give her an "I HATE PERIODS" journal and let her write all of her anger in there (you should write in it when you a PMSing too so she can see she isn't alone). I think if you can help her feel like she is understood she will stop trying to convince you that she is suffering.

2007-05-30 20:50:01 · answer #5 · answered by Lil' Miss Knowitall 3 · 0 0

A visit to the doctor is appropriate at this point. There are probably prescription meds she could take to help with the PMS symptoms. This really seems extreme. Could be something else, too, so check it out.

2007-05-30 05:15:54 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

talk to a doctor...

i have a friend with irregular periods too, hers are horrible enough that she has been hospitalized several times....she is on birth control most of the time...

dont hope that this will just end one day, see a doctor and get it figured out now

2007-05-30 00:49:34 · answer #7 · answered by noneofyurbusiness 3 · 0 0

I'd start with OTC remedies before going straight to the pill, but above all I'd check with her doctor. He may have recommendations.

2007-05-30 00:41:51 · answer #8 · answered by fuffernut 5 · 0 0

Give your physicians office a call and speak with a nurse. They may have an answer for you that is right for your daughter.

2007-05-30 00:41:33 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

do something..........

2007-05-31 12:06:25 · answer #10 · answered by slopoke6968 7 · 0 0

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