I just found out that i'm 5 wks pregnant by a guy that I work with. We've know each other for about 3yrs and he's being pursuing me for about 1 1/2. We've been on group outings and things. And just recently I agreed to give him a chance to really pursue me. But we agreed to take things day by day and make things right. However in the midst of that I got pregnant. Both of us are happy and are excited. However we aren't "together" per say. How do I bring that up to see where we stand relationship wise. I mean I want to know if he wants to continue with what we had or if we will just maintain the friendship while being parents. I care but I don't care. I've been hurt so much that I just condition myself to not care about certain things, but at the same time, I'm having his baby and I kinda want to be apart of his life other than just being his "baby mama". Any suggestions on how to approach this?
2007-05-29 17:37:21 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i would tell him that you are prgant and see how he reacts and allso ask him what he wants to do after all its his baby to and he needs to make a decesion about the baby as well. ask him where he stands on relationship wise and what he wants to do as far as you and him it sounds like you both were going to start a relationship and then you found out you were having his baby so you never know he could want to be with you so i would just ask him those questions and see what he says and then tell him how you feel good luck
2007-05-29 17:45:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you can't really go back to being "friends" are you going to keep this baby? This would seem the right time to tell him what you want and ask him what he wants. A child is a big responsibility and if both people are not on board,there will be problems.
I would just come out and say," Are you going to parent this child with me?"
"Is this a relationship that you want to continue with me?"
" I need to know where you stand and what you think?"
I think if you care about this person,it is worth it to ask. In fact you have a right to ask. Blessings to you!
2007-05-29 17:51:55 · answer #2 · answered by Beehaus 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
90% of men are simple. No matter how smart or deep they may seem and maybe even be on some levels, they are still basically "Simple". So what to do with a simple man? Ask a simple question. Be straight forward. Tell him what you want, what you expect and tell him you need to know what he expects before your child is born.
Remember your needs but don't beat around the bush. He'll appreciate your straightforwardness and it'll get you the answers you seek.
2007-05-29 17:44:01 · answer #3 · answered by thisbenobody 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi. Imho, the best approach is the "straight up" one. Simply get the courage, and tell him what you're telling all of us. It sounds like you're prepared for whatever happens, which is awesome. Don't let your pride stand in the way of something that can potentially be even more beautiful than it already is...
Best to you and your baby; congratulations!
2007-05-29 17:44:31 · answer #4 · answered by Artemisia G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the first thing is to just talk to him ... tell him what you want, then ask him what he wants, then work out what best works for both of you
I Imagine that this may be somewhat of a shock for him, so be prepared to give him space to digest all the facts
I hope it all works out for you, remember to really ask yourself what's best for YOU as well (don't be afraid to stand up for what you want) ... because when all is said and done, and reguardless what his decision is on the matter, you want to make sure that you are happy with what's going on as well.
2007-05-29 17:46:40 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you need to talk to him really !! just let him know you want to have a serious talk with him and find out were and when you can get together and talk ! You need to find out now how he feels about it, so you will just have to ask him! just ask him what he wants, does he just want to be friends now or what? does he want more or not ? It's time to get serious and he needs to know how you feel ! what does it hurt to talk to him? you need answers! let him know how you feel too ! good luck to ya!!
2007-05-29 17:53:27 · answer #6 · answered by monkeymomma46 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell him straight out no reason to beat around the bush this is ur and ur babys life were talking about
2007-05-29 17:44:31 · answer #7 · answered by mouse842 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think about the baby...the baby should have a full time dad in it's life.
2007-05-29 17:44:11 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask him what he thinks you should do..
and ask yourself.. do you want to marry him?
you can always maintain a great friendship and be good parents.. it's better to be friends than enemies .. or nothing at all.. so if he wont' marry you.. at least maintain the friendship..
2007-05-29 17:45:58 · answer #9 · answered by lilchikka2005 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, ask him if he wants to share a life with you. if he does then marry him or sonemthing
2007-05-29 17:40:24 · answer #10 · answered by in despair 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋