What do you do when you have lost the will to keep trying?

Question

I have had depression for 6 months now and only realised how i ahve been acting 2 months ago which has made me realise that while i have been this horrible selfish and hiding in my room everyone else has been going on with their lives without me...now they are used to me not being around and i have missed so much, 4 months ago i knew i had depression and i was sure i would beat it, i exercised, ate, went to the doctor, went to a counsellor, am now on meds and still counselling, however none of it has fixed the problem as i am simply unhappy with my life, lacking friends, a boyfirend, and a job that i enjoy, all of which ihave had before, i now see no reason trying to change anything as i can see nothing is going to take back the last 6 months which has gotten me into this horrible unhappy position, i hate where i live but have been there 6 months now and still dont feel settled, to move will take another few months to feel at home...and i go to look at a house then change my mind so

if i have spent 6 months and been saying i will change something and then i go to look at a house or go for a different job interview and find something wrong with it, so whats the point in even trying, as it is really just a waste of time, i spend all my time on the internet looking at jkob prospects, degrees, travel plans, but dont go ahead with any so now i just dont even see the point in looking as i know i'm not going to go through with it and if i dont go throught iwth it i will nto get happy again.......i dont know what to do anymore, i'm just resigned to working in this horrible job and spending my weekends in my room but there is so much more to life...........how didi get here? and my life isnt ieven that bad, no huge dramas or anything, just dont like the area i live in and have grown apart from everyone.....i'm rambling but i just dont see anything helping me and so just want to give up and continue to live in this unhappy state for the rest of the year

Answer 1

Are u on any meds besides anti depressants. When i was depressed i realized the source was my ADD meds. Sometimes that can be the reason for your depression. You should also see a therapist that specializes in depression who will understand your personal needs and can give you the right meds for you.

Answer 2

yea its hard to live without friends, a boyfriend, or a job that you enjoy but if you keep repeating that fact and don't take action, nothing is going to change. nothing comes for free you have to work for it. and you should start by just trying to meet new people again. stop thinking about the past when you WERE depressed. it'll just make you more depressed. it's time to look to the future. you can meet so many new people just by joining some kind of a club or a class. try an activity that you enjoy and take a class. if you give up now, you'll always give up. and don't be so picky. nothing is perfect. if ur not happy or settled in the home you are in now, you probably won't feel that much better in a new home. sometimes you just have to deal with it. keep living on. dont let little things bring you down. do you know wuts great about life, you get a second chance. don't pass it. take it. i have a depressed friend. its hard. i know. but you know wut she recovered and is depression-free! and happy as a bunny ahha. so you can too! :D and remember NOTHING IS IMPOSSIBLE. :) and as a last word "Challenges are what make life interesting. Overcoming them is what makes life meaningful." good luck :D

Answer 3

I can relate. What you need to do is volunteer for a cause involving people less fortunate than you. The results will be two-fold---#1 you will see your life could be so much worse #2 you might make some new friends, which would be good for your self-esteem. Check the web or your local neighborhood newspaper for opportunities. Some fun things I've seen lately are volunteer opportunities at an AIDS treatment center, volunteers needed (auction hostesses, greeters, ticket takers) at a gala/fundraiser for needy children, etc . There are tons of fun things you can do. You never know, you might make a job contact, meet a cute guy, find purpose in life, etc. Good luck and hang in there!!! :)

Answer 4

Doctors? Counselors? Medication? There is no one else in the world who should know yourself better than you. It seems to me that what you really need is a good challenge. Never pity yourself. Open your mind to what lies beyond the current world which you conceive and understand that there's a whole universe out there calling out to you, up for grabs if you would only accept the challenge.

Here's a tip: Read this book called Da Vinci Method. If you've ever been diagnosed with ADD/ADHD, depression, bi-polar or any of that junk, chances are, you're one of the few special people with this special gene. If you want to learn more about yourself, this book is a real helper.

Answer 5

Please trust me when I say that it WILL NOT be this way forever. It may be a while, and it may FEEL like forever, but when you're this low there's nowhere else to go but up.
I went through the same situation a year ago. I was so depressed to the point that I was afraid to be alone, because I thought I might hurt myself.
I had doctors that made me pop pills every day and when they weren't working I had to think about it like this: I have the power! It sounds really corny, but if I didn't think that way about it, I don't know if I'd be here answerinr your question.
DO NOT GIVE UP, WHATEVER YOU DO!
Be strong, because you have the power to change this situation. Pray about it, and I'm sure things will change.
(it may not be immediately, but it will be)*
Stay strong, hon...

Answer 6

Never Give UP!!! I can really relate to your story. Believe me things will get better. But only you can choose to make them better. Don't let life get the best of you. We are all going to experience a lot of rough patches in life but you have to fight back, take control and make things better. Keep up your new job search, unfortunately it is hard for anyone to find a job they truly enjoy going to everyday, but if there are certain careers your interested in exhaust every avenue available to you including cold calling companies. That's how I landed a few jobs. Once you get the job you want start focusing on a new place to live. Set goals for yourself, something to look forward to. Start being around the people you shut out of your life. I'm very doubtful that they are now used to you not being around. I'm sorry to say this and don't take it personally but you are completely feeling sorry for yourself. Depression is a hard thing, I know, I have been on paxil for 6 years. Even though I'm on meds I still get depressed and feel sorry for myself every now and then, its normal, but I fight it and I don't let it take control of me or get me down to point where I don't care anymore or want to be around my friends/family. Just know that whether you realize it or not there are people that need you in their lives, people you know now and people that you will meet in the future. FIGHT the depression and best of luck to you!

Answer 7

I think that you should know that everyone has feelings like this, but it is "how you handle it" is whats different. I think that if you want to, you should talk to someone about it, even if you think you sound dumb, ( you know you've had to hear someone's dumb stuff before too, LOL) It helps to talk about your feelings, and you'll be surprised to find, that other people feel the same way. And when you want to give up, do what I do, I say "I'd rather die trying"

Good luck to you, and god bless ♥

Answer 8

Only YOU can change YOU.... where You live, what Your job is, and how YOU deal with the world. But not having people,or friends around you isn't the end of the world....
Only YOU can change YOU......
Stick with the counseling,,,,,or talk with your clergy (minister)....

Answer 9

Pray pray pray!God can be your best friend.When you pray to him pray to him like you are talking to your best friend.You need him.That is what your life is missing.I do not mean to preach at you,but it is true.When you find him your life will turn around.I have experienced this.When I am far away from him I experience sadness,depression,etc.When I am close to him all my pain is washed away.

Answer 10

if u have problem withyour friends then u should saysryto them and try for new beginning of life u surerly find a way