father smoking...?

Question

my father had a heart attack about 2 years ago. he had been a smoker since he was 16, and vowed to quit smoking after his heart attack...well i found out a few months ago, that he hasnt. my mom and i thought he had quit, and were very proud of him and his accomplishment....it had taken him no time at all, he just stopped. turns out though, he didnt. he has been sneaking ciggarettes from my mother and smoking them when he goes on his nightly walks, which he started after the heart attack for exercise. i know this for a fact because i see him and act like i dont see him taking the ciggarettes, and ive smelled it on him. i want to say something soo badly. i dont know how, i tried once and he denied it. i need to tell him. its bugging me so bad, i cant trust him and he gets on my nerves so fast now. i dont know how to confront him and tell him i know its hard but you need to try. i need help.

Answer 1

While all the above answers are good ones,First you need to get rid of your anger.It sounds like you are more concerned with the lie than the smoking.Second its really none of your business,you can"t just tell aperson to stop smoking and expect them to do it.Why does a grown man have to sneak around his own house,that's a great deal of stress you created.STRESS KILLS.I am sorry for your pain and hope you can work this out,I think your dad loves and care for you alot ,you should spend your time in a better fashion so as to have fun memories and not this lie that has come between you.

Answer 2

While it sounds that you are quite angry with him, concern should weigh more importantly than his hiding the habit. Express your worries in a positive way. It is not your place to reprimand him, but you can let him know that you are concerned in a positive way. Also, it may be difficult for him to stop smoking if your mother is also smoking. For the health sake of everyone, they should both quit. Perhaps you can talk to them together, thus alleviating pointing a finger to just one.

Answer 3

Well if he is lying to you surely he is at least smoking less. Cause it is kind of hard to disappear all the time. Find his cigarettes and hide them. If he says anything, tell him you found them and didn't want him to be tempted. Play up the "I'm so proud of you." "I love you" , "now we will have you longer," cry a little. But don't harass him. Be innocent about it.

Answer 4

First, tell him how much you love him. Then, explain that you want him to be in the best health so that you can share your lives for as long as possible. Next, let him know that you are there for him if he needs help to quit smoking. Tell him he doesn't need to deny it or admit it - you will be there whatever the situation.

Then let or help him do what he needs to do.