We've been together for five years.He proposed a month ago and I told him to let me think about it.He told me he loved me but I found out he was cheating on me with one of my friends.I just don't understand why he would do anything like that to me.
2007-05-29 17:12:55 · 14 answers · asked by Keri 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Some men are just cheaters. I had one like that. He never changed!!!! I am so sorry you are going through this. Get out while you can.
2007-05-29 17:17:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your engagement has been kind of "asleep" for sometime. Why he proposed to you I have no Idea, maybe he sensed that you were getting tired of the relationship, and maybe you were getting on to his cheating - and the marriage proposal would allow him to string you on some more for more of his booty call on demand. The guy is a dog.
Your friend? I don't think so. At least not when she decided to sleep with the jerk.
He proposed and you said you'd think about it. If that's the cae, - I'd say that the party's over right there. If you've been engaged to someone for 5 years and finally the proposal comes up and the bride has to "Think about it" then the answer is "NO".
Why would he do this - becuase he could.
Because you turned a blind eye to what was going on. If he was so bold as to be putting it to one of your friends, how many other women do you suppose he was putting it to over the last 5 years?
I don't mean to alarm you honey, but the first thing I would do is go to your doctor and get tested for STD's. Who knows what this horny old goat could be bringing to your bed? That son-of a %#$@ could have contracted HIV and passed it along to you and neither one of you may know it.
Now I understand why Lorena Bobbit got a knife and did what she did. If the dog ain't got it he can't use it. These days "playing around" is a big deal - gone are the days when you just forgive them and make up; as far as I'm concerned . Hell he may have killed you - you're just not dead yet.
2007-06-07 00:20:51 · answer #2 · answered by jtrall25 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel that it's a good thing that you found out before you married him and your friend is not your friend. Cheating is always a choice and never a mistake he did this because he wanted to. It was a very selfish act and there is no excuse for it. I would not marry him if he was the last man on earth!!! He is a cheater and he cannot be trusted. If you marry this man he will do it again in the future and your life will be miserable. You have to let him go and your so called friend sweetie.
2007-05-30 00:24:09 · answer #3 · answered by Lindsey 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to let him go!!!!!!!!!! if he cheated on you once he is likely to do it again but this time it will be harder to get out of it if you get married to him....... That's not love if he hurts you ..... and with your F.R.I.E.N.D????? she's no friend Either....it sucks when those who love you the most. Or so you thought! hurt you the most! I would not say yes to him and move on just remember he would have or could be the man who your suppose to spend the rest of your life with. How would it feel to always think he can do it again?? why have to live that way and always have this wonder in your mind??? move on you can find better! Good Luck!
2007-05-30 00:57:41 · answer #4 · answered by happy girl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well that is very sad to hear. However I have a feeling he did it because he is just one of those guys that wants more than just women on his belt and he was afraid of marriage and wanted another girl to let loose on.
2007-05-30 00:16:22 · answer #5 · answered by x3love.fantasy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Together 5 years and no ring until now? AND he cheated? Honey he has you on a string. Cut it and move on.
2007-05-30 00:16:48 · answer #6 · answered by Ade 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guys are really hard to understand sometimes. maybe he felt sorry for cheating and realized he really did love you and wants to marry you so you don't leave him or something.
2007-05-30 00:27:12 · answer #7 · answered by Cynn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow thats harsh.. some guys are just born.. evil.. and selfish.. you just gotta look for the good ones..
there must have been SOME kind of sign.. that he was "that" type of guy, and perhaps you didn't see it.. because you thought things were fine between you two.. oh and get rid of that friend.. she is NOT a friend.
2007-05-30 00:18:11 · answer #8 · answered by lilchikka2005 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he thinks by proposing to you it'll make things all better.
2007-05-30 00:16:20 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he truly loved you he wouldn't have cheated on you. you should just get out of that relationship. if he would cheat on you while you guys were dating then he will when your married. just get out and just be friends.
2007-06-06 23:02:28 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋