he has "faith in doing right and all that but, god, jesus and how we all came to be doesnt fly to him...he is a very moral boy very caring and resectful... he believes in the "big Bang" theory.. is there any information on both sides I could show him and we could discuss so he can make an informed choice to what he believes?
2007-05-29 17:09:27 · 26 answers · asked by kristiW 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
it sounds to me like he HAS made an informed choice. Good for him for not believing everything he hears just because some ancient book says it. Be proud of him for standing up for what he believes. He may well change his mind, thirteen is young, but it is the perfect age for such questions to arise.
WHATEVER his final choice is, accept it as his choice. remember you cannot force someone to believe if they don't, and you can't force someone not to believe if the do.
2007-05-29 17:19:08 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I do not believe in Jesus. And by 13 I knew I didnt, but was forced into Christianity. I am 16. I think that religion should be your child's choice, which sounds like you are prepared to let him decide. At 13 he may be somewhat confused and may change his mind in the future, however at 13 I knew my beliefs and I knew what I had faith in. My family didnt think it was a good idea for me to believe what I felt was right and now they regret it. My faith isn't outrageous or anything, I just believe in the people of the world, I think that all people, every living soul has potential to be good and do good. My parents didnt agree with me when I was 13 because they thought I didnt know what I was talking about... 3 years later, and still fighting other family members about my beliefs my guardians finally agree that it is my choice no matter what. If your son knows what the big bang theory is and understands it enough to say that he believes it, I think he has made his choice, and it would be up to you but great to have your support in his decision. Best of Luck to you!
2007-05-29 17:35:14 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's still a bit young to make an informed choice. Kids at that age experiment with different belief systems to see how they fit. By the way, there's no reason a person can't believe in the "Big Bang Theory" AND in G-d. They're not incompatible beliefs. There's a great book, "Genesis and the Big Bang Theory" that I'd recommend.
2007-05-29 18:13:05 · answer #3 · answered by Bubbeh C 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's young and questioning. You don't have to believe in God to be a good person. You have to admit, to a kid creationism does seem pretty far fetched. The only proof he has is what people have written and compiled into a book which has been translated and translated. When given a more logical explanation, one would only expect him to question what he has been taught by religion. He sounds like a smart kid. As he gets older he will be exposed to even more information, other theories and other religions. His journey has just begun, let him take it. Don't try to make him believe what you believe.
2007-05-30 07:14:06 · answer #4 · answered by dkwkbmn 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Please do your son a favor and allow him to believe what he wants. I didn't believe in God either at thirteen and I questioned everything about religion. It's an age that's difficult on a child...you're not an adult and not a kid. You're trying to make your own decisions about what YOU believe at that time. I am now in my 30's and fully believe in God. Your teenager is a bright, inquisitive, and creative boy...allow him to believe what he wants to believe because trust me he will believe many things in life that will change as life changes for him. You can present him with information on both sides of the fence the rest of his life if you want, but don't thrust your opinions down his throat...allow him to take the information you're giving him and make his own choices. You can let him know what you believe and why you believe it - that's called parenting, but allow him to make his own mind up. When I was thirteen I wore all black and wrote poems about death. Today, I'm a college graduate and a great mom going through all that with my own kids. Good luck to ya!!
2007-05-29 21:15:50 · answer #5 · answered by itsuptome92171 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Don't put too much stock into what he says right now. He has no idea yet (& neither do you at this point) what his future holds. I was like that at 13, too. All teens want to be "progressive thinkers"...read:"I don't believe anything my narrow-minded folks think." Most kids (yes, even lovely, respectful, moral kids) have an inherent need to separate themselves from their parent's beliefs. He may be simply testing his wings. In my experience it seems as if people start to turn to God around age 25-28...after their independent days are over and they have kids of their own. As you know, having children and a mortgage will turn almost anyone to prayer! Just play along, for now, as if he's got the world all figured out and give him just a little space.
2007-05-29 17:36:52 · answer #6 · answered by mamasonny 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
My belief is you raised your son great. He can think on his own and he has his own theories on stuff. He isn't controlled on what other people believe and think which i think it is great. I grew up catholic and was raised in a catholic family. I remember when i was about his age that is whole religion thing is "nuts" I began to question on weather or not God was real or the bible was written by a group of drunk men sitting around camp fire a couple of million years ago. I think the best parents are the parents that let their kids choose what they want to believe and don't condemn their kids if they do a an about face and choose to believe in something that their parents highly believe in.
2007-05-30 02:25:49 · answer #7 · answered by Steelers Fan 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was the same way at that age. I think it's a good thing that he's questioning faith as opposed to just believing whatever is spoon-fed to him. If he's that smart to question religion, then I'll guarantee that he's smart enough to pursue a belief that makes sense to him. Although it may not be the faith you followed, as long as it serves him in a way that makes him a better person, then you should be proud that he has found something that defines him individually.
2007-05-29 17:26:35 · answer #8 · answered by coyote71 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
have you always educated him religiously? took him to church? etc.
as far as the science goes he is learning that from public schools
i want to encourage you to look up some of earth and creation theories that coincide with the bible talk with him about it. the gap theory, the anti-deluvian world and some flood theories might be good things for you to search for.
Also make a point of showing him how real God is in your life. no one can resist when we truly see God moving in a serious way up close and personal. this will require you to go deeper in your study of the Word.
if you do this and he still doesn't believe than at least you can say that you informed him
be blessed, I pray for the best for your son
2007-05-29 17:21:59 · answer #9 · answered by tampadiva 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
all you have to ask yourself is what would jesus do....
He would whip the mutha who did not believe in god.
Haha just kidding he would just tie him up and harrass him.
And i personally think he should believe in the big bang theory. Because in all aspects, "banging" is how things are made.
ex. Hammer bangs the nail to make a chair, table, or house
People bang to make babies
So either jesus or scientific molecules had to bang to make the universe!
hahahahahahaha. CRACK IS WACK!!!!
2007-05-30 06:06:22 · answer #10 · answered by chunkymonkeythatisfunky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋