I'm getting very close with this guy and we had a huge conversation in which he revealed how he felt and what he wanted with his life, but since then, he's backed off quite a bit and been a little distant. Is he really "busy", did he lie about the stuff he said, or is he feeling vulnerable because he opened up to me? Just genuine advice please.
2007-05-29 16:26:26 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well . . . I think it's impossible to know what he's thinking without asking him. You missed a couple of possibilities too . . . maybe you didn't react to him opening up the way he expected, or maybe he feels like he's out of things to say. So I'd say we can narrow it down to four things:
1) He's busy or preoccupied.
2) He thinks he said too much.
3) You didn't react to him the way he expected, so he wonders if he said something wrong and he feels awkward or self-conscious.
4) He doesn't think he has anything else to say right now, and he's afraid of boring you or making you think he's a whiner.
If he revealed his interest in you and you didn't show him some interest too, I think that's enough to make (3) the most likely option. Given what you've said about him revealing how he felt, I think that's what happened. If that's the case, he's feeling pretty lame right now and you should give him a call if you like him. He needs to know that you like him back and you're happy that he likes you. Good luck!
2007-05-29 16:44:36 · answer #1 · answered by anonymous 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes guys just have the talk because they think that's what the girl wants to hear, and because they think it will get the girl into bed. The Mr. Sensitive Act.
Either that, or he figures since he already told you all that, you can move on now..but he's not exactly going to sit and talk about his feelings all the time now. Guys aren't like that.
Just act normally, have fun, and don't keep asking "what are you thinking" every other minute. Guys really don't like that.
2007-05-29 23:33:13 · answer #2 · answered by Jayme J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can't you just ask him why he's being distant? Or leave him a message saying 'hey' Miss talking with you, what's up?...
2007-05-29 23:33:59 · answer #3 · answered by Jessica 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it seems that u may have answered your own question! lol or he could just be an ass hole, whichever.
2007-05-29 23:30:13 · answer #4 · answered by Janine 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋