I want to kill myself for my ex grilfriend?

Question

Then maybe she be able to come to grips with who I am, I dont want her back, because she went back to her ex, ex alcoholic, verbally abusive exhusband. Then when I kill myself, she'll realize what she missed out on, someone who was willing to die for her love. She will have to live with that for the rest of her life. Im willing to die for love, who out there agrees with me...........

Thats supposed to say girlfriend.

Is it stronger to live or die. It takes alot of courage to kill yourself, I think that to live with out her is the cowards way out.

I appreciate your answers guys, but im so fu$king messed up right now I dont know what to do. I dont have her thats all I know.

How long do you wait for the pain to go away.

Answer 1

Hello Mate, I am a retired old bloke and live on a small farm in the country in Australia. Along the road of life I have learned a few lessons and can relate to the problem you describe.
I came close once to killing myself over a girl in my youth. I remember it very well. I still send this girl a birthday greeting every year. It was over 40 years ago I went with her for 3 years. When you fall deeply in love, it never completely goes away and in the early stages of a loss of love, life can seem not worth living.
To take your own life so that in some way you hope to punish her, then you have the wrong idea mate. Why would you want to punish someone you love? I suggest you change your thoughts to wishing her well and even pray that her marriage will improve and her husband will treat her with love and kindness. The other way of holding bad feelings towards another person is only going to eat you up and will in fact kill you if you persist with this thought pattern.
Accept the reality, she has returned to her husband and now start looking for another partner. I have had 4 partners in my time and am about to start on the 5th. for various reasons including death. Say to yourself every time a negative thought comes to you - "I will find another love and my life will be very happy and contented" say this over and over and over even though you may not believe it at first. Condition your mind to thoughts of success and it will come to you.
I hope this is of help mate,
Grandpa

Answer 2

Killing yourself is the easy way out... Do you really think that you will affect her life by killing yourself? She may be upset and cry for a time but after all is said and done life will go on. You will not be there for her when she finds out that you were right for her all along. Besides... If she has returned to an abusive environment there is something wrong with her thinking. It is not you....
When will it stop hurting? Not until you take some positive action in your life. Get her out of your head. Hide her pictures and go out with your friends. Keep yourself distracted. After a time you may see her and there may still be a tender spot for her that may never go away. Love is funny like that, but remember this.... Only the strong have; by sheer force of will, the power to continue on when adversity strikes.
The old saying that Time Heals All Wounds is correct. Give it a few months and get your head and life together. Shut yourself off from her because she may try to use you as an escape route if things get too rough at home. You will magically become her guardian angel again when he gets drunk and hits her. You don't need that aggrivation in your life.
Keep the peace and good luck...

Answer 3

Actually it is normal. I prayed a good 12 times a day every day that I would anything to get my ex back. It takes time, a lot of tears and confronting your feelings, and then a lot of happy distractions to make it better. I'm saying it takes years to make the desperate "I'd rather die then not see you" feeling to subside. It's been almost a year and I'm happy with someone new, and I still cry when I hear our old song on the radio. It'll get better for now, just cry when you feel like crying and spend a lot of time doing new things with friends. Don't do things you use to do with him, do things that you've never tried before and spend time with family and friends. The feeling will take at least months to even subside, but eventually it will be better. if you need to talk feel free to email me. Good luck, and hang in there.

Answer 4

I am so sorry for the pain that you're going through, but believe me when I say that suicide is the most cowardly thing a person can do, and the most selfish. Please don't take this harshly, but if someone killed himself over me, I wouldn't think, "If only I hadn't broken up with him..." I would be thinking, "Wow, I had no idea he had all of those issues."

Look at what you've said. You don't want her back. What's the sense in killing yourself? What good could possibly come of that? You would hurt so many people who would be absolutely devastated by the loss of you.

This woman simply is not the one for you. She chose a man who was bad for her from the start and then chose him again. Please seek some professional help to get all of this in its proper perspective. I'm not saying it's not going to hurt, but it will go away. I promise.

Answer 5

this is insane
what have you to gain from this. do you really want to throw your life away for a girl. you are obviously not thinking straight right now. if you wait and stay alive you'll be thankful you didn't act like this. there are other girls. her ex sounds like a jerk she will realise whats shes missing when he mistreats her again (she will learn eventually) and if your with another girl that will be funnier for you. if you die you won't see her realise whats shes missing. and how do you know she will care (she might be a cold hard *****).if shes ran off with another bloke she isn't even worth you thinking about.



*you can't just kill yourself its a permanent desicion and you will be wiping away years of life which could be full of the best happiness ever

*your friends and family need you to stay alive they will suffer if you die

*if you stay strong and wait for life to get better it will be worth it promise (i did this and i am so glad i didn't kill myself you will feel the same if you survive)

*trying to improve your situation is a better idea than killing yourself (get help do whatever to avoid death)

*if you die you will never feel happiness again

*get help avoid killing yourself. suicide is a discision that cannot be reversed so you cannot take the disicion lightly

*this is your only chance of living do you want to waste that?

*if you kill yourself the person or people who caused it have won



EDIT- it takes strengh to live through a trama if your head is really messed up then your not thinking rationally enough to think about death
the pain will go away and you will then look back and thank god you lived (speaking from experience)

Answer 6

There is always something else out there even better! I have been in your shoes and it sucks...then I learned how to re focus my thoughts. You are turning thoughts into a sickness and creating a catastrophe that really does not exist.

You obviously are not close with your family or you would not consider suicide an option because of the awful burden you would create for your family while you get off easy. Suicide is not noble and if you think the threat of suicide is going to make her feel sorry for you, she won't . You should seek counseling though! Quickly!

Answer 7

when she goes back to her abusive ex..she'll already know what she's missing out on..go find a girl thats actually worth living for and she won't leave you. Dont kill yourself over someone that is stupid enough to leave you for an abusive person. Once she see's you happy with another girl then she'll know what she's missing out on.

Answer 8

Is this woman worth the unending, immeasurable pain that taking your life is going to cause your family and other loved ones? We've all been hurt by relationships not working out. It's a part of life. I know it's painful now but trust me you will get over her and will be able to move on.

Answer 9

My husband killed himself while we were going through a divorce in 2003. Everyday I still deal with this and I am coming to terms with I will probably deal with it daily for the rest of my life. It is indescribable how may people you affect with suicide. We have a son together and he asks me sometimes how his daddy died. It is very hard to explain this to my son who is now 6. He did it because he could not face the pain, so he left his pain and inflicted enormous pain on me, our son, his mother, friends, countless people. I will never get an answer but I KNOW if he could turn back time and see what he did to so many, he would choose to live. If you would be doing this to "show" her something- how would you even be able to enjoy the outcome of it if you were not here. Your best revenge is living well and going on with your life without her. I understand you hurt, but it WILL pass, you will find love again. Don't do something that you will regret, and not only hurt her but a countless amount of others. Please do not do it, you are just hurting right now- you can get through this!

Answer 10

If you kill yourself you wouldn't be around to see her realize what a good person you are. She'll realize sooner or later she made a mistake. In the meantime go out and let her see that you can make it without her and be happy. What ever you do don't kill yourself.