with email and text messages? An ego check to see if I'm still interested or too gutless to just talk?
2007-05-29 15:55:39 · 34 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I THINK TO JUST SEE IF HE CAN STILL HAVE U IF HE REALLY WANTS AND (TO GUTLESS)
2007-05-29 15:58:49 · answer #1 · answered by Emilio N 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
It happens, perhaps he thought the relationship was going too far too fast and now feels bad. Email and text messaging isn't really a good way to apologize for the break up. My initial reaction was to say give this guy a pass and find someone better. However, I don't really know him, if it's a one time occurence you might consider giving him a second chance, but if this has happened serveral times before or becomes a pattern in the future, then you should expect that this is the way he is always going to be and decide he's worth putting up with.
In a good relationship that functions after the exulting feeling you get from falling in love has faded, you have to ask to have your emotional and sexual needs met, can he do that? Also when you ask to have your needs met, does he withdraw or does he listen and try to meet them? If the answer in the longer term turns out to be no, then as I mentioned before it will always be like this with him and only you can decide if it's worth it.
2007-05-29 16:10:59 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say an ego check. Send the emails and text messages back with an automatic "away" message that says "I'm out having fun with my new boyfriend. Call me later."
Unless, of course, you ARE interested. And you are, a little bit, aren't you?
Well, if that's the case, quit trying to find hidden messages in things. Don't you know his phone number? Can't you call him and ask him what the heck he's up to?
2007-05-29 15:59:46 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's just his ego. If he didn't call you it's probably an ego check to see if you're still interested, or to see if you've moved on. Whatever you do, DO NOT call him. I made that mistake with a guy who texted me after he broke up with me. I ended up getting hurt all over again!!
2007-05-29 15:59:20 · answer #4 · answered by Jane Z. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
His trying to re-connect, because he probably realized that he made a mistake breaking up with you, and he is not mad enough to just apologized and admit he was wrong. Depending on what his reasons were for the break up, I think he needs to do a better job in convincing you that he is worth your time at least. Somehow e-mai and text messaging just is not good enough. Do not give him the satisfaction of entertaining his attempt to correspond with you.
2007-05-29 16:05:07 · answer #5 · answered by always51787 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A little of both. Besides, guys take break-ups much more harder than females, even if they did initiate it. Guys are use to and/or like to have female companionship and want to hear how much the female really wants them or needs them. they like to play the control factor when in reality, they want to be controlled or coddled and pampered. In a sense it's kinda like a mothering thing.
Above all that, remember the strongest word in any language is NO. You tell them no, they don't understand and will persist.
Good luck
2007-05-29 16:02:33 · answer #6 · answered by Gwynnie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
More than likely a little of both. Blow him off girl. I am not saying that if you weren't to get back together with him that it wouldn't work, but I have seen these on again off again relationships many times, and usually it doesn't work. There was a reason you (or he) broke it off the first time, (and the second, and the third.....lol) don't bother with him, just tell him to bug off, especially when he can't talk to you to your face.
2007-05-29 16:01:52 · answer #7 · answered by pixeydust77 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he's got an ego the size of Vermont. Better be straight up with him.
2007-05-29 15:59:29 · answer #8 · answered by KJ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
His Ego.
To see if he can keep you as a back-up if needed.
To go out with someone and got dumped or rejected.
Can't stand being alone.
The women aren't beating down his door as he expected.
Sorry - I sound bitter, but am not. Just a realist. Usually when a man walks away, he is completely gone. When he comes nosing around it is usual for less-than-above-board reasons.
2007-05-29 16:04:52 · answer #9 · answered by Mrs. Goddess 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Depends on the whole situation, he can just be trying to be your friend which often times doesn't work, or he can be with his friends trying to show off... Every situation is different and depends on the guy. Was it a serious relationship?
2007-05-29 15:59:09 · answer #10 · answered by jmelee85 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not making any assumptions about the longevity or quality of this past relationship, I will say that he has had a change of mind. Don't be too fast to judge him.
2007-05-29 16:05:58 · answer #11 · answered by pitch 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋