My girl friend and I have been dating now for about a year and now she is pressuring me for sex. But i believe in abstinence and she knew that when we first started going out. I have tried tellin her over and over "no" but she is threating to leave me. what should i do?
Thnx
2007-05-29 15:51:08 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Don't let the door hit her in the rump on the way out!
If she is threatening to leave you for this, let her go. She isn't who you thought she was (or has changed, as people sometimes do) and she isn't happy with who you are. You will find DOZENS of girls that will appreciate your character and respect your conviction.
2007-05-29 15:55:29 · answer #1 · answered by Mother Amethyst 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well first off lemme say i really admire the fact that as a male you are stayin abstinent with the pressure from a girl friend. But to answer ur question. If she knew that u believed in abstinence from the get go then she should no better than to mess with you and if he doesn't want to respect that than let her go. I am sure there are many other girls that would love to have an abstinent man. good luck.
2007-05-29 22:57:21 · answer #2 · answered by Smooth Move EX-LAX 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This must be a really big belief for you. If you really love her.. Just keep her at bay. She may be really frustrated but if she loves you she will deal with it with some support from you. I would ask if you have set any plans to get married. If she wants sex and won't get it till you get married. You may want to think about if Marriage is where you are headed. If it is and you are sure you may want to move it along. If she see the light at the end of the tunnel maybe it will give her the same strength you show. If she does leave you.. You can trust that she didn't share your beliefs and it would have lead to issues in the marriage down the road.
2007-05-29 22:57:02 · answer #3 · answered by wonka wonka 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i dont know how you can live with abstinance buddy. im 14 and was this close to losin my virginity. but i said **** that im good. anyway if shes threating to leave you for not having sex than shes not the type of person you want to have sex with. for some people sex is for the person that you know you will love forever. you seem like that type of person and this chick obviously doesnt love you the way you do her. i hope this helps yah
2007-05-29 22:56:09 · answer #4 · answered by i love myself 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If she knew that all along & she's bugging you about it now & she's threatening to leave you for it, I don't think she's worth it!! I think it's so awesome that you are willing & wanting to wait & if she loved you enough she would respect that. You sound like a really great guy & I know there are plenty of other girls out there who would appreciate a man like you. Seriously think about it, good luck!
2007-05-29 22:55:36 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
leave her. i know you've been with her for a year. but if she pressures you to have sex when YOU don't want to... AND she's threatening to leave you? that will not be a smooth road to go down if you stay with her. it's kind of like the guy pressuring the girl but vice versa. NOBODY should pressure their loved one if they TRULY love them ya no??
good luck on the situation
2007-05-29 22:56:01 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
normally its the other way around but dude u know u should believe in things becase other ppl do ... if thats what your on about but if u and just u believes in the whole sex after marriage and she is treating u as if she only wants sex then she isnt the right person for you .
2007-05-29 22:56:39 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
if she wont respect your wishes then maybe you shouldnt respect hers (dont do it)
this sounds bad but eventually depending on how old you are you may break up or go to a different college and she may meet some other guy and then do it with him and if you did it then that would be morally wrong to you but not to her. all im saying is its not worth it bc in the end u dont wanna do it if you really dont want to
2007-05-29 22:56:22 · answer #8 · answered by ♥*_*♥ 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
pardon me. but i think this is pretty rare. for the gf to be pressuring for sex and threatening to leave.
but boy. if its not what you want. leave her. u dont need a partner who forces you on such things. i have left a boy years ago cos he did the same thing to me. i couldnt get over it. never. but i didnt wanna go something against my will.
it hurts. but still. i didnt think im wrong. :)
good luck
2007-05-29 22:56:35 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let her hit the door!~
You told her how it was from the start, and if she cant except that then oh well. I think its neat to see a guy that wants to wait for sex. Stick with your guns.
2007-05-29 22:54:51 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋