Is it FAIR ?

Question

I need to work 9 hrs a day to earn to support my children.
I need to cook for them.
I need to wash for them.
I need to do homework for them.
I need to clean rooms for them.

and when the time come , they said

"Thank to God for everything"

If I didn't do all things above will God give them whatever I do ?


( A story of Single Mother )

Answer 1

I need to work 9 hrs a day to earn to support my children.
(we all need to work)
I need to cook for them.
(are they old enough to learn how to cook or prep food?)
I need to wash for them.
(are they too young to understand how to sort by color and operate a washer and dryer?)
I need to do homework for them.
(??? if they don't have the abilities to do their own homework, their grade level is too high)
I need to clean rooms for them.
(are they handicapped? what part of cleaning their rooms is too difficult?)

Depending on their ages, they will only be as independent as you teach them to be. Growing up, one of my chores was to do the family's laundry. I learned how to do it when I was 8 years old. I've known many kids who were perfectly capable of preparing meals when they were 8 to 10 years old. And even a 6 year old can learn to pick up their things if they aren't physically or mentally handicapped.

If your children are handicapped, you may need a break from dealing with the pressures. It really can be tough. My parents took in handicapped foster children and it is exhausting to care for them 24/7 since they aren't capable of doing anything for themselves. Perhaps a family member can give you a day off or maybe there's a local agency that can help. If you belong to a religious organization, they may want to help you.

As to whether it's "fair", sure it is. You would still need to work, cook, wash, and clean even if you didn't have the blessing of children.

Answer 2

How beautiful. Your children have seen everything you have done for them and thanked God for giving them you. Single mothers work really hard, I know, but loving your children and having a wonderful relationship with them forever is God's gift to you all. Take care. You sound like a loving person who is overworked right now. Children grow, life becomes easier.

Answer 3

You can be proud and happy that God is working to care for them through you.

They should do their own homework.

If they are old enough to have homework, they are old enough to help clean their rooms. Teach them how. Make it something enjoyable that you can do together.

Get help with your anger. You are the adult, it's your job to care for your children. They will sense your resentment.

When they are older they will realize how much you did for them, and the gratitude will come along.

What worries me is the way you appear to be demanding, or needing, them to appreciate you. Giving should be from the heart. You are lucky to have your children. Ask any mother who has lost one.

Answer 4

I guess you seem to forget that we are to honor our parents, that includes single mom's.

As for the running of your household, why can your children not cook, not wash, do their own homework, and clean their rooms. As a single mom, I would expect your children to do more.

And you should thank God for all you have.

Answer 5

No

Jesus said when asked to do the dishes do the pots and pans, wash the floor and wax it as well

Try stopping for a burger before you come home, then sit down and watch TV and tell them to learn how to cook, it'll be beneficial down the road when you're long gone!

Answer 6

God did give them something. YOU!

And these things are your responsiblities (well, actually the homework is their responsiblity, but I imagine you meant you make sure it gets done by them).

Take a deep breath and find some way to have time for yourself. Take it from a single mom--it'll make you a better mom!

May God give you strength!

Answer 7

They thank God for you....He gave them a loving caring and very motivated mother. Mothers like you are a gift from God and the children you have will someday return the favor because you loved them they will love you back.

Answer 8

God gave you to them for a reason. You just listed all of the reasons. If you didn't do those things for them then God would find another way for them to be taken care of. He would be there in your time or their time of need, as he is for all of his children. That's the amazing thing about kids, they believe what they want, and being so innocent, they manage to boost your self asteem or confidence without even knowing it. You are lucky to have them, as are they to have you. Just know that God is with you, and in your time of doubt and confussion, he stands by you and carries you for as long as you need. He won't give up on you, so don't give up on yourself. Without you, he would find another way for your children, but while deciding on who to take care of them, the best he could come up with was you! Love them, and love yourself. May God be with you!

Answer 9

God couldn't be everywhere at once, so He created Mothers. You are the Instrument of His Love for them. And your reward will be commensurate.

But let them do their own homework. How else can they master the material? And teach them to clean their OWN rooms. How else can they learn to care for themselves when they grow up? Discipline is also a part of your job.

The fun part!

Answer 10

Yeah sucks being a dad with kids from a broken relationship as well but the mums have it really tough. Take care and just know that the fact it is hard work is because you are doing a good job