As a guest...?

Question

What are the best and worst parts of attending a wedding? Detailed answers please about what you like/dislike about going to a wedding.

Kasey---

are you aware of the fact that during that hour the wedding party is usually taking wedding photos? thats what the cocktail and appetizer hour is for...

Answer 1

Dislikes:

Long ceremonies: Especially when it's in the summer and the church has no A/C.

When the bride and groom write their own vows: I feel like that is something you should do in private, since a lot of the time your guests have no clue about the very personal things you mention in your vows.

Buffets: Nothing worse than trying to juggle a plate in 3 inch heels across a slippery dance floor. Also, buffet food always seem to be of a poorer quality than what would be served at a sit-down meal (at least in my experience). For example, no caterer would ever be caught dead trying to serve baked ziti at a sit down dinner, yet I have seen that more than once in a buffet line.

Themed weddings: As a guest I don't need to be hit over the head with a theme. Yes I understand that Cinderella is your theme. I understood that when I got your Cinderella invitations, and again when I saw plastic "glass" slippers as your favor, oh and the horse and carriage....and the huge tiara. I get it already. I also tend to think that if you must ask your guests to rent a costume to attend your themed wedding, you should probably save it for a Halloween party.

Garter toss: ughh...so so tacky. Especially when your 6 year old niece caught the bouquet and your 45 year old uncle catches the garter.

Conga lines, tacky songs, off-color best man speeches, cash bars.

Likes:
Ample seating at the cocktail hour. It's hard to stand and eat and hold a glass of wine all at the same time.

Ceremonies that are short and sweet.

Sit down meals: It shows a lot of consideration for your guests when they are served properly at the table like they would be served at a fine-dining restaraunt.

Dessert buffets/Vienesse Hour: I love to have an alternative to dry wedding cake. It's a really good way to end the night.

Answer 2

Best is time with friends and family, and seeing the happiness of the bride and groom/sharing that moment of their lives, and seeing the way they have put everything together to reflect their personalities.

Worst things: Too many speeches, no drinks/food in the cocktail hour, nowhere to sit or set your purse down during the cocktail hour, a long drive between wedding and reception locations, and a cash bar. I mean really, would you invite someone to a party at your home and then charge them for drinks? No way!

Answer 3

Like
Open Bar
Sit down Dinner
Short Ceremonies
Classic Elegance
Bands

Dislike
Cash Bar-Tacky
Buffets
Long Ceremonies
Themes
DJ

Answer 4

Worst: Ditto about ceremonies that last forever. Anything longer than an hour tops is too much.

Best: Enjoying the reception with family you never get to see otherwise. Wedding are one of the few occasions where everybody makes a huge effort to show up and enjoy each other.

Answer 5

Best for me is seeing everyone dressed up so beautifully, dinner, and having a good time at the reception (good music, an entertaining dj, and having a few mixed drinks-one good way to keep the bar costs down is to get a couple kegs of beer, one type of wine or champagne if anyone will even be drinking it, and having a list of drink selections).

Worst is having to drive a long way from the ceremony to the reception (that last one I went to we had to drive for 40 minutes and the directions were wrong!), having a seating chart (it's much easier to designate a table for the wedding party, and then let everyone else fend for themselves), and too-long ceremonies (I hate listening to two or three readings, extra songs, getting up and down to pray at Catholic weddings, and officiants who go on and on and on).

Hope that helps!

Answer 6

Best: Good food, Open bar, Intimate reception setting (not in a huge hall)

Worst: Waiting too long for the bride and groom after the ceremony (puts guests in a bad mood) , buffets, cake cut too late, not serving appetizers during long wait for bride and groom

Answer 7

WORST: ceremonies that go on and on and on and ON. My sister played FIVE songs, had a poem read by the groom's uncle-that the uncle wrote the night before and kept adding to it-it must have lasted at least 8 minutes, another reading, the unity candle ceremony, recitation of regular vows, recitation of vows she and groom wrote themselves, etc. The guests were bored stiff and the bridal party and groomsmen had to stand during the entire thing on stage.

BEST: Getting to see a couple truly express their feelings for each other and getting to see the groom's face when the bride enters the church.

Answer 8

Best part of the wedding day is attending the ceremony - seeing what traditions the couples use in the church service, seeing the happiness of pure joy - not only of the couple, but of the family, and the guests! I cry every time...
For the reception, you gotta have good food, great music, and a full open bar.
No one cares about the decorations, the centrepieces, the cake cutting.... they just aren't as important to the guests.

Answer 9

I agree with everyone else long ceremonies r the worse. overall i like weddings and receptions and i can tolerate alot about them. im assuming ur going to try to avoid what we think is the worste. so plz for everyones sake listen to me. I HATE when its time for the dinner and everyone is walking around that buffet tabel (everyone does buffet to save a few $'s) and theyre grabbin at food and little kids r mommy i dont like that i wont eat it i want this i want that blah blah blah i even saw someone wipe their nose then grab a peice of food WITH THEIR HANDS!!! i also hate when theres a dj or band playing (rather noisly) while ppl r talking laughing kids r running (bc u no they rnt going to b seated more than 5 mins to eat) and dishes clanging and silverware banging. when i was planning my reception meal the thought of it irritated the hell out of me. My solution. I bought a nice calming cd for dinner. just so nice instrumental sounds. (now i havent gotten married yet so i dunno how well this is going to work but my fingers r crossed) but well put the cd on a stereo (save a few $ that we wont have to pay the band for that hour). then we are having a sit down meal. also, we will have enough servers so that within a 5 to 10 (max) minute period everyone will be served. I hate going to sit down meals and table one is finishing as table 6 is being served. also to save on confusion only one dish is being served. it is a universal dish that everyone loves. also, at r bridal table we r allowing the guests of r bridal party to sit w/ their dates. just a few ideas to help the meal go a little more smoothly. Hope it helps!

Answer 10

Ha, Ha, this was the funniest/dumbest thing I ever read!!!! Sorry, but it was!


"Depends on the wedding... one thing that always bothers me is when the wedding party is late for the reception - I mean over an hour late and you're waiting for dinner... "