what about spanking?

Question

do you belive in spanking a 2yr old if they wont listen to you

Answer 1

2 is 2 young for spankings. I first started getting spanked at 3½.

Answer 2

I am a single mother of a soon to be 3 year old, and I only believe in spanking as a last resort if done at all. A Time Out, a loss of privilages, stuff like that seem to work, but spanking is something that I try hard not to do unless he did something to get spanked. Even then, it's not hard, just a slap on the butt where it won't do much. Spanking is only abuse if done daily and angrily.

Answer 3

No, toddlers don't listen as a rule. Spanking will not help. I only use spanking when my child is persistently trying to do something dangerous like running toward the street. And then only enough to underscore the seriousness of the situation. Many people spank because it is easier than trying creative approaches. Research your other discipline options. Redirecting a 2yr old's attention is very effective. Also, make sure you have your kid's full attention before giving a command or making a request. Touch him/her lightly on the arm and say, "Look at Mommy" and then tell them what you want them to do in simple terms.

Answer 4

Sometimes it is hard for me not to spank my children, but I rarely do, and when I do I think that I end up feeling worse about then they do. For a two year old I would confine them to an area for a while, while they have a screaming fit and when they are through I try to have them explain to me why they were sent away. Another thing that has worked very well is taking their favorite toy away and keeping it in my pocket, when they are bad I show it to them and ask if they want it back, almost immediately the bad behavior will stop. I only give it back when I see them doing something that I am proud of and I don't hesitate taking it back when they are being bad.

Answer 5

do time out. One min for every year of age. So if your baby is 2 years old do a 2 min time out. First give a warning, if that doesn't work give a time out and make sure your child knows why they are getting a time out. You have to make sure your child sits down in a corner or wherever for exactly 2 min straight. If she/he gets up in the middle the 2 min starts all over. You may have to constantly put her/him back and it is much harder then giving a spank but at the end of the day it is more effective because your are giving a punishment for a behavior that is not acceptable. AFter your baby finishes the 2 min you repeat what she/he did wrong and why they got a time out and make sure they understand and apologize. 2 min to a 2 year old is a really long time.

Answer 6

Of course not. Read up on what the psychologists have to say about spanking - about its harmful effects on children and the way that it encourages disobedience, violence, crime, drug use and delinquency. Don't take my word that it is harmful - look it up. You wouldn't give your child medical attention without consulting a doctor, so why would you hit your child without checking with the people who actually study children?

Also, anyone who doubts that spanking is a sexual activity should try googling the word "spank" sometime and see how many sex sites you come up with. Heck, you can even just search Yahoo! Answers for the word "spank" and see how many perverted questions you find. If an activity is one that huge numbers of adults do for sexual pleasure, do you really want to do it with your child?

As for Proverbs, have you had a look at what the books of the Bible around it say about bringing up children?

Exodus 21:15, 17 both say that if a child hits or curses his father, he is to be killed.

Leviticus 20:9 says that if a child curses his mother or father he is to be put to death.

Deuteronomy 21:18-21 requires stoning to death any child who is stubborn or rebellious.

Do you really want to use the Old Testament as a child-raising manual?

Answer 7

There is nothing wrong with spanking as long as you follow simple guidelines. First, don't ever spank when you are angry or emotional because that could lead to problems for both of you. Second, spanking should be a last resort so be sure you have tried time outs, hand slapping, reward charts (this worked really well when my daughter was two) etc. Third, calmly explain to them (simple words) what they did wrong. I am extremely careful with spankings and I gave my daughter her first one when she was almost two. Don't focus on age, focus on their intention. If you know that they understand and are purposely misbehaving, then I believe they are old enough to understand consequences. What it boils down to is what you are comfortable with. You have lots of choices for discipline so do what makes you most comfortable and don't worry about what others may say. Good Luck.

Answer 8

2 years old is a bit young, but if it is absolutly necessary a quick tap on the hand won't do any harm. Time outs are VERY effective. But like I said...there are times when a little more is needed. A recurrent behavior that is potentially dangerous would be a godd example of when I would use a tap. But for the most part my 21/2 year old son does very well with the time outs. DO what YOU believe is good for your own. ANd what ever method you do choose...i hope it works well for you. Kids are tough and will always test us no matter what method we come up with. Good Luck!

Answer 9

I don't agree with it at all. My husband and i were both spanked, and both feel it was abusive. When you spank kids learn not to do things because of physical punishment, and not because what they did had negative affects on themselves or others.
Parenting should be more about teaching right from wrong, not imprisoning young ones in a violent world.
By the way, i don't remember one thing that i was spanked for, but i remember the spankings and the negative feelings towards those who spanked me.

Answer 10

Absolutely not! Maybe a light smack to the hand just to get the child's attention, if necessary (not intended to hurt and not leaving a mark).
And this isn't a tactic that should be used too often either, otherwise it loses its effectiveness.
Two year olds don't listen alot of the time, and while we are trying to teach our children that they must listen and obey, we also need to have alot of patience with them at this age.

Answer 11

No. At 2 years old, they don't understand why you are causing them physical pain only that you are.

The best course of action is to remove them from where ever it is that you don't want them to be or continue to take things away from them that they aren't supposed to have.

You should always try to refrain from hitting them if you possibly can because they don't understand the difference until they are much, much older.

Unless they are doing something that will cause them immediate physical harm, I would try not to spank them as a form of punishment but explore other options - time outs, naps, taking away favorite toys, no television time, etc.
Best of luck!
Peace,
Amanda