My fiance and i have been engaged for 2 yrs.Do to "money problems"(his) we had to wait to get married.Now things are better and we are planning he said he whats to keep it as cheap as possible so he does not go back in debt(total for wedding and honeymoon no more than 4-5k)Now this makes sence but after telling me this he goes out and buys a drum set for 1k.Now hes looking at golf clubs for $800 for himself and a $500 guitar for his 8yr old child.now i know he has had to be tight with money for awhile and wants to spend some on himself. but this seems like overboard to me after telling me we have to be cheap with the wedding.i will add i plan on paying for half the wedding/honeymoon its not just him paying.This is his 2nd marrige and my 1st so maybe its a bigger deal to me than him.
2007-05-29 13:50:24 · 4 answers · asked by kathy a 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Does he have a spending problem? He probably told you a cheap wedding because he knows you can handle your money and make a cheap wedding, with that in mind he thinks he can spend money on things that he wants. Since you said he was in debt before, is he going down the same path? I think he is putting his needs before your own a little, afterall he made you wait to get married because of finances now he is spending over two grand. Maybe he just wants a cheap wedding, you should talk to him. I don't know about an $500 guitar for an 8 year old, must be a very responsible 8 year old.
2007-05-29 13:59:31 · answer #1 · answered by divinity2408 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I am engaged and getting married June 8th. TRUST ME when I say this. All together, including honeymoon, wedding, church, licence, accessories, EVERYTHING for the wedding only costed me and my fiance no more than $2000 maximum. My mother was a florist, so I got her to do the flowers and it is cheaper to rent flowers than but them. My dad makes wine, so he made the wine. We went as cheap as possible, we have about 70 people maximum that are going to be there, we are keeping it to family and friends. Keeping it simple. But yes, he is taking it to high. Sit down and talk to him. Tell him that if you wated to get married for financial reasons then why buy all this stuff. Wate until the wedding is over, then get it if there is enough left over after the wedding. But you to are obviously more than compatible to sit down and talk this out together and come up with a reasonable conclusion that you both can agree on. Communication is key, don't give up hope. Talk it out. TRUST ME. Hope this helps.
Wee Man.
2007-05-29 13:58:35 · answer #2 · answered by boychuka 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that you will have your big wedding but it doesn't make sense to start a marriage in debt. It's not about the wedding, it's about the relationship. There are cheaper ways to have a beautiful wedding. Congrats.
2007-05-29 16:59:54 · answer #3 · answered by foreverhoyt 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
TELL him how you feel... he doesnt automatically know this
2007-05-29 13:59:14 · answer #4 · answered by bronzebabekentucky 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋