A friend of mine thinks that being homosexual is not a sin, but practicing it is.?

Question

In other words, she thinks it's ok to be attracted to the same sex, but acting on it is when it becomes a sin. I was taught, and I know, I should find out by studying myself, that if you think about it, it is just as bad as doing it, in God's eyes. But then, how can you control what your mind thinks from moment to moment. Help!

Thank you, everyone, first of all.
Second, I definately do try my best to please God and I don't think He's wrong. Since I was a child I would just feel bad about thinking about doing something that was a sin. Now I realize, I can't control what enters my mind but I can control how long it stays there!
You guys, and you know who you are, are so very helpful and well spoken! (most of you

Answer 1

The meaning behind thinking about it being a sin is if you purposely dwell on it. If it comes to mind one is told to push it aside and think of other things. This is true for all temptations.

Answer 2

I can't remember where it was, but I think it was one of the Apostle Paul's letters that said (and I'm paraphrasing because I can't find it in my concordance) that the thought, when it is "full grown," leads to sin and sin to death. Or maybe it's when the sin is "full grown" it leads to death.

Your friend, if she's attracted to other women, is hopefully praying to be delivered from that temptation. But until she is, she shouldn't feel horrible for impulses she can't control. It's like any other kind of lust. It may cross your mind without your consciously allowing it, but dwelling on it is your choice. That's where a person runs into trouble. If a person doesn't control where their mind wanders, they will eventually give in to their desires. But simply being attracted to women, instead of men, is something she may not have any control over, and in that sense, would not be any different than you being attracted to the opposite sex. Attraction does not necessarily imply lust and fantasizing, and the stuff that would lead to sin.

Answer 3

Two men have sexual intercourse by one of them sticking his penis up the other's rectum. This is an unsanitary act at best, which many find rather revolting. (Yes, I am aware that some males do it to some females; same comment applies there too.) So at best that is just dirty and nasty. The Bible says God don't like that either. That is just man's opinion tho. I know the Bible also speaks of men loving men, like Jesus and John, and David and Jonathan, but it does not say that they lay together in that abominable way. Yes, I know that turns some people on, that they find it very sexy and erotic. Others find causing or receiving pain to be so, or to violate a corpse, or to cover themselves in excrement. How much sexual freedom do you want? How far are you willing to sanction abomination? Foot worshipping (fetishism) is relatively harmless, but is still rather sick, an indication of a deranged mind. If that is the case, what about these butt-boffers? Think about it! That is really nasty and disgusting!

Can't you really control your mind? Then get someone who can to help you. People can be helped. In today's sick society, being sick has become pretty well socially acceptable, but it is still sick. If there is a God, He/She know this, knows what is right and wrong for His/Her children, and has a right to say so. IF the Bible IS, His/Her Word, you thumb your nose at Him/Her at your own peril.

Answer 4

Humans cannot help their sinful positions in this world. Adam and Satan assured that!

But to resist and embrace God is a powerful statement against Satan. Just like the married couple that one spouse is mentally, and physically abusing the other.
It does not excuse the abused spouse from marriage, but it does permit LEGAL SEPARATION. Believe me any one who will abuse their spouse physically will soon abuse them morally and the victim, or abused spouse is then free to re-marry. So too, the person with homosexual feelings, unless they act on them, like the abused spouse too soon to act.
Then there is no retribution, we are what Satan Caused with the sin of Adam.

Scripture, read (1 Corinthians, 6:9-11) You will notice that many who became Christians were formerly practicing homosexuality. But because of their love of God and with the help of His Holy Spirit they changed

Answer 5

Christ said something along these lines, "if you look at a women with lust, then you've already committed adultery with her in your heart."

The act of sin first takes place in your mind and heart.

How to control random thoughts? Great question. First, by keeping focused on Godly things. Second, by knowing you can't control every thought that pops into your brain....that is why we need a savior all the more.

Answer 6

technically she's half right. but then a again, that makes her half wrong.

it's not God's preference for you to be attracted to the same gender. we know He doesn't like us having a lot of hinderances. Believing it's okay, condoning it and practicing it are what make you guilty of homosexuality. if you believe God's wrong, why are you following Him? condoning is like trying to say it's okay to go against God. practicing it is simple sin. the urges to do so don't make you sinful, but adhering to the urges does.

so technically, a "gay" person who doesn't believe homosexuality is okay, doesn't condone it and doesn't practice it, is not guilty of homosexuality. hooking up with someone of the opposite gender is a good next step, or they can abstain. so no you can't control the feelings, but you can control your mindsets: whether you stay in sin or not. your eyes may be caught, but you choose not to release them.

hope that clarifies it!

Answer 7

Jesus (God in the flesh) said that to look at a woman with lust was same as adultery and if you hate someone, that is just as bad as killing them. You cannot help it if a bird flies overhead; just don't let it build a nest there.

Answer 8

the sin lays in the actions as well as in the hearts of man, in the bible it says even thinking about sinning is a Sin, it also says thinking of doing that sin is just as bad as doing the sin itself.

Answer 9

When I was a kid and my mother asked me why I jumped into the mud puddle, and I said it was because another kid told me to, her response was, "If that kid told you to jump off a cliff, would you do that, too?"

"No," was my reply.

So when I ask people, "Why do you hate people that are different from you but have no effect on your life?"

And their reply is, "Because the bible said so!"

The same follow-up question applies. The scary part is that if the bible said to jump off a cliff, many would gladly do it without ever thinking it through.

It seems that you are not in control of your own mind, and therefore cannot honestly be in control of your own life.

Answer 10

the root of sin is in the mind, and thats also a state of sin, man has fallen short of the glory of god, but he has patience and mercy on his beloved that they might overcome and turn from sin.