Is this normal?? I really think she is strange for allowing this 7 year old child to basically "chew" on this pacifier when she stays over, especially for weeks at a time. My hubby's brother just shrug's his shouders and allows this to go on because he doesn't want to upset mum. Mum gets upset at the slightest fits and gets worried. This kid is also a very spoiled and cheeky kid as well and gets whatever she wants. Is this normal? Any ideas??
2007-05-29 13:41:27 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
The only thing I could suggest is tell her she's ruining the child's teeth. Sounds like this woman needs a lot of help.
2007-05-29 13:46:20 · answer #1 · answered by Alice K 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
So she is loved and cared for and like most seven years olds is a little bit cheeky. I think YOU are making this situation into a big deal, when it really isn't. Try suggesting to your mother in law, if it bothers you that much, that she rewards and encourages the child when the pacifier isn't being used. However, most children will eventually stop this type of behavior on their own and you should be aware that trying to force a child to stop using a pacifier can cause more damage than good.
2007-05-29 21:01:38 · answer #2 · answered by GBMC 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's normal to an extent. She is just doing what she has always gotten away with. I suggest finding a way to wane this pacifier from a seven-year-old though. This could cause her teeth to become buck and for her to develop an oral fixation.
As for the behavior, try ignoring the bad and give her praise for being good. Put her in line when she talks back. Make sure she knows that the adults are in charge by taking away privileges and her favorite toys when she misbehaves. Make it a team effort, including your mother-in-law and your hubby's brother.
2007-05-29 20:52:48 · answer #3 · answered by keli 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That pacifier thing is just BULL! It sounds like the woman is just trying to assert her authority over your husband's brother and his wife. She knows a 7 year old shouldn't have a pacifier and she's basically daring them to stop her from giving it to the child. I assume the little girl doesn't have this pacifier at home? Your brother in law NEEDS to say something to his mother. She's 'grandma'...not the child's parent. She HAD her chance to raise her kids. Now, it's HIS chance. She's taking that from him and using his daughter as a pawn. That's just wrong.
2007-05-29 20:45:56 · answer #4 · answered by Lisa E 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, it is not a good standard of behavior but I know several 30ish women who still suck their thumbs. Unfortunately, it isn't really something you can have control over. I suspect they will come to regret not giving this little girl boundaries and limits and cultivating habits that should mature as she ages. Maybe you can encourage better behavior if and when she is in your care. I would think that if the child is actually chewing on this thing she could get choked and I am sure that is a "fit" she really doesn't want to deal with!
2007-05-29 20:47:12 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It definately isnt normal,my son had a dummy as a baby and around 18mths my mother took it off him and threw it in the bin,son wasn,t impressed neither was i.But both of us got over it.Now my sons wife gives in to their daughter who will be 5 in august,which doesn,t go down to well with my son (arguments gallore) my daughter inlaw spoils her something terrible,I cannot say anything or more arguments would ensue.Sorry for rambling but I suppose I needed to get it off my chest.So the answer is definately NO,she should not have a dummy at that age.
2007-05-29 20:55:24 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing to do is throw them all away cause for at 7 there is kids now days that hold nutten back and all they will do is humilate and embarasse her....Because eventually if she is as spoiled as u say it is gonna get out of control to where u and others will have no control of her......LIKE THE BIBLE PHRASE SPARE THE ROD SPOILE THE CHILD
2007-05-29 21:19:57 · answer #7 · answered by JOHN B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like bad parenting
with children you have to be prepared for them to blow up about something you will not let them do
if you are not prepared to take a pacifier away from a kid that is too old to use it then you should not have that child
2007-05-29 20:45:28 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
It is sick and sad, but there is nothing you can do.
If I were you I would throw the damn thing out on the sly...
Will they go and buy another? Thats very odd and not normal.
At 2 I made my daughter give it up.
They will develop oral fixations. It could turn into gluttony and sexual promiscuity
2007-05-29 20:46:47 · answer #9 · answered by Miss Brookyn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take the binky away..say this is for babies...and tell her unless she wants diapers on too...time to grow out of it and replace it with something else....maybe an instrument or loli pop lol!
2007-05-29 20:47:49 · answer #10 · answered by queenofsiberia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋