Is this normal????????

Question

I am 15 years old and I self harm. I have been trying to stop b/c i promised my best friend (for 13 years) that i would and i do not want to break a promice. I have not self harmed for 1week and 5days. I had a dream last night about bitting myself. Is that normal? (i bite and cut)

Answer 1

Alrighty. I'm 16 and in about the same situation as you. I havent cut in 3 1/2 weeks and it's probably the hardest thing I've ever done. I know how tough it is, I really do. I just have a piece of advice I'd like to share with you. You can't stop cutting for someone else. You NEED to do it for yourself, or not at all. Honestly, about a year ago I tried to stop because my boyfriend wanted me to. But I soon learned that it wasn't enough. You have to want it for yourself. You have to want to stop self injuring or else you will not make it for long. Personally, I recommend that you stop as soon as possible because the longer you go, the harder it is to stop, and the more people get hurt in the process. I think your dream was just expressing your pent up desires to self injure. I obviously don't know your entire life's story and therefore cannot give much more aid than this. I wish you good luck in the long journey ahead of you, and don't forget that your not alone. Your friend is worried and wants the best for you, although it's tough because someone who's never gone through this never really understands. Perhaps this helped you, but maybe it didn't. In any case I urge you to be strong and make the choices that are best for your life. Below I have linked my favorite self injury site. It has a lot of helpful tips. You should take a look at it. :)

Answer 2

Hi...
Speaking from experience. I self harmed for 5 years and I have not done it for 3 years.
I don't want to say that's it's normal but it is very common! Self-harm is a way that people cope with their emotions, just like alcoholics drink!
For myself, I did it because I was numb, and severly depressed! By cutting and seeing my blood, I felt alive! The physical pain was felt so much better then the emotional pain. Once people self-harm it can be very difficult to stop. If I were you I'd seek professional help.

Answer 3

self harm....
people aspecially young people can self harm, you are not alone.
there are many reasons why someone could self harm, some do it for attention, some people may really not know why they do it, some people may have seen someone else do it or heard of it some time in their life even though they do not know this is why they do it.
If you did do or continue to self harm after reading this it is important to use clean, like if you draw blood use an anticeptic wipe, if you have ever cut try a "chicken scratch" instead that way you wont scar but you need to:
Try and talk to someone about this, an adult maybe,a youth worker or teacher maybe, someone you can trust someone you know or think will care remember they do care, your friend could be helpful for support but your friend may not have all the answers and may also be confused to why you do this, wot is important is that people do this for many different reasons. One reason could be that a person is finding something in their life difficult they find it hard their emotions, they find it hard to express their emotions, some people feel that they think by cutting themselves or what ever method you use you mention biting that by doing this their pain has turned into physical some people may think this physical pain is easier to deal with than the mental pain that is going off in their head, for a moment they maybe able to let out their anger or whatever emotion and temporarily forget about a problem that maybe bothering them in their life. If you feel like you are about to self harm, force yourself not to think, think what am I thinking, you may not know what you are feeling, try picking up the phone talk to your friend try talking to her how you feel verbally, some people who hurt themselves genrally find it hard to hurt others, if you feel you cannot talk to anyone get a book write write write it dosnt matter what you write. try getting paper pens felts paints anything try drawing a picture or just chucking the paint on use different colours, if you just got a pen just scribble do whatever be creative, be loud if you have to let others hear how you feel, only tell those you trust about your self harm some people can be judged for their mental health if someone at sch does not understand it they may judge you they may make you feel bad, remember these are just feelings feelings can be turned into words and not actions emotionally express yourself in any way you can cause there are many healthy ways to do it and self harm is not the way. you could get counselling even if you think it does not help go a few times anyway because they will listen they will not judge they will listen to you very carefully they probably met others who have self harmed. Try not to take any drugs or alcohol either this will not help.

Answer 4

Nikki-the dreaming about it is normal but I'm sure you know that cutting or biting yourself is not good. I'm going to hope your parents know about this and will find a counsellor because the behavior could escalate. I've worked in Behavioral Health for 30 years and we've had many patients that self harm, so you know you arent alone. There is help and I hope you seek it out. In the meantime, I hope you dont mind if I say a prayer for you.

Answer 5

Of course it is not normal for you to self mutilate nor think about doing it....Dreaming about it on the other hand is perfectly normal as you are in real life making an effort to stop doing this to yourself which I truly commend you for. You do really need to address the underlying problem that would bring you to do harm to yourself though as in most cases of self mutilation, there is another reason or problem that is the cause. Join a support group or keep your best friend as your person you contact for support whenever you feel the urge to do something to yourself. You are headed in the right direction my dear, please don't ever give up and I wish you all the best................

Answer 6

This is normal for you, but not the rest of society. You are cutting and biting and self harming because you cannot control things around you. When you see that you are doing just that -- SELF HARMING, you will address some real issues in your life. I was sexually molested growing up and not that I understand all things, but I can at least grasp harming myself in other ways. Some people cut, some people drink, do drugs or get involved with other abusive people and relationships. Please get help. Contact your local AA and there are organizations within that organization and are completely anonymous. People love you and some just want to use you, but you need to rise above it and love yourself. I hope life brings you flowers and joy and above all else PEACE.

Answer 7

I am in my 30s an began to self harm in my teens. I think it is awesome that you are trying to stop. You may need to work with a therapist and/or be on some anxiety meds that can help you overcome this problem. This is not something that you are alone in!
I went on some medications to reduce anxiety and began working with a therapist. Once the therapy began working and I had fewer urges and dreams about harming, the medications were reduced until I didn't need them.
Good luck!

Answer 8

Time to either talk to your parent/s, a close relative or the family doctor about your self harm behaviors. Some times it takes more than a promise to change, including coounseling. But dreams are just that as long as your don't act on them.

Answer 9

No. Self-harm is not considered to be normal, the desire to do so is considered an illness and treated as such, no less real because it's psychological. It's good that you're able to control yourself to some extent and that you realize that the desire to hurt yourself is something you should resist, but you needn't try to do it without help. Get in touch with a psychiatrist, you don't have to deal with this by yourself.

Answer 10

who is to say what or who is "normal" these days. it is only my opinion, that if a human being wants to "self-harm" themselves, that there must be a "problem" someplace in there lives that maybe they're not ready to "deal with" or "look at" my point: to love oneself isn't easy, and that takes work. we sometimes need help, and can't live life all by ourselves. it is hard to admit that we need someone else to help us. ( a point to ponder) the next time you want to harm yourself, a phone call to a "crisis center" might not hurt. at least they will talk with you. that is a start, and a first step. ( of course, professional help, is the best) maybe a councilor at school, or someone you believe you can trust. again, these are only suggestions, and thoughts to think about. however,please don't treat this lightly, this a very serious problem, and can be worked with. thinking of you, kisses