how can i convince my mom..?

Question

to let me pierce my belly button...
she used to say i could when i turned 16..but when i did she denied ever say that...and now im almost 17. Its about to be summer..i think its so cute and tons of my friends have it..
i wanna try asking her again..any tips?

Answer 1

18 months until you don't need her permission anyway.
Once you tell her you'd rather wait a little over a year to pierce the heck out of your body, she'll cave to the single bell-button request.

Answer 2

You can always pull up web sites that show tastefull photos of gals with the piercings done, do your homework on how much it will cost to include the actual piercing and what jewelry you will want to start with, what the care of it is after you have it done, everything you can get your hands on about it. Put all of this in a folder from begining to end and show your mother that you are serious about having it done, have done your "homework" on it and really desire it. It is one of the least evils I can think of you doing to your body! Tattoos are permanent but if you ever changed your mind about a piercing you can take the ring out and it will eventually heal over again. At 17 you should have the money you need to have this done. Just ask you mom to take you and you will pay for everything to be done and take her to lunch too, ask her if there is anything she may want to shop for at the mall while you two are out. Turn it into a stop in a day's outing for you and mom and maybe she will see it in a different light. You can't force her to do this but if you present it in an adult way with no whining and use your own money it should show her you are responsible enough to make decisions. (As long as you have been acting responsible in the recent past!)

Answer 3

Don't get it before summer, it boosts your chances of an infection by 75% because of the extra sweat, sunburn and pools/lakes/ sand (which your not supposed to go in because of bacteria).

Just try asking her again, be honest have your homework done and have a piercer already picked out (one thats very clean). But don't be surprised if she still doesn't let you, they are some of the worst piercings as far as complications/ later regret and scarring( this is coming from someone with 7 piercings).

On a sidenote if your having sex really don't get it, if you get pregnant the holes stretch out and then don't shrink unless the hole is completely closed (the piercing taken out at leaaast a year in advance).

Answer 4

Heh. I have to agree with your mom on that one, but hey, it's your belly button, not mine. I suggest you find out what her objections are, exactly, so you can tailor your argument to address her specific concerns.

If she's concerned about health and safety issues, find a ton of information about certifications/standards for people who do piercings and about how to care for a new piercing, and maybe statistics about how often the problems she's worried about actually occur.

If she just doesn't personally find belly button peircings nice to look at, you could volunteer to keep it covered when you're around her if she likes. You can say something along the lines of, "Well, I wouldn't pick out the clothes you pick out, and I wouldn't do my hair the same way you do, but hey, we're different people and we don't have to have the same taste. I think belly button rings look nice."

If she is concerned that you may regret it later, point out that you can always take the piercing out if you don't like it anymore. See if you know anyone who had one done and took it out and you can hardly see where it was, and get them to show their belly button to your mom.

Etc...

Answer 5

Maybe you can do it without asking. Of course, that can bring up many more problems. Ask her again, tell her you swear to God she said that, because she did. Don't let her jump the gun and talk you out of not getting it pierced, you want it, and she said when you turn 16, so you're 16, you can get it. She said so, and if she's trying to deny it, maybe (I don't recommend it) you can get pierced without letting her know, then when the time is right, show her and tell her she would let you when you're 16, so there you are. Take care of it too, don't let it get infected, if you ever choose to get the piercing. Show your mom you're responsible enough to take good care of your piercing, and if possible, you can bring some friends over and get them to show your mom their piercings.

Good luck, and it's 100% your decision on what you want to do about the matter.

Answer 6

She said it hoping you'd forget about it. Now that she realizes you remembered, she feels she had no choice but to deny saying it. Some places will pierce it if you're over 16, but some still want parent's permission even then. Wait until you're 18, if you have to. I'm just glad you haven't pierced it yourself. I had a friend that did that, and the things she used weren't sterile.

Answer 7

On option you might try is to discuss with her what she and her friends did that was like piercing your belly button today. Almost every teen does something. I am 56 and it was mini skirts and using the word "bitchin" so maybe you could get her to see it is just a fashion statement good luck

Answer 8

umm 1st of all.. you shoulda planned this better. you're body may not react well with the piercing and you may get a slight infection. you dont want that on in the summer. i say stay without it and in september you should get it! as for asking her, i think you should prove that ur mature enough to handle it and tell her the reasons for getting it. personally i dont find belly button rings to be attractive, i used to but trust me you'll grow out of it! .. just wait a little while. and dont do it behind her back cause she will never trust you again. and you will never get away with anything!!

Answer 9

Most girls age 16 and even younger have their belly buttons pierced these days. It is a very common thing to do. Just ask your Mom again, and good luck to you. (My granddaughter has hers pierced)

Answer 10

Baby you may as well wait until you are 18. That way there's no conflict between you and your mom. Constantly bothering her will only cause more friction. If you're almost 17, that means you're right around the corner from 18!