ok so i am t 16. I have been dating my boyfriend for about 5 months now. My mom told me that she didnt think my boyfriend liked her and i told her it was because he was afraid of her. She said he was more advanced than me (he's not really.. she just thinks i am naive... oops) She says hes pushy with me but the truth is hes not! He never does anything that i dont want him to do! All we ever do is kiss and hold hands and snuggle. It botherd her that he put his arm across the front of my neck once.( he was hugging me from behind and wanted to be sure he didnt touch my chest!) She is a psychologist and you would think she would know me better than any one but really she has NOOOO idea what is going on in my life. I am Mormon so if i ever do anything like that i seek counseling from a Bishop... its very hard to tell someone (esp an adult) that you did something... and I KNOW she does sexual stuff with like 3 different men. I dont know how to handle this with her! Can anyone help?
2007-05-29 11:11:28 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
btw my mom is NOT Mormon and really doesnt know what I believe. She wont listen to me.
2007-05-29 11:12:19 · update #1
also... his dad died about a year ago. he hates his past but anyways after his dad died he thought having sex would make it all better. Its in his past and my mom does not know that! We have made a specific commitment to each other not to do anything sexual. Its in his past and he has given ME no reason not to trust him.
2007-05-29 11:39:39 · update #2
She's just worried about you. Mom's always want to protect their children. I'm LDS too, and my mom also is not LDS, and becasue of this she seems to hold me to an even higher ground than if I wasn't an active latter Day Saint. She wants to know that I'm keeping up with my standards and not compromising them no matter what. Your mom also probably doesn't want you to make mistakes she did. my mom does that too. I've been hearing the "remember to work hard to get in a good college" since fourth grade, because she didn't go to college and is now regretting it. She just cares.
2007-06-01 15:46:46 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a hard one. Why don't you ask to talk to her in private when she isn't upset over something in particular. Ask her to give you specifics about why she thinks he is pushy. Also ask for other reasons she doesn't think he is right for you. You be ready to offer reasons you disagree. Do so in a completely calm matter. It is important for your mom to see that you are mature and have thought this through. You can both learn from each other. If you aren't sexually active and you don't plan to be, tell her to put her mind at ease. If you are considering sex tell her that too. Break it gently and ask her for her advice. Don't throw it in her face that you know she is having sex with 3 men. While I don't think that is right, she is an adult. Her sex life really is none of your business. If you are worried about your mom if she is not being safe or taking risks, you can calmly tell her that you have noticed what is going on and that you are concerned about her. The main key is going to be communication. Also keeping emotions checked. Go into the discussion with an open mind. She may see something in your boyfriend that you don't see. Don't be too defensive. If your mom is a psychologist, she should be able to control herself too. If she does start yelling just tell her you don't want to fight. Ask her if you can resume the conversation once she has cooled off.
2007-05-29 18:26:57 · answer #2 · answered by iceemama 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I know nothing about Mormon's except it strikes me as odd that she isn't but you are. No mom wants to see a boy put their paws all over her little girl. Have some respect and don't do it in front of her. Are you even supposed to be kissing/"snuggling" as a mormon, at this age, or any unless married? If your mom doesn't trust you, have you given her a reason not to..... explain yourself and your beliefs to her and maybe she'll have a better understanding. And if she does "sexual things with 3 different men", she is an adult, you are NOT. however, she should be showing the same respect and not flaunt it in front of you....
Hope I helped!
2007-05-29 18:20:51 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
First off, she is an adult, she can do anything with men she wants to....
second, it isn't that she doesn't trust you, she is looking out for you, like any good mother should do. She wants to make sure you grow up to be a solid, grounded, intelligent, self loving person...so appreciate her comments...would you rather have a mom that didn't care??
if you don't think she knows about your life, then why don't you sit down and communicate with her about it...it might be hard to do, but not impossible...
2007-05-29 18:19:23 · answer #4 · answered by allrightythen 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know nothing about Mormons.
2007-05-29 18:15:33 · answer #5 · answered by luckford2004 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
idt she doesn't trust you i just think she is a bit frustrated/annoyed with you right now.
2007-05-29 18:15:33 · answer #6 · answered by chrissy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell here
2007-05-29 18:15:50 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋