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Question

well my boyfriend wants to go into the military and i was wondering, if me and him are married can i go wherever he gets stationed and live with him? i was also wondering about how many breaks the navy gets a year and how long they have to be gone... and how about the air force too? or what about coast guard? i looked it all up but the sites didnt really give me any information... someone please give me some answers

Answer 1

Only if he's in the states. If he goes to Iraq, he goes without you. You don't really want to wear a burka do ya?

Answer 2

Since you both are not married he will go overseas alone to every assignment as far as I remember. Now if/when you get married you can sometimes go along depending on his rank and the commander of the post he's going to and the branch he going into. An accompanied tour means usually you have to be stationed there for 3 years rather than just the usual 1 for an unaccompanied tour. South Korea is a "hardship tour" and most likely he'll go there alone whether you're married or not and serve one year there (but take it from me it's a great assignment). If he has some rank and gets that assignment later in his army career you could join him there to (like I said you'd be there 3 years then not just 1). I'm speaking from Army experience so I can't say for the other branches. Good luck

Answer 3

In the Army anyway: If married and he gets stationed anywhere other than a war zone or a hardship assignment(1 year), you can go with him anywhere. All branches of the military get 30 days vacation a year(paid), as well as many National Holidays off. Weekends are usually off unless something comes up which is not often. In addition there will be times when he goes to the woods to train for up to a month at a time. Good Luck

Answer 4

First of all, don't jump into marriage just because you are worried about not being with him. Take it slowly. 98 % of military marriages end in divorce. Anyway, you can pretty much go wherever he gets stationed. There are a couple of exceptions. One is if he is deployed then you can't go with him. Two is if he is stationed overseas. You may not be able to go with him if he isn't high enough in rank. All the leave dates are generally the same for all branches. The biggest chunk of time he would get off is at Christmas which is usually 2 weeks at the most, unless he's deployed. Feel free to email with any more questions.

Answer 5

don't just get married because he is joing the army that is a terrible reason to get married to each other!! and yes if you are married you can go to be stationed with him just as long as that country is seen as safe you cant go with him to Iraq or a few other countries because of diseases and what not in that country.

i am an army wife living in Germany right now with my husband. the army its 15 months in 15 months break navy gets deployed Moore often but there 6 months in 6 months break the air force there's a good chance he will be home by dinner every night and i am not sure about the coast guard.

but please think wisely and don't get married just because he is joing the military.

Answer 6

For the navy it depends on where and how long he will be stationed there. up until recently family's couldn't go to Korea at all, but that changed recently. For us to come to Japan my husband had to be here for 3 years. For schools etc then you will probably be separated for the length of time. Also how long he is home depends of if he is on a ship vs shore, if he is forward deployed or not. When we were state-side he was deployed for 6 months at a time about every other year, here he is gone about 285 days a year (out to sea).

Answer 7

Yes.
If you are married at the time he is in training and gets deployed, you would move around with him and live either in an apartment near the base that he is training at, or on the base with him as he is nearing his deployment.

Once he is deployed, you would continue to live on the base that he was deployed out of, in his absence.

I know this is true for my boss's son, who is a 2nd Lt. Marine, currently deployed in Iraq.

Think carefully, if you are really ready for this. You have to be a strong woman, especially if you become pregnant prior to his deployment, and/or give birth while he is in Iraq, for instance. It's very rewarding to be the wife of an Military man, and you will have many stories to tell your children, but if he does not return from the War, it is very disheartening.

Marines generally have a 7 to 8 month run with the possibilty of an extension. Other positions are often deployed for a longer period of time.

Good luck to you.

Answer 8

like someone said earlier, you can go once he reaches his first permanent duty station. once there, other people can tell you their deployment schedule exactly. as in how many months are they deployed (you cant go on deployments) and how many months they are in homeport (at home). i am in a navy unit that deploys for 6 months and then comes home for 10. unless world war 3 breaks out, that wont change. most ships have a longer homeport period, for example 6 month deployment and 18 month homeport. but during that homeport period, the ship may need to go out to sea for a couple weeks to do drills and whatnot. he may or may not have to go, but most likely will. its not too bad. other than the deployments its just like a regular job. submarines do like 3 months homeport/3 months deployed, but depending what kind hes on you might not talk to him for the whole 3 months.

nothing beats talking to people actually in the military on this. people that arent in have no idea what they are talking about. sit down with a recruiter and tell him as a wife, what can you expect out of his deployment schedule and he should level with you. most people claim that the recruiters lied to them as a way of placing the blame on someone else or else they just had unrealistic expectations of what they were getting into.

on a side note; while army reserves sounds like an easy deal, like 95% of army reserve units are constantly being deployed to iraq. i would really advise against that. although navy seabee units are also being deployed to iraq every rotation as well. just talk to a recruiter is the best advice. dont do or sign or agree to anything until you guys are both comfortable.

Answer 9

Not necessarily.

Definitely not for Boot Camp and probably school. also there are several locatations where family members are not authorized, such as Korea, Diego Garcia, GITMO and Bharain.

each Servicemember earns 30 days of leave per year. when they can take it, howver, is up to t he command and OPTEMPO. Not at all during schools and during workups for deployment.

being away from home base can be as little as a day or two to 15 months at a time. again, each branch will have their own way of scheduling deployments training and TADs.

Answer 10

Whatever branch of service he enters, you will be completely apart for the duration of "boot camp" or basic training and, probably, during his Advanced Training. If he goes in the Army, once he reaches his first permanent duty station, he should be able to send for you to join him and to live, off base, with him. If he is stationed overseas, the country or location determines whether or not you'll be able to live with him. All branches of service allow 30 days of Annual Leave, which don't limit weekend and/or three-day passes.

Answer 11

Yes, you cn accompany him to most of his duty stations except, if your bf joins the Army and is assigned to Korea, you
won't be able to go with him and having the Army pay for your
travel and have assigned housing. Normally, the Navy does 6monts rotations to their assigned area and return for 6 months back to port. Hope this answers your questions.
Mark