My son knows what he has to do to go on the potty, will pee but not poop. If I push him, he holds it. If I let it go he never wants to sit and try. What do I do??? He went 4 times, 2 months ago and 1 time last week for a friend. Please help. I'm afraid he will be 14 and still in pull-ups.
2007-05-29 10:16:24 · 14 answers · asked by wissa 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
You must get the book "Potty Train Your Child In Just One Day" by Teri Crane. I belong to a mothers group and 7 of us have used this method and have been 100% successfull. I promise if you follow the method of this book you will be successfull!
2007-05-29 10:58:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
For some kids, poop is scary. Seeing it is scary. Talking about it is anxiety provoking. So it they make if in their diapers, they can avoid the concept.
First, I absolutely promise that he will grow out of this stage. Only kids who really cannot, do not. And since he did it before, he will get there. Even if he doesn't try the potty again for months.
Second, since pooping in the toilet is causing him anxiety, and his not pooping in the toilet is causing you anxiety, he is stuck. So my next advice is to leave it be for a few months. If he is in pre-school, they will bring it up there. If he isn't, consider sending him for a day or two a week, or to a pre-school camp this summer, where several times a day, all the kids will line up to use the potty. No forcing, just opportunity.
Finally, my sons were both a bit late. One started early to get the idea, but had a ton of accidents, and at 8, still wets the bed sometimes. Sigh. The other would not allow potty training at all, and then one day, at about 3 years, 2 months, simply decided it was time, and he never had an accident, pee or poo. But for both boys, this was the book that helped:
"I Want My Potty" by Tony Ross
It is not your regular book, and it bothers some people. But my boys loved it, and it seemed to really help them a lot. The main character is a princess.
2007-05-29 10:38:48 · answer #2 · answered by nojunk_9 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i understand that you are concerned. what you may have already heard is that every child is different when it comes to pottey training, and there is nothing wrong with your son. do you think that perhaps he had a bad experience when he tried to poop in the potty the first time? the key is to not push him too hard otherwise he may stop using the potty all together. he obviously knows how to use the potty because you said he goes there to pee. perhaps if you offer a reward for him pooping or try and explain to him that getting him out of diapers is a good thing. my advice is to give him some time and if you really think that there is a problem take him to a doctor or child psychologist. good luck =)
2007-05-29 10:21:46 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Part of the problem might be if he's using the big potty already...toddlers are used to squatting and stooping when they poop in a diaper, and they just don't know how to push out the poop when they're on the big potty. They don't have any leverage because their feet don't reach the ground. I solved the problem for my daughter with a step that had two levels...that way she could use the top step to push against. You can also make sure he gets lots of vegetables and fruits in his diet, to help make his stool soft enough to come out without a lot of effort.
2007-05-29 10:28:20 · answer #4 · answered by Judi 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well relax all i can tell you is that i used the pull ups with my two year old for a week BIG MISTAKE! expensive and a waste of money loose the pull ups! i did and he's been potty trained for a year! i didn't use the pull up with my second son and he's now potty trained i'm sorry to say this but pull ups are diapers just bigger, and more expensive.
2007-05-29 10:29:44 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he isn't comfortable in the bathroom yet to poop. Put his potty chair in his room at first after about a week of him going potty in there then move it closer to the bathroom and then into the bathroom and then the big potty. This worked great for my little one. Good Luck!
2007-05-29 10:21:23 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Put him in some cool underwear all the time... not just sometimes. He will learn very soon that he does not like to sit in his poop. Make him start cleaning himself when he poops... he will find it gross. It will be gross for you too because of course you are going to have to clean him better after he does but I guarantee you he will learn. No more pull ups mom! It worked for me. My daughter has been trained for 2 years... she will be four next month. Good luck.
2007-05-29 10:20:42 · answer #7 · answered by Jennifer K 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Relax. All you have to do is wait. He will get it, and it will just suddenly happen. Boys are slower with this anyway. My sons took their time, and we had much the same worries, and then, one day (both were about 3 when they got with the program), they just started using the toilet. We had tried all the tricks with the first, and no tricks with the second. They just have to want to do it themselves.
2007-05-29 10:25:26 · answer #8 · answered by bewerefan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just let him be 14 and still in pull ups. I'm sure he'll get all the women.
2007-05-29 10:24:17 · answer #9 · answered by Gravity 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have you tried positive reinforcement? We used a sticker chart (she was very excited to put a sticker on the chart) - maybe only for poops in your case...or a promise of a lollypop or something...or a trip somewhere he might like?
2007-05-29 10:20:21 · answer #10 · answered by CG 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋