Remarriage question: Based on the information below, do you think that I can remarry?

Question

My ex brought a third party into our marriage. We were both unsaved when we married. I later accepted Jesus during the separation and divorce. I did try to reconcile but so much had gone on, I knew it would not work. I have remained single because of what the scriptures say but now I believe that I probably could remarry if I found a believer who loved the Lord as much as I do. What say you? Anyone in this position out there?

JWeston2 - My ex has been married 4 times now. I don't think so

Answer 1

The mariage that you have in the past obviously wasn't a good thing. You admit that yourself. The verses that talk about divorce and remarriage were things that Christ spoke to protect the women of the day. Men could divorce a woman without any cause or any legal writ of divorce. They were abusing the fact that they were higher socially than the women. Christ was trying to protect women and hold men to the vow of marriage that they made to their wives. The truth is that some marriages do not work, and some marriages are not based upon the teachings of God at all. However, I believe that God desires all of us to be happy. If your happiness can be found in a new marriage based upon God, then God will bless that in your life. You are not cursed for the rest of your life to be single because you are a divorcee. There are many Chrisitans that are divorced and remarried.

Answer 2

God, the Originator of marriage, designed it to be a permanent union. But is there any Scriptural reason for a person to divorce his or her mate, and one that would allow for the possibility of remarrying? Jesus addressed this matter by declaring: “I say to you that whoever divorces his wife, except on the ground of fornication, and marries another commits adultery.” (Matthew 19:9) Sexual infidelity by a mate is the only ground for a divorce that will allow the innocent mate to remarry, or the death of the husband or the wife..

In addition, the Bible’s words at 1 Corinthians 7:10-16, while encouraging marriage mates to stay together, allow for separation. Some, after trying very hard to preserve their marriage, feel they have no choice but to separate. What can be acceptable Scriptural grounds for such a step?

One is willful nonsupport. When getting married, a husband assumes the responsibility of providing for his wife and children. The man who willfully fails to provide the material necessities of life “has disowned the faith and is worse than a person without faith.” (1 Timothy 5:8) So separation is possible.

Another is extreme physical abuse. So then, if a mate physically abuses his wife, the victim may separate. (Galatians 5:19-21) “Anyone loving violence [God’s] soul certainly hates.” Psalm 11:5.

Another ground for separation is the absolute endangerment of a believer’s spirituality, one’s relationship with God. When a mate’s opposition, perhaps including physical restraint, has made it impossible to pursue true worship and has imperiled the believer’s spirituality, then some believers have found it necessary to separate. Matthew 22:37; Acts 5:27-32.

However, if divorce is pursued under such circumstances, one would not be free to enter a new marriage. According to the Bible, the only legitimate ground for divorce that permits remarriage is adultery or “fornication.”

The Bible allows only one reason for getting a divorce that frees a person to remarry, and that is fornication (Greek, porneia, gross sexual immorality). If fornication is committed, then the innocent mate may decide whether to get a divorce or not. Matthew 5:32.

After telling the Pharisees that the Mosaic concession of divorcing their wives was not the arrangement that had prevailed “from the beginning,” Jesus said: “I say to you that whoever divorces his wife, except on the ground of fornication, and marries another commits adultery.” (Mt 19:8, 9)


Marriage involves two people with differing personalities learning to develop common interests and working together toward common goals. Marriage is a lifelong commitment, not a casual agreement that can be lightly abandoned. In many countries, divorce is not difficult to obtain, but in the eyes of a Christian, the marriage relationship is sacred. It is ended only for a very serious reason. (Matt. 19:9) Christian spouses can avail themselves of wise counsel from the Bible, support from fellow Christians, and a close, prayerful relationship with God. A successful marriage endures, and over the years, it brings happiness and contentment to husband and wife. More important, it brings honor to God, the Originator of marriage

Answer 3

That is tricky question. I'm in a similar situation myself. I know several good Christian men and women who have remarried after going through a divorce. The best advice I can give is to pray and the Lord will answer. I personally feel that, some day, I'll find someone & remarry.

Answer 4

It is good to take your time and seek His will. Do a complete study of all the Bible passages that talk about this.

We cannot help what we have done in the past as unbelievers. Now as a believer you have the Word to guide you, before you didn't.

It is perfectly acceptable to marry again. The Bible is clear on this, especially if you ex was unfaithful and an unbeliever.

If it is God's will that you marry again then pray for His wisdom and guidance in finding someone who is a believer.

take care

Answer 5

I would say you could remarry.

Did you find out what actually went wrong last time. If not maybe you should sort that out first.

There are many different types of people on this planet, you just need to find someone at the same tone, the same reality level as you and then work on improving the relationship.

Answer 6

Honey, don't beat yourself up over it. Sexual sin is Biblical grounds for divorce & afterwards one may remarry. Divorce is not the unpardonable sin, neither is remarriage. You are a Christian & all confessed sin has been forgiven & the slate is clean. My advice? Pray about it & do what gives you the most peace. God bless.

Answer 7

It's not a problem, according to scripture.

Deuteronomy 24:1-2
When a man hath taken a wife, and married her, and it come to pass that she find no favour in his eyes, because he hath found some uncleanness in her: then let him write her a bill of divorcement, and give it in her hand, and send her out of his house. And when she is departed out of his house, she may go and be another man's wife.

1 Corinthians 7:14-15
For the unbelieving husband is sanctified by the wife, and the unbelieving wife is sanctified by the husband: else were your children unclean; but now are they holy. But if the unbelieving depart, let him depart. A brother or a sister is not under bondage in such cases: but God hath called us to peace.

Answer 8

I would say go for it, if he loves God as much as you. Remember in life no one is perfect. We often set expectations for our partners when we ourself can barely acheive it. Do you know councillers say that if you want marrige to be succesful both partners have to be unselfish and helpful to each other. Keep low expectations always and enjoy the most out of life. Always remember God and his authority, it will give you Peace! Give it more time, be kind and gentle as you are anyways to him as well, tell him about your feelings and ask him about his. See what happens and always think positive!
All the Best!

Answer 9

The only marriage that counts in the eyes of God are those performed in a church and in the name of the Father,Son ,and Holy Spirit. Anything else is adultery. So you are free to marry.

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