how do you smack or spank your kids without harming them?

Answer 1

Impossible.
I don't use this lazy form of parenting.

Looks like spanking is really working for you armywife!!
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You're fooling yourself thinking that beating your kids the way you do makes it OK just because you claim it is legal and you don't leave marks. You are forgetting about psychological and emotional abuse. Did you know that exists? It isn't all about physical.
20 sharp slaps to a bare bottom is abuse!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 2

I don't! I guess this is not answering your question but I want to put in my 2 cents: How could you not harm them when you spank or smack them? If they're not hurt physically, you have hurt them emotionally. Most of all, their pride. And their trust in you. You are also teaching them that when one is not behaving accordingly, smacking and spanking is the way to solve an issue!

What message are you sending it out there? Please reconsider if you are still continuing with this type of discipline--for the sake of your children's future. Try taking away privileges for a while. It really works! Thanks advance for letting me put in my two cents.

Answer 3

I'm told that most spankings HURT, that they are supposed to HURT (i.e., the spanking makes the butt HURT -- OUCH!!!!!) But it should not physically HARM the kid -- if it does, then it is ABUSE.

As to whether it mentally/psychologically HARMS the kid ... I guess there are a lot of factors besides how or when or why you smack or spank your kids.

Answer 4

its not harming them as it is not a long lasting pain it is out of love and teachs a lesson. i think smacking is best used for outragoeous behaviour or if all else fails as it is more affective then using it all the time saying that as a kid most things that i did that were naughtey resulted in a spanking but the naughteyer i was the woruse the spanking ie. throwing somthing at my brother 1 or 2 swats on the bottem with my parents hand. Swearing over the knee bere bum with wooden spoon. then if i had had i light spanking for throwing then repeted the same behaviour then i would get told i said no throwing and then proberly put over te knee and spanked i hated being over the knee there isno escaping and it generally hurt more so i was mainly well behavied and 1 spanked was enough.

i spank my kids and i feel it is the best punishment.

Answer 5

Spanking is the quick easy option, but there is no right way to hurt a child.
If the spanking doesn't hurt then it is not going to be very effective..
I think you need to decide whether you want to hurt your child or correct them when they have done wrong. There are many ways to correct a child without hitting them.

Answer 6

hiya,
there other ways to deal with children without smacking them,this chastizes them and it can cause problems in later life for them.im 33 and my dad used to smack us and i remember weeing myself sometimes when he did,and it was always on the bum,but if my partner playfully smacks my bum now i hate it,i don,t wee myself thankfully lol,but its obviously had some impact from my dad smacking me.
Nowadays health visitors and ppl in these professions tell ya its all about how you talk to ur child,looks on ur face and the way you change ur voice,taking away things they like,or the TIME OUT method,i,ve never hit my daughter because i,ve dealt with her in all the above methods,it takes time but it can work.but when you tell them of , come to the childs eye level and change your voice slightly to a sterner one.Only tell a child once when you ask them to do something for you,i made the mistake of this,ie im going to take away ur favourite dvd if you carry on,then i,d say it again and again,but this makes them the winners because my daughter new i wouldn,t,till i started asking once and if she didn,t do it i,d take it straight of her.You can also buy reward charts,these are brill and can work in your favour.
set boundries and rules,its your house and your rules and they should be obeyed.
Smacking is a form of child abuse and can cause problems later in life.
I think children should learn respect but in a adult way and then you,ll get the respect back.
Hope this helps,but we all have differant ways to dicipline our children.

Answer 7

Psychologists tell us that smacking and spanking are bad for children and promote bad behavior better than they curb it. Don't take my word for it - look it up. You wouldn't give your child medical treatment without consulting medical opinion, so why would you hit your kid without looking at what the psychologists have to say?

Just as a "by the way", anyone who doubt that spanking is a sexual activity should google the word "spanking" and see all the sex sites they pull up (or even just type the word "spank" into the Yahoo! Answers search bar and see how many perverted questions they pull up). If a huge number of adults perform an act for sexual fun, do you really want to do it to your kid?

Answer 8

DONT HIT YOUR KIDS!!!!
I'm a teenager myself and if i got smacked i certainly wouldn't just sit there i would call child line people should not hit there kids or anyone it is wrong violence does not solve anything telling them of is stupid to there is mental and physical abuse they are both wrong i am a sensitive 13 year old girl and if my mom started hitting me i would seriously consider suicide!!!
my life already sucks with a moany dad and a midgit brother and horrible school us kids dont need anymore stress thank you!!!

Answer 9

As long as you aren't angry I think you can spank your child without harming them. I know it's a big thing now that you shouldn't spank your child, that it's abuse and I think that for a parent who loves their child and acts out of love and not anger that that is completely absurd. You can't reason with a two year old but a little smack on the butt, whether it hurts physically or just hurts their feelings gets the point across. And making them understand could save their lives.

Answer 10

Interesting range of opinions you are receiving. I think spanking should be minimized, but a smack on the bottom typically sends your message without physical harm.

Answer 11

Do you mean psychologically or physically?

How can a parent allow their children to run riot without chastising them so they grow up horrible and undisciplined?

If a child constantly runs off when out with a parent and is in danger of either getting killed on the road or snatched then if the only way to train them is a smack that is preferable to the alternative!