My brother & I are both adults, & I'm a college student, so I'm living with him until I can get my own place. People tell me "you gotta respect his house.", but I am supposed to get a car soon, & he said with an attitude, "& we not gon' rush to get no car!" But it's MY money. & he's violating my Family Educational Rights to Privacy Act. With my financial aid money, after school is all paid for, I have a right to do what I want with it. It's not his business.
I believe he's going TOO far with controlling me & taking advantage of his authority. I help him pay my share of the rent & the bills, so as long as I can afford to do that, why can't I get a car as soon as I please? Right now I have no transportation to school. He has a car, but he's always gone, so I have to take the bus, which takes 2 1/2 hours to get somewhere, whereas if I were driving, I can get there in 5 minutes. & the bus transportation is very limited & doesn't run that much. I NEED a car living in this town.
2007-05-29 09:26:55 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Just get the car..... you don't need to explain it or talk with it about him... it's not his money.
2007-05-29 09:31:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
He's your brother so...you should move out, and let him do his business, and not take over yours. Get yourself out. You are a fine independent citizen, just like anyone else, and you have every right to find a way to get to where you need to be. Don't worry about what others tell you.
If you have a friend or family member, ask them to give you a ride, if your brother is always out. This is indeed, going waaay too far.
Also for a car, you should call up your nearest auto place, and ask them if they can make a customized car for you, and how much it'll be. Also, I'd ask if they can bring the car over to you, since you have no way of getting there currently. Unless, your brother will kindly drop you off there.
Yes, it's your money, your decision, your right. ;-).
2007-05-29 17:28:29 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like a control freak - my brother tries to be the same way and I am not living with him and his family. When you find a car, tell him that you are going to get it. If he says anything against it, tell him that you NEED a car because of the lack of public transportation. Let him know that you appreciate the help he is giving you but you are paying your way and you have decided to get a car. If he gets angry, so be it. However if handled right you should be able to do it without any unpleasant feelings.
"We not goin' rush to get no car!" What does he mean WE? He think you have a mouse in your pocket ? LOL
2007-05-29 16:58:36 · answer #3 · answered by Patti C 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
That's your brother and he probably is trying to look out for your well being. Try to save up enough money to move out and get a car at the same time then, you will not have to rely on him at all. For now simmer down. Believe me, living on your own or taking on a lot of responsibilities at the same time ie; college,work,and having to pay all your bills by yourself is not as easy as it may seem or sound!!!!!
2007-05-29 16:50:23 · answer #4 · answered by Busy Bee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try to talk to him ask him what reasons he doesn't want you to get a car... or tell him reasons u need one... just remember that no brother would want something bad for his sister hes probably just worried
2007-05-29 16:40:13 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you must keep firm in your choice and evoid arguing. You must buy the car if it is what you want.
2007-05-29 16:43:46 · answer #6 · answered by redkite 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
yes, get the car
2007-05-29 19:38:00 · answer #7 · answered by angel1 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ridic. what a control freak. get a car.
2007-05-29 16:32:40 · answer #8 · answered by Becca R 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Fight for your right. Speak your mind. Don't be scared.
2007-05-29 22:54:44 · answer #9 · answered by Buddy Hodor 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
girl...you NEED to get out of there.
and you said it best...you are BOTH adults...so no, he can't tell you what you can and cannot do. you do not need his permission.
2007-05-29 16:31:02 · answer #10 · answered by Niffer 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋