what should I do to make things better between us.I really like him, but he keeps alot of distance between us.

Question

I met an excellent guy spring of last year.We hit it off extremely well until things went south because of a favor I did for one of my guy friends.I understand now how things may have appeared, but me and my friend are truly just friends and no more, but the guy doesn't believe it.He feels like the favor was too out of the way and that's something I'd do for a boyfriend or family member.I'm just a good friend like that but now I really understand how he feels and I feel bad but I can't take things back.Anyway, me and the guy have had so much distance between us although we keep in touch time to time; I don't get to see him at all, but he visited me Friday for the 1st time in 2months. I like him a lot and I know he likes me too, but what can I do to get him to come back. I feel like both my hands are tied. He makes it so difficult.Why won't he just leave me alone if he's so mad at me?Why doesn't he disappear, why does he keep in touch? Mainly, what should I do. I like him!

Answer 1

Take it easy. Take your time. You say he judged something you did as too intimate or commitment-oriented for a casual acquaintance.

He needs more time to trust you. Just go along slowly and take it one day at a time, and his trust in you will be rebuilt.

Rushing at this point will only scare him away.