I love him but I am tired of being his money supply. I don't want to start a fight with him but whenever I bring up money he always gets all "Why is money so important? Can't you just accept love"
2007-05-29 08:18:52 · 28 answers · asked by movu101779 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Tell him to buy a nice house and car with his love. Do they accept his love down at the grocery store ?
Lady, you have a first class looser. He's probably at his best right now. From here on, it's a down-hill slide.
2007-05-29 08:24:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you should just tell him "I love you, but I can't keep providing you with money and I want to be able to know that this is not going to be a problem later down the road that you want him to get a job or you don't think it's going to work out between the two of you" If he loves you and doesn't want to lose you he will atleast try to look for a job.
2007-05-29 15:24:27 · answer #2 · answered by mom_in_love 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may not have a choice on this one. Just let him know, just what you said about it's time to find a job. It's not right fo ryou to be his money supply if he won't work. Put your foot down. If it starts a fight with him, oh well; ;he'll get over it. If he doesn't , then you know it's time to move on, and it'll be a cheap move at that ! =) You'll save all kinds of money then!
2007-05-29 15:23:05 · answer #3 · answered by suzlaa1971 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, first of all, let me tell you that you are not being "nice" to him by letting him free-ride.
If you love someone, you don't let that person's talent or ambition rot. Sometimes you'd sound mean, but it's for their own good.
It's NOT about money, per se. It's about helping/ supporting someone to realize his or her potential.
Make that clear to him. Tell him you know how wonderful, talented, and ambitious ("I know that there is a Napoleon inside you" or something). It makes you sad to see that he's not realizing his potential. When he says "why is money so important?" Say "it's not about money, it's about love. It's because I love you that I can't see you wasting away your potential."
I mean, come on, who finds couch potatoes attractive?
Personally, I would go to a mean route. I have done that in the past and it does work.
2007-05-29 15:27:01 · answer #4 · answered by cherryblossom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow that's a hug mistake first of all you need to put your foot down and tell him straight up that baby it's not working between us and you are feeling to comfortable in the relationship. It's suppose to be the other way around. The man taking care of the women. Stop it now b/c years might pass and he still saying I'm am going to get a job. He's a momma boy he needs to grow up and be a man and handle his responsibilities
2007-05-29 15:28:11 · answer #5 · answered by ashypink 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love him realy then it is hard but I will suggess you dont worry, Look it will take some days becuase you have to tell him in these days by examples that there are many things which we dont have and just add plus points of these things and told him that you can not arrange money alone, then next is this you should tell him that you both are like wheels of car and if he will stop then he will stop the car. In these days just try to show him that there are things above your range of money then he will desire, when he will desire then he will try.
2007-05-29 15:31:18 · answer #6 · answered by basim_jee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No other way to say it- just be honest. Tell him he's got to help out too and that a relationship consists of TWO people tryin to make things work not just ONE. He might get mad, or even hurt, but put your foot down and show him who's boss. He needs to get a job sooner or later to make it in the real world- whether he's with you or not! If he can't handle it and is lazy-kick him to the curb.
2007-05-29 15:22:54 · answer #7 · answered by melly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, tell him i'm getting very stressed of having all the financial burden, if you can't work then i am going to have to ask you to move out. i'm sorry it has to come to this, but i can't take it anymore. i do love you, but the banks, bills, and grocery store won't accept your love as payment.
don't let him treat you like that sister. be strong in yourself. you deserve a man who will be there for you 100% in every way, including financialy.
sounds like current b/f is enjoying his free ride very much. how long you going to let him stay? put your foot down now before your in financial ruins. money isn't everything, but it is a factor in life.
if he thinks money isn't so important, let him live out there on his own with his love, see how far he gets.
when he does leave, don't let him back in, let him get a job, get his own place, get responsible before you take him back. he might try, dangling a carrot stick in front of your eyes.
like.......get a job, get back in the house, then find a reason he had to quit. then your back to square one.
stay strong sister
2007-05-29 15:26:45 · answer #8 · answered by Jody SweetG 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you knew he didn't have a job from the get. Just tell him you need someone with ambitions and if he doesn't even want to work it is time for you to move on, b/c you are at different time/phases in your life. Tell him you are tired of being his bank and you won't do it anymore, and he needs to grow up instead of depending on people.
2007-05-29 15:25:42 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
LOL - he is playing you for a fool!! Why is money so important? Because he doesn't make any but has no problem spending yours. He sounds like a complete loser.....grown ups work and take care of themselves - immature idiots will mooch off whomever they can find to avoid doing so.
I am sorry to say this but I don't see a lot of potential for this kind of relationship - he sounds like he wants a sugar mama and if the current one complains, it will be easier for him to find another instead of finding a job....
2007-05-29 15:24:04 · answer #10 · answered by Clarissa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋