I am 17 and a virgin. The thing is I've had four boyfriends and three of them cheated on me. They slept with another girl. The fourth threatened to cheat if I didnt sleep with him. I at first thought that me being a virgin is something to be proud of, but it seems like that is why I keep getting hurt. I dont know what to do. I dont want to do anything with just any guy you know? I want to love them. But it seems like the more I dont the more I get hurt. What should I do?
2007-05-29 08:06:52 · 18 answers · asked by ~*Zaidens Mommy*~ 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
First it is not your fault these guys are scum and cheat on you. Don't sleep with someone for fear of losing them. You need to really talk a step back and look at these relationships you are getting in. If these guys actually cared about you and not getting another notch on the bed post they would have stayed faithful. Keep your virginity lose the losers
2007-05-29 08:11:22 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do be proud of it. I would love to find a girl to date that was still a virgin, because I still am as well! You know that you don't have any std's and aren't pregnant, but the biggest thing is that you respect your own body- which is one of the most attractive things I find in a woman.
Don't feel pressured, after all there are plenty of people in their 20s that are still virgins ( I am 22 for one). It sounds like these guys are real jackasses and I'm sorry to hear that. With time you will find the right one. Maybe you are looking in the wrong places for these guys. Also it wouldn't hurt to be single for a little while before you find a decent guy.
Basically whatever happens, don't let the society you live in dictate your morals. It will make you stronger in the end and the world needs more females like you :-)
2007-05-29 08:15:35 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honey, hang on to your virginity. Once you give it away, there's no getting it back. If a boy is going to sleep with another girl just because you won't sleep with him, then let him go. He can then sleep with as many loose girls as he wants. You want that first time to be special - with the one man you're going to love the rest of your life. I have only slept with one man in my entire life, my husband, and I don't feel that I've missed out on anything. It also takes away a lot of the mind games that can go on (am I as good as the last guy she was with, does she wish she was with him instead, is my **** as big as the others she's had, etc.?). There are too many STD's floating around out there, and even using a condom won't protect you 100%. You will find the right guy who will appreciate the fact that you saved yourself for him one day. Do not trade in your sense of value and self-worth for a ten minute romp with a teenage boy who doesn't value you at all. Be proud; I'm proud of you.
2007-05-29 08:17:26 · answer #3 · answered by American 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was a virgin up to the age of 24, there is absolutely nothing wrong with it. The boys that you have to deal with right now just don't have good sense. If you want to wait, then wait, don't let anyone pressure you into doing something that you do not want to do, let them walk on if you have to. When you get older, the guys will be flocking toward you, because you are a keeper, the other girls who give it up to anybody, aren't ones that men want for a lifetime, use your other talents, because you have so much more to you than that. But one thing I will tell you, is that it is not easy, but if you are up for the challenge, then go for it.
2007-05-29 08:13:48 · answer #4 · answered by mianjo413 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
guys think getting a girls virginity is a trophy or something to brag about.. i was in a situation same as you.i had plenty of boyfriends,and never did anything with them. the longest lasted 3 month's. i wouldnt have sex with them. wouldnt give them oral or anything like that..when i was 17 i got myself in a bad situation.dated a guy for a few weeks he wanted to have sex,but i always said no.he was moving and had a big party the night befor he left.well i ended up getting pinned in a room with him and he forced me to have sex with him.i didnt want to give it up.after about 7 months i started dateing a guy i knew since middle school.we dated for a year and half.and neither of us wanted to have sex for a while. we waited 8 months befor we had sex.and thats what i wanted and what he wanted.I was amazing,and felt right. point is..
dont get stuck in a situation you are going to regret.dont date a guy if thats all he wants.and its not your fault if he cheats on you. hes the dumb a** that dosent realize that he actually has a girl that is more than that.i say wait untell you find that right person that you WANT to give it to. weither it be a boyfriend or your husband..do it when you want to,when your ready.not when someone else is ready for you too.
p.s. the guy that stole my virginity,well when he got back from outta town 2 years later,he thought he owned me,and use the i was your first,excuse to try to get me to sleep with him and date him again.DONT LET THAT HAPPEN TO YOU!!!
and the guy i dated for a year and half after that.. well we are still really close friends.hangout and talk all the time.i wish i would have been able to give it to him..
2007-05-29 08:21:28 · answer #5 · answered by misshotcakes2u 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know exactly what u are doin thru cuz i been thru the same things... i had a boyfriend and he pressured me to have sex with him and i didnt . i wanted it to be special and i only been with him for about 3 months..well he cheated on me and had sex with another girl.. so i found a new man and fortunately he was the one.. ur virginity is a gift to whomever takes it... that is what my boyfriend referred to it as... i think that no matter how old u are u should wait until u find that one that u love.. im with that man still and its being 5 years.. so my suggest that u hold on to it until "the one" comes...until then dont care what people think cuz once u have sex and ur virginity is taken u cant get it back... good luck!!!!!
2007-05-29 08:15:22 · answer #6 · answered by skyblue 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If they are leaving you because you won't sleep with them, that is all they really wanted to begin with probably. What you should do is be true to yourself. Do what you think is right for you. You'll likely meet more guys like that before you find someone willing to accept you for you but don't give up who you are and what you believe for someone who very easily could ne gone the next morning.
2007-05-29 08:15:59 · answer #7 · answered by duker918 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
still having your virginity is something to be very proud of. trust me if you loose it before you are truly ready to then you will regret it for the rest of your life. you just havent found the right guy yet. you will. there is definitly someone for everyone. just wait it out. you will be proud of yourself for doing that.
2007-05-29 08:12:20 · answer #8 · answered by ~countrymonkey~ 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The right guy will wait. And you will be GLAD you waited. Any guy who threatens to leave you if you don't let him hide the weenie DOES NOT DESERVE to be your first. Period. Wait as long as you can stand it. There are ways you can help "relieve" your partner without him hiding the salami. Lots of ways. And they are often as good or better.....
2007-05-29 08:11:23 · answer #9 · answered by sky 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A real man is not just looking for a quick score... Stick to your guns. There are many punks that will try to steal one of your greatest gifts. Hold your head high and be patient. A real man is worth waiting for. You.... are worth waiting for.
Be careful who you give your heat to....Be PICKY.....
Good luck..
2007-05-29 08:17:42 · answer #10 · answered by AJM 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋