theres a girl i like, and she isnt a virgin, i feel presured into having sex before i see her in a year so that im experienced for her
this girl is, in my opinion, the prettiest girl i have ever seen, i said that before i knew her, is it worth waiting to lose it to her? there are some other girls that i like but i almost feel like id be using them
2007-05-29 08:03:59 · 49 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
whatever floats your boat
2007-05-29 08:06:04 · answer #1 · answered by Samantha 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
If sex is pressured, it's not worth it. Anything done under pressure isn't worth it because you're doing it for the wrong reasons. Sex is an expression of deep and committed love with the ultimate goal of producing a child between two people who have formed a permanent bond. It's not worth the hurt, the guilt, the insecurities, the risk of disease, pregnancy, unwanted children, and God forbid abortion and all the rest of the baggage that comes with it all for the sake of a night of physical passion with no true meaning. Save it for marriage to the person you want to spend the rest of your life with,... after the wedding. You'll be amazed at how freeing it is to have one person who'll stick by you no matter what and you won't wonder who else each of you slept with.
But that's just my opinion since I've done what you're about to do and know better now. If I had to do my life over again, I would have stayed a virgin until marriage.
2007-05-29 08:19:45 · answer #2 · answered by Rolande 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow what a hard decision to make. I know that there may be insecurities about being with someone with more experience then you. It happens to girls more often tham not. But I will tell you my story hope it helps. I was this guys first. He really liked me and we had a very wonderful night. This was 10 years ago. We dated on and off for a while and although we have both since moved on from that relationship we have a very beautiful bond, just the same as I have with the guy I lost my virginity to. In my case both my first and the guy who I was his first hold a permanenet place in my heart.
2007-05-29 08:11:31 · answer #3 · answered by babe_from_bolivia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I think you have a win win dilemma in front of you. You state that you like this girl and you want to have a little knowledge in the bedroom before you see each other again. I suggest this first. Go to your local library and check out a "how to have sex manual". Get one with detailed photos and. I don't mean "Kama Sutra" Read about the female body parts. Especially read about the "Clitoris", also study your own private parts as well. This will give you some knowledge about what is going on with you during the different phases of arousal. Then when you feel sure about yourself. Make the choice that best suits YOU.
2007-05-29 08:24:51 · answer #4 · answered by Dennis K. B C 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Dear Luke.... I'm 25year old. Let me tell you something. In my opinion it doesn't matter if men are experienced or not. What women like more is the purity of your souls and hearts. This is true and it really exist. And, not only in fairy tales. She musn't know if you are experienced or not. Even she never notice it. What you have to be worried is about being good with her, as fidel too. Fidelity is very important in relationships. Also you must think about if you only want to have sex with her or you really want to be with you and start a good relationship until the end, of it.. May be to get marry any time..
So please think about it and don't do a stupid think, don't play with her feelings, and don't feel bad because she is exeperience and you don't. On the contrary.
2007-05-29 08:19:59 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all... that is a question only you can answer. If you feel you want to lose your virginity only for the purpose of gaining experience than you do so, but if you are unsure then maybe you shouldn't. Second, don't feel pressured to do anything, it was her decision to lose her virginity and it shouldn't impact how your decision is made of losing yours. Plus I feel if she thinks you need to be experienced for her then is she someone you really want to be with anyways? Good luck!
2007-05-29 08:10:04 · answer #6 · answered by vtskigirl417 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Most women I've talked to aren't as worried about having an experienced partner, & some would even prefer being a man's first. Still, ultimately this is a decision you have to make for yourself. There's no guarantees you'll even get to see her in a year, so it's a gamble, but is she worth that gamble to you? One thing's for sure, if the gamble pays off, I bet you'll never forget your first time.
2007-05-29 08:09:54 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Only lose your virginity if YOU want to under YOUR terms. If it is like this then great, go for it; if it isnt like this then don't because it will ALWAYS end in tears. And it is a cliche but noone worth it will ever pressure you to do things your not comfortable with. You'll know if its right.
2007-05-29 08:15:15 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hold on to your virginity, its one thing in life that you can never get back. Its not about experience. Experience is just another word for saying you slept with other people, so it doesn't hold much respect. If you feel that strongly about the girl, you should wait for her. The wait will be worth it, and she'll apprieciate it
2007-05-29 08:10:33 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You should not just give it up to any one, sex is special if taken seriously. You should wait for this girl if you feel that strongly about it. Girls understand when its your first time. Don't use other people to get experienced , wait till its right and it will be good
2007-05-29 08:08:10 · answer #10 · answered by Danielle N 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i think you answered your own question. Sex is outta love not lose your virginity for experience sake. Im sure theres plenty of non virgins out there that suck in the experience category anyway.
Make your first time for the right reason not do it so you can say you have experience.
2007-05-29 08:07:53 · answer #11 · answered by GA 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋