We have been dating off and on for a while now, but everytime we broke up, the next day he was back with his baby's mom. Now he says he's really serious about us and wants to get married and be together, but I'm afraid that history will repeat itself, but I want to be with him. Everytime we get into a arguement I think that he just wants to go back to her, even though he says he doesnt, am I just overreacting?
2007-05-29 07:59:22 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
history will repeat itself
You know that.
He's not serious about his own life, how can he be serious about yours?
2007-05-29 08:02:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't feel I know enough here to really tell you if you are overreacting, but there is something you need t think about. This man already has a child with another woman.That woman is going to be in his life til the day he dies. That is all there is to it. If you need to figure out if you can handle that or not NOW. Because that child needs both of his/her parents, not just one and you can't deprive them of that. It sounds like you need to concentrate more on what is making you fight and break up more than what happens when you break up because that's what you need to be focusing on and fixing.
2007-05-29 08:09:42 · answer #2 · answered by Sheena M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you aren't over reacting, and history does have a way of repeating itself, especially when the pattern has already started.
This is a situation that you need to ask yourself if you can live with, if not then the answer becomes obvious. If you can live with it, you have more patience than I.
2007-05-29 08:04:06 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think your overreacting just for the simple fact that we has always went back to his baby's mom. IF your serious with him you must trust him...maybe hes just visiting his baby when he sees her. TRUST is all there is in relationships...hope everything works out for you. GOOD LUCK!
2007-05-29 08:04:38 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. Just get away from this guy. Apparently, he does not know what he wants. He just wants to have someone on the back burner. Maybe he has a fear of being alone and knows that whatever he does that you will always take him back.
2007-05-29 08:03:58 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, leave him alone...You may love him, but if all he does is goes straight back to her thats what will always happen. You need to just move on...I know its hard, believe me I understand....I was in the same type of situation, and I finally got tired of it all and left....I am now married, have two kids of my own and am very happy...Happiness is out there for you, just with someone else.
2007-05-29 08:03:37 · answer #6 · answered by nichole_lofton 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't get into that relationship. It not overreacting it is precaution, and history will repeat itself, you never know and you don't want it to happen
2007-05-29 08:03:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you are not overreacting. He obviously hasn't gotten over his baby's mom. the evidence is that every time he has trouble with you he runs to her. Do you honestly think he will change?
2007-05-29 08:06:02 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-09 02:01:00 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are not overreacting... the thing is that fact that he is having issues with his kids mom is not a good thing... i dont think that you should into getting married to him till he get his stuff together... also realize that once you say "i do" the baby drama is going to be your baby drama... are you ready to deal with that? it is not your problem to deal with it but if you are going to be in his life then you will have to deal with it...
2007-05-29 08:10:55 · answer #10 · answered by Broken Blue Eyes 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep the relationship going and get some counseling. Just like rust. Oil will do the trick.
2007-05-29 08:03:19 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋