After 8 years and a beautiful daughter together, my fiance and I are finally getting married this Saturday? Why am I so nervous after all this time? Any advice on how I can calm my jitters? Thanks!
2007-05-29 07:36:45 · 25 answers · asked by mbgy2110 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Congratulations!!! You are in the final stretch and it is by far the most stressful time leading up to the big day. EVERYONE gets nervous. It's perfectly natural since it's such an important day!
Try to keep busy with other things if your planning is done. When you start to get jitters, go for a jog, play a game with your daughter, bake or paint something, meditate, or just grab your fiance and give him a huge hug & kiss! Just do something to keep your mind on other things.
Remember that that everything will be great on your wedding day. Even if the weather's not perfect or the cake isn't exactly right, it will still be a perfect day because you're getting married to the man you love.
Good luck and congratulations!
2007-05-29 07:52:34 · answer #1 · answered by tokengrl1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all Congratulations!
Maybe you could calm your nerves a little by keeping a journal of the upcomming events. Start one today and write all of your feelings down. Getting them on paper will make it a little easier to cope with and calm your nerves. Read what you have written and see if your really over-reacting over the whole thing. After all you've been together 8 years already. So it should just be the best part of your 8 year relationship. I have been married for 6 and we talked about everything before we married. Even more then than we do now...lol
Enjoy your special day. Remember it's the first day of the rest of your life!
2007-05-29 07:46:44 · answer #2 · answered by Lisa R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off: CONGRATULATIONS!!! I'll bet it's not even nerves -- just good old-fashioned excitement. You're getting married! It's a day filled with so much joy and positive energy, you're already buzzing. And it's not just excitement for the big day, it's anticipation for the fact that you're entering a new stage of your life. While yes, you've been together for several years and have started a family, this act of commitment means you're moving towards something new. Being married will give you and your husband a new level to discover in your relationship. When you feel the jitters come on, just remind yourself that it's anticipation for all the wonderful things to come, and that you have your whole lives to enjoy it together, so live in the moment and take in every joyful second of that wedding!
2007-05-29 09:03:06 · answer #3 · answered by denise25 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know about you, but my nervousness stems from making sure all the details are just right, not from doubts about the relationship. Everyone gets the pre-wedding jitters, and you're the only one who can know if that's all it is, or if you have actual doubts about the relationship.
If it's the jitters, and after 8 years, it probably is, then just try to put the big day in perspective. It's a grand party with all the people who mean the most to you helping you celebrate your union to the man you love. Remember *It's NOT a performance!! (I'd do well to remember that myself ;-))
2007-05-29 07:43:03 · answer #4 · answered by Happy Wife 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First, allow me to be the latest on the bandwagon to say Congratulations!
As to why you are feeling nervous after being together for so long, I can't explain it other than to say that it is 100% normal to feel so, because marriage is a big step, no matter how long you've been together. Remember, up til now, you've been comfortable together, but now your mind is throwing "What-if's" at you.
Couples whom have been together longer have had the same problems...My mother and her common-law husband for one - they've been together almost 15 years and still haven't set a date.
As for easing your jitters, think about the fact that you love him and he loves you, think about how happy being with him makes you. Spend time playing with your daughter, and keep busy doing things that will keep your mind off the nerves.
2007-05-29 08:07:31 · answer #5 · answered by jcurrieii 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nervousness before a wedding is really normal for any woman. As a woman, we all want the day to be the very best and simply no mess ups. Just the perfect day. Thus, we get nervous thinking that something might go wrong.
Best way to calm the jitters is to take deep breaths, and simply trust God that your soon-to-be-Husband is His Best for you.
2007-05-29 07:46:40 · answer #6 · answered by AynRand S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's normal to be nervous, don't worry about it. Just remind yourself how much you love him, and that even if some little things go wrong at the ceremony/reception, all you're going to remember is the good stuff, the joy and the laughter and the kissing and hugging.
Meanwhile, go take a hot candlelit bath or get a professional massage. Go take a walk in the park. Let your head empty out and tell yourself that no matter what, for the next hour, there is nothing you can do to fix or plan or prepare or think about anything, you have no deadlines, so there is no point worrying about anything - you have one hour to just go phew and relax.
Congrats!
2007-05-29 07:43:36 · answer #7 · answered by teresathegreat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
CONGRATS! It's only natural to get cold feet. Think about why you're feeling this way, but keep in mind that many brides and grooms experience the pre-wedding jitters ITS PERFECTLY NORMAL!!!Pamper yourself with a manicure or massage. Take time at your rehearsal dinner to delight in the company of family and friends.
Come home, light some candles, put on some relaxing music and draw up a warm, luxurious bath. For an extra indulgence, soothe your senses with aromatherapy! MOST IMPORTANTLY: Keep out negative thoughts with positive visualization conjure up a picture of serenity in your mind, and remember to take deep breaths!!!
GOOD LUCK !!!!!
2007-05-29 07:48:30 · answer #8 · answered by erica k 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Congratulations. Thats really great.
I guess its normal for everyone to get the jitters before they get married. Just breath in & out. You & your partner have been together for what I am presuming a long time. The two of you can make it through anything now. I wish you guys all the best.
Congratualtions & wish you & your partner & your daughter all the best.
2007-05-29 07:49:46 · answer #9 · answered by MEHNAZ B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Congratulations!!! Well, I am truly happy for you. It is SO normal to get nervous when your getting ready to take on a new lifestyle. Marriage is a huge step for someone to take so no matter how long you've been with someone, you can still be frightened. Its fine to feel this way. I dont know much about being married because Im sixteen but I do know about trust and giving basically taking on big challenges. Try talking it over with your fiance and let him know how you feel. Dont feel stupid because he'll be glad you did. Be Safe, Be Smart..God Bless (and good luck!) :)
2007-05-29 07:42:19 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋