I was involved with this guy who cheated on me and he expected my forgiveness and I did forgive him. But when I cheated on him 2 years ago, he still brings it up and keeps throwing in my face what I did. What is up with that?
2007-05-29 07:28:51 · 44 answers · asked by deecee4ever 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Why are you two togther? It's obvious that you don't even respect each other enough to be faithful. What's up with that?
2007-05-29 07:31:11 · answer #1 · answered by Jay's Mom 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Whoa whoa whoa. I have to disagree with this question. I am very opinionated, and that's what you came on here for. But I must tell you that you are either close minded or just having bad luck finding someone smart enough. But this is a 50/50 thing. Guys tell girls from the beginning (some) "if you cheat on me i'm moving on" and vice versa. But once you're deep in the relationship, it can be more forgiving for the sake of wanting to be together. It's not true that women are more forviging, it's really more about the maturity, (knowledge) and experience.
2007-05-29 07:34:55 · answer #2 · answered by LadyD 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're right...it's a no brainer. He has cheated on you twice with the same MARRIED WOMAN and got her PREGNANT. It's obvious that he is a player. I mean he has a child and another one on the way. I am not sure why you have the desire to forgive him. But, you definitely should move on and break off the engagement.
2016-05-20 23:55:06 · answer #3 · answered by stella 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi I think you should call your spouse and make Him understand how painful it is for you each time He brings up this issue of your cheating once in the past. Make Him understand to forgive is Divine. Tell Him you need to know He has buried the hatchet and both of you should move ahead with your life more focused than ever because your're supposed to be each other's best friend.Nothing less is good enough
2007-05-29 07:59:26 · answer #4 · answered by ukanabo2iyeze 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Women are generally more ensitive and more forgiving than men, and men are generally more egotistic and possessive, so a lot of times they would do this because they have a difficult time accepting cheating from their partner, therefore feeling inferior and not up to expectations of their companion.
I hope the situation improves between you two and you find a way to reconcile your differences, forgive and learn from the experience.
Good luck to both of you.
2007-05-29 07:40:33 · answer #5 · answered by montralia 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think cheating is a forgivable offense! (For either gender)
I also don't believe that you did forgive him. I think you cheated because it still bothers you and you wanted revenge.
It doesn't sound like the two of you should stay together. You both seem intent on hurting each other.
2007-05-29 07:35:43 · answer #6 · answered by Matt 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i definatly agree with u!!! my ex was the same. he cheated on me and he thought it was no big deal and expected me to forgive him as i loved him i did. but then a while later i cheated on him and he found out and he got really angry and blamed me for everything and years later when somthing happens he always brings it up. but if i bring up him cheating he says get over it.
i like to think they dont forgive us but we should forgive them is because they love us so much there afriad of losing us but we know thats a lie. its just there huge ego! they cant stand knowing that theres a guy that is better in bed them him.
but i have to admit there is one or two guys left in the world that wont cheat on us girls at all and i prey to god that i will find this guy one day. lol
2007-05-29 07:37:24 · answer #7 · answered by rebeccajones85 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No one should expect a woman to forgive being cheated on, it is up to the individual person if they choose to forgive. Not all of us can handle being cheated on the same way another person can. Appears you and your boyfriend need to learn what the true meaning of being in a committed relationship really means. Cheating can sooner or later destroy your love for one another and I simply feel it is not worth it.
2007-05-29 07:33:45 · answer #8 · answered by pictureshygirl 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Where does it say a woman is supposed to forgive? If you did forgive him. You did it on your own. He cheated on you. You cheated on him. You make a great couple.
2007-05-29 07:46:10 · answer #9 · answered by Mister Bald 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's an individuals choice to forgive, just as it was the cheaters choice to cheat.
Women tend to forgive more often than men, because they convince themselves they love him, when what is really the case is they don't want to be single again and have to go through "the search" for another one...and waiting around for him to ask her out (since many women aren't that aggressive).
Guys, on the other hand, are more likely to say "phuque it" and move on. They know there are plenty of other women out there and since they tend to be the aggressors, they can get busy asap finding their next partner. Not to say it doesn't hurt them to be cheated on, but in general they have less issue being single again than many women do.
My 2¢
2007-05-29 07:33:09 · answer #10 · answered by . 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It all goes to the fact that men cannot become pregnant, while women can.
A man must trust that the infant "his" wife produces is his, while the woman, unless she is both promiscuous and stupid, should know who the father is.
Since the entire function of male/female "relationships" is the successful creation and raising of children, the importance of the fidelity thing to men is pretty evident.
Of course, in these days of fatal communicable diseases, the woman should be more parsimonious with her forgiveness, unless she thinks dying of AIDS is a hoot.
2007-05-29 07:33:49 · answer #11 · answered by Grendle 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋