My ex boyfriend still has the ability to make me feel very low.?

Question

I have achieved quite a lot in my life, education and career both. When i used to go out with my ex he used to put me down each time my achievements came up. He has failed in many things in life. Later i found out that he was cheating on me & eventually broke up with him.
But still when he speaks to me once in a while he has the ability of making me feel very low about my self. How can i get rid of this feeling?

Answer 1

He is not making you feel this... for some reason you are believing what he is saying despite the fact it is not true. You have some esteem issues that you should work on. No one can make you feel this way unless you believe it. I know..... I had issues with my self esteem for many years and I allowed myself to believe my ex was able to keep me down. Once I learned to love myself and stop feeding into his crap he had no power anymore.

If he starts to say things that make you doubt yourself then think of something good about yourself. These positive thoughts can help you to raise your own self image and stop him from having this power.

Answer 2

Simple, just stop speaking to him. This guy is a toxic influence in your life, and you made a very smart choice in dumping him. Now it's time to complete the purge and get him out of you life all together.
Tell him you're tired of his need to bring himself up by putting you down, and that you don't want to have any more contact with him at all until he learns how to interact positively. Block his number and his email. Then surround yourself with positive, supportive people who will applaud your achievements.

Answer 3

Ah, but he doesn't have that ability. NOONE can "make" you feel anything but you. It is YOU who chooses to react with a low feeling to his words or actions.

What you have to stop doing is giving his opinions weight. He sounds like a low life, so why are you choosing to let his words upset you? Why does the opinion of scum matter to you?

Stop allowing his words to effect you and they'll have no impact. It's all up to you...why let anyone, especially an ex, have that kind of power over your emotions?

Answer 4

Don't talk to him anymore, at all. After all, there is a reason he is your EX-boyfriend - he isn't good enough for you! It sounds like he just wants to drag you down to his level - don't let him, hang up on the jerk, and avoid him in public.

You also might want to pick up a copy of the book "Verbal Judo" to have some ready one-liners ready to take him on and put him in his deserved place. Good luck!

Answer 5

The answer is very simple...stop talking to him. You need to find a way to completly sever all ties with this loser so you can move on and be around those that will support you instead of viewing you as competition.

Answer 6

Don't talk to him anymore, if that can't be avoided then next time he puts you down tell him to stop putting you down you don't have to listen to his crap, then either walk away or tell him what is really on your mind and rip into him about acting like an a**.

Answer 7

only YOU have the ability to make yourself feel low, when you are around him look at why your not together and feel great about it. better yet don't be around him, and if he asks just say your bad for me go live your life and be firm.

Answer 8

Why are you letting him make you feel this way? You don't have to let him have this control and effect over you. Stop letting him.

Answer 9

it actually depends on you whether you want to feel low or not

Answer 10

Avoid this LOSER entirely.