Some people seem to think it's their God-given right to let their kids run around screaming and carry on, and then do the same thing right back to them, and then say to anyone who disapproves, "who gives you the right to judge", etc etc. Other parents can manage, why can't they? Don't you think bad parents should stop making excuses and receiving so much 'support' when what they really need is a kick up the backside?
2007-05-29 06:45:07 · 10 answers · asked by Sam J 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I think a lot of people find it nearly impossble to say 'no' to themselves or their kids - and set reasonable limits.
It is no fun, believe me, to leave a store or restaurant if your toddler is making a scene, and then you don;t get to go back either. I think some people do not want to punish themselves by leaving a place - or for that matter, having their child get mad at them for setting limits.
But it saves a lot of grief later on, if you teach and reasonably limit your kids when they are little. I hated the saying-no and dealing with mad toddlers, but I like having polite older kids.
Oh and also - I think it helps if people are polite to their kids in return, and treat them the way they want to be treated. I see a lot of parents being quite rude to their kids, as well as parents who ignore bad behaviour, which is also unfair on the kids I think. 'Do unto others,' and all that.
2007-05-29 07:13:57 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
All people do have the right to let themselves and their children run amock, that doesn't make it okay, respectful or polite though. It can be easy to judge a parent on 3 minutes of observation, some days are just like that (my kids are usually good, but there are days where I would rather be taking rabid lions to Walmart). Some parents just never seem to be the parent and their kids are always getting the best of them. Bad parents should accept responsibility but they won't, that's why they are bad parents. Best thing you can do is sigh and move on with your life. Try not to be too judgemental, it doesn't matter how well-behaved your kids are, there are days (and they always seem to be days when you cannot put off going shopping or to the doctor)!!
2007-05-29 13:53:44 · answer #2 · answered by Momofthreeboys 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I could go on for days about this subject and bad parenting in general. I will never understand people who don't change or grow up when they have kids. If a person doesn't become a better person or try to be the best parent they possibly can be once they have kids, I don't think there is ever hope for them. Of course we are all human and make mistakes but there are some things that are inexcusable, especially after having kids. Having a child is the most precious, best gift in the world so any person that is that selffish is hopeless. Sad but completely true.
2007-05-29 13:56:37 · answer #3 · answered by Manda Panda 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I totally agree... as a mother to a two year old, I know that it doesn't really take that much effort to help a kid learn how to behave in public. In fact, that is our job as parents... to teach them how to behave in different social situations.
The other day I was in a restaurant and there was a young boy (around 2) who screamed at the top of his lungs through the entire meal. The parents went on letting him scream as they sat there and ate. You could even hear them talking (in between the screams) about how he just wasn't being very good and that no matter what they tried it just wasn't working. Well, they didn't try ANYTHING!!!!! It was so annoying to everyone around them.
That said, there have been a couple of times where my son had a meltdown in public too... but I didn't let it continue.
2007-05-29 13:57:25 · answer #4 · answered by Cathy K 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I agree, some parents just have no sense of what a well behaved child is. I don't get that at all. That's why our world is in the state it is, due to lack of parenthood. And in my opinion the parents get worse as the years go by. It's only going to get worse. Not saying that everything is bad because of it but a whole lot is due to the fact parents just don't care anymore, what does that show and teach the children today??
2007-05-29 13:55:01 · answer #5 · answered by Angel Eyes 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
How do you know that this is how the kids act all the time? How do you know the kids don't have some sort of problem?
Until YOUR kids are perfect angels, never get into trouble, never act out in public, you should just shut up and mind your own business.
2007-05-29 13:54:42 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Parents have the right to pass on whatever morals or values that they have to their kids. Yes, I'm sure they are pain in the asses, however being that they're not your kids, you don't have a right to tell anyone how to raise their kids.
2007-05-29 13:52:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
well i definitely don;t think it's my "god given" right to act however I want, i am an atheist, but i do think that it is my right to act the way I want and for my kids to act the way they want unless any of us are hurting another person or group of people. Which means no racial slurs or things like that. If my kids or I simply annoy you because of our personalties, then I say deal with it and move on. If either of my children or myself hurt you by calling you a name or disrespecting something of yours then i expect you to call us on it. Then I reserve the right to respond to you any way i want to.
2007-05-29 13:51:35 · answer #8 · answered by ? 6 · 5⤊ 1⤋
Bad parenting.
2007-05-29 13:52:09 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
I absolutely agree,,,and they should stop being invited to places where they clearly aggravate everyone,,maybe they'll take the hint.
2007-05-29 13:49:09 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 3⤋